Thread: I am sorry Mom...

As I got up today, I felt the smell of fresh coffee. I woke up to see a cup of coffee with some biscuits kept at my bedside table. This reminded me of home. The old school and college days, when mumma used to wake me up by serving a steaming cup of coffee. The aroma, the taste, so refreshing, still so fresh in my memories.



A sudden thought hit me, “I was in bed, so who prepared this coffee for me? Is it a dream?” I pinched myself and that hurts, which meant I was not dreaming. I walked out of the room with the cup of coffee, in search of my roommate. I asked him whether he Prepared that for me, and the answer was YES.



I was relaxed but somehow my heart wanted him to say NO. A no because I wanted to be in a belief that my mom prepared it for me. The whole scene reminded me of mom, and I missed her at that moment. I got ready for the office and all set to leave.


On my way, I was thinking about those days, when mumma used to cook my every meal. All her possible ways by which she could stuff her daughter. I could not remember any single day when I slept without food. Maggi, chips, biscuits, all junk food was banned and I always cooked maggi when I was sure that mom was not around. But now, I no more enjoy cooking maggi for myself. Almost everyday I eat it, not because I like it, but because I am left with no other option at times.



This very thought brought tears to my eyes and I decided to call up mom. I reached office and gave mom a call. The first thing she asked was, “Is everything alright?”. I was speechless. And I thought, how the time has changed. When I was home with her, she used to nag me by calling after every hour when I was out with friends. In those days she never asked me what was wrong, as she knew that it was my habit even if I got home late and forgot to call. My call at this point of day to her, means that I am in trouble. Time has changed, she is still the same, its me who has changed. But I continued my conversation saying that I just called up to ask how she was, and how are things going on with her. And we continued our conversation...Then suddenly an ice-breaker came when she asked, “Don’t you have any work today?” I was shocked and asked her why she asked that, in reply to which she said, it was almost 30 minutes, I have been talking to her.



I hurriedly ended the conversation saying I have to attend a meeting. I lied to her and deep down I know, she knows that I lied to her but what else can I do? The lady with whom I used to have endless conversations, sleepless nights of gossips… has all ended. I am so occupied with my new life that I forgot to spend few hours with her.



I roll backed the time and thought of every single day that I have not spent with her. This made me realize that there was not a single day when I was busy, busy in a sense to neglect my mom. The lady who gave her whole life just for me, I could not even give her the time that she deserved. I remembered how I used to tell her about all my daily happenings and how I always failed to ask about her day. It left me all in tears. I missed her and missed her to core.



I was feeling ashamed, because it was a cup of coffee that made me realize her presence in my world.



We all are here, away from our family, living with our friends, who are our new family. We spend our lunch time with them gossiping about what’s going in and around, weekends, shopping with them and even festivals as most of us are staying too far from home.And when we call home, we are in a hurry to hang up as most of us are BUSY. Are we really that busy?



Think of the lady whom we have left back at home. She still misses her son/daughter at the dining table, although most of us enjoy our meals with our friends and colleagues. She still waits all day just to hear her son/daughter’s voice at the end of the day and we, we spend our time on phone with friends or girlfriend/boyfriend.



Is it really that we don’t have time or is it just we are too busy with our new life?



I apologize to all the mothers in this world and thank them for what we are today.....

You are right brother. Our family is the only thing that we really have for us forever in this world. Everything else is mortal, while love is not. Everyone else came into our life only after our father and mother had....
We started our life only because they were here in the world.

But, as the cobwebs of life and luxury start covering us, we are forced to forget and bury our relationships and memories under the deep roots of complacency.

As you had just said, when the past starts sprouting upon us, we (atleast some of us) feel really bad, and we might have developed ourselves into an inhuman self which feels hunger for money to be more important than hunger for love, by that time.

Like it's said by our old generation, a regretting mind might be the most truthful and loving mind in the world for that moment, even if lies cover any part of the past.

But, it is always better to act now than to regret later.

I would say that you call her when you reach home, and talk with her for sometime, and tell her everything you would be able to.

There is no one else in this world who could forgive us for everything.

This is not the story of individual, this is story of everyone who work outside their home, no-one is superior or more respectable but parents, this kind of things comes in everyone's mind but dhanesh made a good point that it's the cobwebs of life and luxury that covers us.. Hunger of money and success is something which refrain us to socialize (Even with parents also)... Whenever you go home initially you like it but eventually you get bored because of the lifestyle we adapted in college days.

I won't lie in this matter but when i was in college i rarely speaks to my parents (I've seen this thing in every guy(Almost)), but when i started earning i started to initiate calling them frequently(Almost every day, Though now i'm more busy than college life)..

This mail strike me deep inside and made me feel(Though it's in my heart) how our parent living without their kids...



P.S
I'm sorry if i'm getting too much emotional, but that's what i feel... If you're not in home do interact with them frequently and if you're in home(You're lucky) Enjoy every moment, Love each day...

There are ideas that do not lend themselves to words.......

and mother comes first in that list.

But this one is very close.

Originally Posted by gothic_coder

P.S
I'm sorry if i'm getting too much emotional, but that's what i feel... If you're not in home do interact with them frequently and if you're in home(You're lucky) Enjoy every moment, Love each day...

It is only for us she is away, for her, we live very much within her. I bet, not for a moment she would have felt we are away. We will understand this once we are parents. Yes, there are ideas that do not lend themselves to words.

this is a story of every person living away from home or even @ home n not spending enuf time wid their parents....!!!

prolly coffee made u realise about ur mom......but its both of the parents ......for me both mom n dad.....r very special......!!!

thnkfully i stay @ home since last 2.5 years .....n i ve jus been loving it....though @ times i shout on em or jus try to keep silent when thy call late @ nites or are a bit worried but yes i jus love tht.......

i now make it a point to spend time wid my parents every single day......i.e on dinner table......atleast for 3-4 days in a week....n than go out see frens or read a book or whteva......!!!! also......we go on holidays n spend time....me, mom, dad n my brother.....these small hols make me realise tht thy r de best....!!!!

talking to dad for hours togather or gossiping wid mom about the latest things happenings....is jus de best........specially over a freshly made s/w by dad, nice liquors after dinners always remind me wid sessions of endless talks wid my parents....., mom making some of my fav stuff n asking me every time to get up n learn cooking.....thnkfully now its me who teaches her to make desserts.......

i love celebrating their bdays & mothers day & fathers day in great style.......wid diff ideas.....

its jus de lovely feeeling.......i can jus go on n on.........

You just brought tears to my eyes

I miss her so much, almost since last year, i m staying away from her, i really miss her, i m really very attached to her. You know she is really a over caring mother, she never allowed me to go to any school trips just because she was afraid to send me away from her. I have never spent a single night at my any friend's place just because she never want's me to stay away.

i remember, once me and one of my close buddy, decided to take a room on rent so that we can concentrate on our studies, and we decide to come home once a month. We paid the rent in advance and guess what, on the very next morning after spending the night in the rented room, i went to my mom's office (in pajamas, without even taking bath) just to meet her, I told her, mom i really missed you, she hugged me there only and she cried, i can never forget that day.

And now, its almost an year that i m staying away from her.


BTW, repo added

Originally Posted by Manish

You just brought tears to my eyes

Same here bro... There's no match of care, love, affection she can give to you and what bother us is that we know everything but still we do very little when we're away from home... I don't know if this kind of behavior is natural or not, but it really eating us

Btw thanks for the rep...


@aashaka_gandhi..

Yes every single second spend with them is precious.. Damn i'm feeling nostalgic now...

The current market scenario is the major problem, which is not allowing us to buy our own house here in mohali, or sell our property in Delhi. Yesterday my mom dad were here to look out for some plots/houses, hope we buy one very soon.

Seriously... I just hope you guys buy soon...

P.S
This market scenario stopped me to go home in holi also , but going home in june..Hopefully

Originally Posted by gothic_coder

Seriously... I just hope you guys buy soon...

P.S
This market scenario stopped me to go home in holi also , but going home in june..Hopefully

Thanks, btw, you are from.....

Delhi and Kanpur... My bro works in delhi and my mom and dad visit frequently to his place.. So delhi is like second home to me and my mom dad lives in kanpur...

Delhi which place??

Gautam Nagar..Near AIIMS..

great, we stay in Malviya nagar, near AIIMS

Alrighty...May be we can meet whenever i come there..

gothic it was very emotional .. and same for all those who cannot spend time with parents

i started missing my mom from the day i got married and left my own home ... now thats my parent's home not mine ..

the day we got telephone connection (i think somewhere in early '90s) .. i don't remember a single day when my mom didn't gave us a call from her office in weekdays
and she calls me EVERYDAY since the day i got married, even if we are not in the same city/state/country .. that is the time (i think) she waits the whole day so that we can share our activities .. i just love my mom

and u just got a rep

Originally Posted by gothic_coder

Alrighty...May be we can meet whenever i come there..

its a deal brother

Originally Posted by gothic_coder

Gautam Nagar..Near AIIMS..

Originally Posted by Manish

great, we stay in Malviya nagar, near AIIMS

I live in Sadiq Nagar
(1 Km from Gautam Nagar and 2 Kms from Malviya Nagar)

Originally Posted by Ruchika Akhtar

gothic it was very emotional .. and same for all those who cannot spend time with parents

i started missing my mom from the day i got married and left my own home ... now thats my parent's home not mine ..

the day we got telephone connection (i think somewhere in early '90s) .. i don't remember a single day when my mom didn't gave us a call from her office in weekdays
and she calls me EVERYDAY since the day i got married, even if we are not in the same city/state/country .. that is the time (i think) she waits the whole day so that we can share our activities .. i just love my mom

and u just got a rep

Honestly yes, i know mom always calls you once in a day and gives me update about the same. Now mom never calls me in day time coz i sleep at that time but still most of the time mom calls me at night to ask about the day and "chutti kab hogi teri" and "khaana khaaya ki nahi"

When i went out of home for first time, mom use to call me atleast 3-4 times in a day to ask about food, health and if i need any money.

aashish you made my eyes wet mate. Repo for you

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

I live in Sadiq Nagar
(1 Km from Gautam Nagar and 2 Kms from Malviya Nagar)

you mean...near AIIMS

Originally Posted by Manish

you mean...near AIIMS

yes yes near AIIMS

Thats really touching story...! its the hard fact of life that some day we have to live with only memories.... Nobody in the world can replace mom's place...

Originally Posted by Ruchika Akhtar

gothic it was very emotional .. and same for all those who cannot spend time with parents

i started missing my mom from the day i got married and left my own home ... now thats my parent's home not mine ..

the day we got telephone connection (i think somewhere in early '90s) .. i don't remember a single day when my mom didn't gave us a call from her office in weekdays
and she calls me EVERYDAY since the day i got married, even if we are not in the same city/state/country .. that is the time (i think) she waits the whole day so that we can share our activities .. i just love my mom

and u just got a rep

Thanks for the Rep .... I know it's doesn't feel good to be apart from parents...

Originally Posted by Manish

its a deal brother

Done

Originally Posted by SmoothVibes

Honestly yes, i know mom always calls you once in a day and gives me update about the same. Now mom never calls me in day time coz i sleep at that time but still most of the time mom calls me at night to ask about the day and "chutti kab hogi teri" and "khaana khaaya ki nahi"

When i went out of home for first time, mom use to call me atleast 3-4 times in a day to ask about food, health and if i need any money.

aashish you made my eyes wet mate. Repo for you

Same here bro.. She always calls to know about me, what am i doing, Why i don't eat breakfast(I still don't like breakfast), Atleast milk pi liya karo, Ghar pahuche ki nahi....etcetera, etcetera.. Nothing can be replaced by mumma's love

Didn't received your repo.. , Might be you need to spread some huh

Originally Posted by kirankumargb

Thats really touching story...! its the hard fact of life that some day we have to live with only memories.... Nobody in the world can replace mom's place...

I second that brother

Originally Posted by gothic_coder

Didn't received your repo.. , Might be you need to spread some huh

There is no such restriction for mods.
By the way, I need to spread some.

Is it so?? Lol..Smoothie i haven't recieved

wow....everyones talking about their mom ....but i guess i ve a diff story....!!!!

obviously my moms been caring n loving but she has played an imp role in me being independent......

for me....my dad was always more emotional n caring n loving n wud share a lot more......!! my mom was more like a silent n strict person....whoz always wanting discipline & ettiquettes n manners.......in their kids.....!!!! she always argues wid my dad on me driving a two wheeler for 2 months when in coll, or sendin me to school on a bicycle or gng out wid frens.....she was de one who told me in my first week in college to bunk classes n taught me how to do proxies n how she did.....but there was always a condition.......to get a first class thru out....!!!!!

when i was about to go to uk for my further studies.....my parents came to actually check n see the uni, the accomodation, n my mom being a particular....wud every week get on a webcam n check tht my room is neat n clean n arranged n all......

i used to b always bugged n irritated wid this thing of hers but i cried the first time when my frens actually loved my room & were like u need help us clear our rooms n b a bit like u.....!!!! i called her there n than .....!!!

i also used to wonder always tht my parents neva called me every single day or after initial 2-3 months thy stopped calling me n used to call me in 2-3 weeks.......n once they didnt call me n i was like u guys forgot me.......? n thy were like no we did not jus tht wheneva we called u were in a hurry or u had to go out or to school......!!!! i was like damn it......!!!! later i managed to talk to em.....once in a week.....!!!!!!

but de best was my dad when missed me alot sometimes used to call me from office w/o tellin my mom or anyone in the family.......n we used to speak for hours n than mom wud scream on me .......when she came to kno about it....sayin both of u r crazy.......!

so its not only miss my mom but also daddy dearest!!!!! prolly for guys dadz r more strict ....but i ve a younger bro....n hez still more fond of my dad than mommy....!!!!!

n since the time i ve been back from UK.....thy ve been really sweet n nice n caring n understnding .....thn wht it was when i went....!