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Preeti_20

Its generally seen that in a married life the wife is the one who has to always compromise in the relationship, its never ending story for her, but this is not the case if the husband is understanding. But if he isn't then she has to change so much in her life, if she doesn't cooks something it isn't liked she has to change the way she cooks, if she talks too loud, she has to change the tone of her voice and it goes on and on.
But there is a limit to how much a person can change and compromise to! After all every person is different and an individual!

There are some men who change but very few and due to their ego they don't change!

smoothvibes

This is true preeti but as i always say and still saying that in married life females compromise a lot but the problem is still in women know, they should not treat themself like this na. First they need to respect themself to get respect.
If someone is doing wrong with you or trying to push you down then you need to raise your voice and need to say that.. You can not treat me like this but in our society females really don't do this and thats the only reason men rule like that

Preeti_20

Yes but its difficult for women to stand up for themselves!

smoothvibes

It should not be na... can you tell even a single point or reason why women needs to be down and can not stand for themselves

Preeti_20

I'm not saying that a women shouldn't speak up for her self, but what im saying is that when the man is so dominant it becomes difficult for the woman to speak up and defend herself, she needs a lot of courage, because the man uses his strength and power to be physically dominant too. I think another point to think is that the only place a woman generally goes is back to her parents, and some women think about their parents and stay quiet about everything so take it as it comes to them!

smoothvibes

it sounds like women choose to be quiet, if you really don't want to say anything against your husband or whatever then how come someone else can help... do remember gandhi was here long time back but not in country anymore.. so better idea for women is to speak up when they don't feel comfortable or good.
coz the person or man who is already treating women like **** he will not even think to stop himself till the time he gets a good lesson

bubble

I agree with you smoothvibes, women should not allow themselves to be dominated in a relationship, so that they feel they cannot speak out about how they are feeling, this can only lead to more misery, trust me I know. My hubby has made some sacrifices, as have I, to make our relationship work.

Alexina

so its the womens fault again huh, damn!

smoothvibes

so don't you think i am correct and there is something called self respect and everyone need to think about it too.
If a female is not respecting herself then don't you think her husband may treat her like shirt

Preeti_20

Yes there are women who respect themselves, but then they don't get that respect back instead their husband makes them feel crap and low.

Coming to compromises in the relationship, there are many girls who have to give up their ambitions in their life to lead a married life, for the man its different if he wants to do something he wont think twice and go and do it, where as the woman has to think so many times, ask the husband get his permission and if shes lucky and is able to pursue her dreams she can go forward. Otherwise she in the home and living a normal life.
Some men don't think that women have ambitions too, they want to do things, and the most important point when someone wants to do something they should do it and their partners should not tell them to do it later in 5 years time, because by that time their ambition would have died.