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Ruchika Akhtar

In our daily life we avoid certain things just because it does not make sense to do it at a particular time/place etc. This is what is related to my discussion around the circle of control. Control on our actions.

When a child is below 5 years parents and elders try to create a circle so that the child is safe, for instance, do not touch electric gadgets, etc.

When he/she is between 5-15 years we tell them to balance their studies, sports and other social activities ...so that you score a certain percentage/grade in particular activities … this is another circle of control.

15-20 yrs is the age when we starts hating these circles for our own diffrent reasons...

But I am sure, most of us create our own circles by the time we reach 20-25 yrs of age and that’s the time we start connecting the broken ends of what we think (do) and what elders want us to think (do).

I believe that the circles we create for ourselves (as a grown up person) are much sensible and stronger than the ones created by others. We respect our own limitations, etiquettes and culture … a discussion with elders/parents add flavor to our wonderful recipe.

Please share your views.

smoothvibes

This is correct and these are different stages of life, apart from this there is one more thing, what we want and what we do to get it. I have seen all the circles said by you
Now elders can come and add much more knowledge in this thread

gothic_coder

That's really a nice topic..
Well i ain't older but i'm gonna put something here.. As far as my circle is concerned is actually balanced (According to me).. It might differ for my parents for my friends but eventually it's gonna be ME.. I guess once you maintain the balance and treat others in a way they want (of course with your concern) there won't be any problem

aashaka_gandhi

very well put i must say ruchika...!!!

i certainly agree on your point here .... ofcourse the circles tht we create for our own self is basically the way we want it to be n not by the ppl arnd .... maybe say parents & family specially.....

though i would say the bonding is very strong when we are a part of these circles by our choice....

smoothvibes

If i define my cicle then during my work hours my circle is limited to my work computer and my boss
after that in cafe coffee day my circle stays limited to me and my coffee (after warm hello to everyone in cafe)
after this once again me and my computer share our emotions and talks

Ruchika Akhtar

Dear this is a very small circle i would say ... i think u have the capacity to add a few other items like family, shopping, friends, etc ... its the salt i would add to ur circle

does it remind u something?

this is exactly what we as a society need to understand .. and explain to others as well!

aashaka_gandhi

well its always good to add up but than one shud make sure to b in contacts wid em....n not jus b there for the sake of it....tht is very imp.....

kirankumargb

nice thoughts ruchika... i also want to add a few of my thoughts

when we are very young say less than 10 yrs we really dont know anything about the world so we stick to the circle put by our elders...

form 10-20 we start analyzing the world around us and start adapting to it ex: when we were very young we would cry or do anything to get what we want but in 10-20 we start thinking logically and adapt to the conditions....

now is my interesting topic.... from 20+ now we know the world are have already adopted for the conditions.... and now we start creating our own circles but unfortunately our elders still treat us as a kid and still try to enforce their views on to us.... that we do not want to accept... they still give the reasons of THEIR time and ask us to adopt to that but they do not realize that the world is moving forward and we have to adopt for that......

even that implies to us also that when we have kids we should not pull the circles around them once they attain certain age where they can take care of themselves... who in the world want to spoil their lives by themselves..

i am trying convince my elders that time is changing and eve if we dont want we have to adjust to the current situation and put our circles according to that but yet i fail and still they say the same.....

Hope i wont do the same mistake when its my turn...

smoothvibes

Ya the day's when i was an emcee and use to stay out of city for shows and all

aashaka_gandhi

well ofcourse for our parents specially we ll always be kids.....i dont think so theres any harm.....but yes thy too shud understnd....!

maybe i can say i m lucky to ve set of really gr8 n best parents who understnd me n my lifestyle ....prolly thy were the same like wht i m in their times......the only thing matters to em is we shud not b hurt .....coz this is the age whrein therez lots of love , love failures, kids gng to diff tracks of life, betrayals....n lots more.....! so in all i wud say thy jus care for us...!

my parents ve always let me be wht i m n ve guided me wht is right n wron....though at times i ve learnt it from gng to wrong ways as well....so in all their experience too counts.....when it comes to knowing a person!!! as in our gen....we r more fast....n tht is the biggest reason for gettin hurt as we trust the other person in mere jus sum time.....

kirankumargb

i totally agree with you, this is the thing which i want ...! but most of the parents i have met not try to convince their children but try to impose their will on to them.... that i dont want ... yes the parents are much more experienced than children so i want them to convince the children not to try to force them... thats all......!