Thread: Joint Family Vs. Nucleus Family

Originally Posted by lovelyMe

ps - Vishnu, my dear friend, what happened to you raat-o-raat ???

I didn't get it. What you mean ? If you are talking about changing the User ID go to milans thread and find out.

that's cool.... probably u did'nt like every intelligent person knowing your name in the name threads

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Well i think both are ok joint and nuclear. They both have their advantages and disadvantages, therefore i have not voted, but have written my thoughts!

Living in a joint family is something that depends on how well you can get along with someone and how good the other person if with you and the others in the family. There are advantages of being in a joint family, which include the fact that there is less household expenditure, others can help out when in need.
The disadvantages which i see in a joint family are that you don't have as much privacy and their may be bickering in the house!

Living nuclear is also good as you get your own privacy, live life as you want without any problems. On the other hand the disadvantage is that when in need for urgent help its not easily there and the other main disadvantages household expenses increase.

Preeti has said what ever I wanted to say...Both has its advantages & disadvantages.In Joint Family its all about loving "living together".I am a part of a joint family.The members in my family are My dad & mom,my sis,my uncle (my dad's younger brother), my aunt, & my 2 cousins (bro & sis). Totally 8 of us.There has been no problem. Each of us has enjoyed being together...

As preeti was saying there is not much privacy in the joint family.Wanted to know what it means by privacy ?

Nuclear families offer peace of mind... whenever there will b an increase in family members, an increase in misunderstandings will follow,

a joint family will most probably give rise to many nuclear families sooner or later when members decide to leave because of petty fights now n again...

so why not just give every1 space and leave without first having to deal with these issues which gives way for rifts between relations?

You have a very valid point StarryKnight... Moreover the girl who comes in the family might not adjust with her in-laws... or vice-versa... Ego issues may arise on both sides... Whole lotta tension for the boy! lol

Ya the boy suffers a lot in such cases... hehe... who else will... and he gets in a very sticky situation cause of this all...

Nuclear families preserve relations... we shud all learn to have space and give space to others, no use sticking to each others and messing it all up finally..

That the same with my Uncle.

Originally Posted by Archer

That the same with my Uncle.

and we got proof... thx archer... better to be safe... its just too much complicated nowadays...

big joint families were a thing of the past when we were all simple...

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

and we got proof... thx archer... better to be safe... its just too much complicated nowadays...

big joint families were a thing of the past when we were all simple...

I will say it again in Red Bold Letters.

Joint Family might have been good, But it is not very effective for this present time.

and here comes my 300th post... a lot for me;

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

and here comes my 300th post... a lot for me;

Cool. Just one more post.

done already...

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

done already...

Started a thread for you. Congratulations the new SilverKnight!

Originally Posted by Archer

Started a thread for you. Congratulations the new SilverKnight!

i already posted in that thread m8... the third reply... check it out. n thx again...

Originally Posted by Archer

I will say it again in Bold.

Joint Family might have been good, But it is not very effective for this present time.

Thats not true, as there are educated and modern people who are fine living in a joint family and enjoying the fact of being in a joint family, so i can not agree with you on that. It may be that you are giving your experiences, but you got to remember its not always the same with everyone! With the working families it works out better to be in a joint family, so no one really gets in your way and you have your own time and space!

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

Nuclear families offer peace of mind... whenever there will b an increase in family members, an increase in misunderstandings will follow,

a joint family will most probably give rise to many nuclear families sooner or later when members decide to leave because of petty fights now n again...

so why not just give every1 space and leave without first having to deal with these issues which gives way for rifts between relations?

Its not necessary that there will be fights, misunderstandings happen in every relationship even if you live in a nuclear family, so it doesn't justify what you said! And when there is a joint family you automatically adjust and there are many people who are happy in their joint families, they have their own space, celebrate festivals together and have no problems. I can not say that they dont have arguments or anything, cause any family which doesn't is not normal then!

U shud know preeti that Issues are directly proportional to the no. of people around...

i am with Nuclear Family and i really support this idea till the time it is not causing any issues to your parents or grand parents.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Thats not true, as there are educated and modern people who are fine living in a joint family and enjoying the fact of being in a joint family, so i can not agree with you on that. It may be that you are giving your experiences, but you got to remember its not always the same with everyone! With the working families it works out better to be in a joint family, so no one really gets in your way and you have your own time and space!

Yeah! I already said it's my thoughts. I have seen arguments even in Nuclear Families about this subject (about living together with other members). Isn't it better to separate the family early than doing it after a fight. That's all I am saying. Family is family no matter where the live. And the more distant they live the more we like them. And family is just for show now a days. Why take a risk for something like this ?

BTW. RJ you have my repo for starting this thread.

+100 on that archer...

Thanks Archer... Seems everybody having fun here...lol.. I'm keeping an eye... with some comments from my side too...

As I said earlier... The joint family is ideal for the woman who wants to work as well as have a family... Working women have someone to leave their children with when they are away at work, rather than leaving their children in a creche or with servants... They can be assured that their children are being looked after by people who care for them almost as much as they do themselves... After all, as they say, "blood is thicker than water!"

Also, children need not have to go out of the home to seek companionship... They always have their cousins or to play with... Daughter inlaws of home can share family responsibilities and social duties... They take turns cooking, dropping the children to school and baby-sitting...

Not every family is a happy family even if its nuclear... What is most important is the atmosphere in a joint family... If there is a congenial atmosphere in a joint family, it can be a virtue...

What kind of family you live in. Nuclear Family or Joint Family?
I like to hear everyone answer if possible. I used to live in a Joined family system. Now I live in a Nuclear Family system. Just wanted to make sure everybody is on the same page here.

I live in Nuclear Family

My grandparents have always lived with us... but none other... if u call that a joint family... then, I'm still living in joint... My mother is a working woman... And she used to leave the responsibility of me n my bro at my grandparents when she was out to earn...

But there were times mum was really pissed off... Grandparents used to undermine mum's authority because they felt that they have more experience in raising children... They used to pass adverse remarks to mum in front of me n my bro like, "You don't know how to handle children" - As a result, mum felt suppressed, depressed and frustrated...She, in turn, took her frustration out on her own children...lol .. Those were funny days...

But now she doesn't regret... She says though it was torcherous sometimes... But shez really grateful to my Grandparents who took care of her children more than she could herself...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

My grandparents have always lived with us... but none other... if u call that a joint family... then, I'm still living in joint... My mother is a working woman... And she used to leave the responsibility of me n my bro at my grandparents when she was out to earn...

But there were times mum was really pissed off... Grandparents used to undermine mum's authority because they felt that they have more experience in raising children... They used to pass adverse remarks to mum in front of me n my bro like, "You don't know how to handle children" - As a result, mum felt suppressed, depressed and frustrated...She, in turn, took her frustration out on her own children...lol .. Those were funny days...

You call that funny.

Originally Posted by itsmemad

But now she doesn't regret... She says though it was torcherous sometimes... But shez really grateful to my Grandparents who took care of her children more than she could herself...

I am also grateful to my Grandma(my mother's mother) for taking care of me. That's one reason why I don't joined family. I mean seeing them suffering in the middle of everyone's family problem is simply painful.

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