Thread: Holding onto the Past

Do you think that its good to hold on to the past in a relationship or move on with your life and thing of good things!

For example, if you relationship wasn't too good a few years ago but now it is, do you think the past should be remembered, should it be talked about to be clarified, or should it be forgotten?

evil begets evil.
Thou shalt not dwell upon old dump-trucks whilst heavenly flowerbeds lie ahead.
heh heh. but frankly u have hit upon a question i asked myself plenty of times.
and each time i would come up with one answer.
just move with the flow in a direction set by u. better to forget past troubles.they will only bring up bad feelings. have seen it happen.

Come on Preeti, u urself must know what u r asking... do u want to just keep on holding on to ur past miseries!?
Past, even if its good or its bad, will just bring u sadness in the present if remembered...

The best choice is to concentrate on building up ur present (and in turn ur future) and learning from ur past mistakes.

Yes it is always good to move on! The most sensible of people and experienced people will always suggest this to move on in life. If you hold onto the past it will practically haunt you in your current life and in the future, and by holding onto your past you wont be able to achieve any success or be happy.

As you hold on your past you will think about it day and night and that will affect your overall ability in life, how you talk, how you react to things, and your overall behavior.

So forget whatever has happened in the past (whether its fights you have had, difficult relationships, bad financial situation or any other bad things in life), and look towards a happier and bright future!

sometimes its really good to hold past as it can cherish your life with fun and loving moments.. may be for few minutes or for 2 nites but still it is something which can write history in leave a mark in your mind..

Past is something which can't be ignored by an individual altogether... You should not hold onto past to haunt your present life... but you should definitely reflect on your mistakes and try to make your future better...

i would recommend that you hold on to it, why ???
i order to make sure u know , feel , remember the difference 4 ever n ever
and also to make sure that it does not happen again.

Hey... u just proved wot u said... U held ur past and came back...

I missed u buddy... where were you?? hope to see ya around from now onwards...

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i missed u all tooo

but i m bak now !!

See I've raced past u in no. of post... and u were not here to congratulate me this time...

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btw- lets run away from this thread now... else somebody is gonna hurt real bad...

well i ll say definitely move on, but then thats easier on paper than in real life.
but its necessary to keep remindin yourself wat went wrong and the mistakes so that you can watch out for it later in life.

but theres no point in hurtin yourself thinkin of somethin that aldready hurt you. Once the damage is done pick up the pieces and go on.

Move On !
But dont forget the Past... That's what makes you a progressive human.
You've always got to pay back and take back !

Jo hua so acchha Hua.
Jo Ho Raha Hai Woh accha ho raha hai.
Jo Hoga So accha hoga.

Hey Manav... tu karm kiye Ja (Keep Moving) fal ki chinta mat kar.
-Bhagwat Gita

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

sometimes its really good to hold past as it can cherish your life with fun and loving moments.. may be for few minutes or for 2 nites but still it is something which can write history in leave a mark in your mind..

Definately......!!!! though ones past relationship wid nyone hasnt been in terms now.....but there r definately good times which one shud remember n i m sure it ll bring a smile on ur face thinking about it.....!!!!

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Past is something which can't be ignored by an individual altogether... You should not hold onto past to haunt your present life... but you should definitely reflect on your mistakes and try to make your future better...

Well yea any person who tells has moved on wid his life n forgotten his past wud b the biggest liar....!!! no one can forget their past n i wud say one shudnt so tht one can learn from the mistakes committed in the past...!!!!! Its very easy for ppl to tell tht move on wid ur life or i ve moved on wid my life...but acc to me....noone can...!!! yes they can strt a new life....considering the fact tht thy dont want to still stay in the past....n want to ve a good present n a beautiful future...!!!!!

Originally Posted by DZire

Move On !
But dont forget the Past... That's what makes you a progressive human.
You've always got to pay back and take back !

I like tht....n follow it soo much!!!!!! I wud say progressive n practical.....human!

I try to keep things simple by living in the present.
Holding onto the past is too painful, looking at the future gives headache. Thats why I live in the present.

mmmm yea as such plannin too much about future is also no point....as u neva kno whr life takes u....!!!! but yea shud always ve an outline.....tht how u want ur future to be shaped up....!!!

Agreed tht living in the present wud make u much happy than either living in past or thinking about future.....!!!

Originally Posted by sb21pro

i would recommend that you hold on to it, why ???
i order to make sure u know , feel , remember the difference 4 ever n ever
and also to make sure that it does not happen again.

But sometimes when you hold onto your past, it can really destroy you and it doesn't help you in life, as it pulls you back, doesn't give you confidence in anything and also makes you feel upset and depressed. Yes learn from your past but don't think or hold on to it, so that it gives you a big headache.

I agree that you cant move on, but sometimes when your life is going really well and you have a companion who makes your life absolutely wonderful for you, you don't think about the past or the bad things in life!

Living in the present has its awesome features. Since u are living happily and since what is present today shall be past tomorrow, u will always have a pleasant past to look upto.
As for shaping the future, its definitely a good idea. Wise people start it early, average ones do it in college life, and as for people like me :lol: well, we have not figured it out yet.
Maybe we do it when we are 60.

hmmmmm believe in living life in moments.....every moment has to be special....be it good, bad, sad, happy, ........!!!!!

as such shaping up future is not toally in our hands....its jus tht one can think about it......rest depends on GOD....but accepting things happily.....is the best thing one can do....!!!!!

i suppose there are only some things which we can plan and decide for the future and it should be that way, like Aashaka said things do depend on god, but sometimes you present doing reflect your future, which help in making your future better!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

But sometimes when you hold onto your past, it can really destroy you and it doesn't help you in life, as it pulls you back, doesn't give you confidence in anything and also makes you feel upset and depressed. Yes learn from your past but don't think or hold on to it, so that it gives you a big headache.

I agree that you cant move on, but sometimes when your life is going really well and you have a companion who makes your life absolutely wonderful for you, you don't think about the past or the bad things in life!

wel thats ur point of view madamji, for me the ones who cant walk with the burden are just weak and does not deserve to be in the league of elites.but then in todays world there are only a hand ful of people left in the world who live with pride and die with it as well. so wat the hell right? move onn!! make new mistakes and pay again and again

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

& aashaka > like Aashaka said things do depend on god, but sometimes you present doing reflect your future, which help in making your future better!

depend on god ....
dear god is righ here right now, if u think god helped u then ...
then i would say devils on my side, i ll show your god, wat god relly means.


@ all readers please dont take it personally , this is my point of view for the conncept only and not towards any person.

I never said anything about make new mistakes, and something wrong you done in the past doesn't necessary mean its burden, unless you have committed a murder or given grief or harm to anyone else! In my case i haven't done such thing, so therefore have no reason to hold onto the past, and for those who don't hold onto the past are not weak, in stead they are strong enough to move on, and its those kind of people who always keep a grudge against others!

Every single person in this world makes a mistake, no ones perfect and no one was born with all the knowledge in the world to know everything which is right and wrong! You make a mistake big or small, its natural!

You cant undo the past, you can learn from it, but why make your life a misery by thinking about it all the time!


There are a lot of people who believe in god, including me and i believe there is a god! Thats what i think!
What you think is your view, everyone has their own view points beliefs!

Originally Posted by sb21pro

wel thats ur point of view madamji, for me the ones who cant walk with the burden are just weak and does not deserve to be in the league of elites.but then in todays world there are only a hand ful of people left in the world who live with pride and die with it as well. so wat the hell right? move onn!! make new mistakes and pay again and again

would you kindly forward me the address to your club of elites :lol:,
secondly; if someone commits a murder , you are actually encouraging him/her to do it again and again and be proud of it.

I dont believe in god either, so u have got a pal in me there. but I can never condone your belief of holding onto the past buddy.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

I never said anything about make new mistakes, and something wrong you done in the past doesn't necessary mean its burden, unless you have committed a murder or given grief or harm to anyone else! In my case i haven't done such thing, so therefore have no reason to hold onto the past, and for those who don't hold onto the past are not weak, in stead they are strong enough to move on, and its those kind of people who always keep a grudge against others!

Every single person in this world makes a mistake, no ones perfect and no one was born with all the knowledge in the world to know everything which is right and wrong! You make a mistake big or small, its natural!

You cant undo the past, you can learn from it, but why make your life a misery by thinking about it all the time!


There are a lot of people who believe in god, including me and i believe there is a god! Thats what i think!
What you think is your view, everyone has their own view points beliefs!

like i said remember , not think abt it all the time. ok
and I M NOT TALKING ABT CRIMINALS In HERE!!

if you consider the ones who move onn are strong then you are correct.
just tell me where do these people liv anyway, be cause most people i meet - know are weak !!!

Originally Posted by Evander Leopold

would you kindly forward me the address to your club of elites :lol:,
secondly; if someone commits a murder , you are actually encouraging him/her to do it again and again and be proud of it.

HEY I M NOT TALKING ABT CRIMINAL RE- MADAMJI STARTED IT ASK HER..

I dont believe in god either, so u have got a pal in me there. but I can never condone your belief of holding onto the past buddy.

i ll send u the address when i find it :lol: