Thread: Joint Family Vs. Nucleus Family

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

n they shud never post em online...

True.
But we can do nothing for something which already happened. Can we ?
Actually we can I am deleting my problems now.

now returnin back to topic, this is whats gonna happen if we are gonna live like a bunch (or spend a lot of time together), discussions and in turn issues.... jus like a silly joint family.

and for all the offtopic things come to Chaat Thread

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

now returnin back to topic, this is whats gonna happen if we are gonna live like a bunch (or spend a lot of time together), discussions and in turn issues.... jus like a silly joint family.

I never realized. This was a good example for joint family issues. Nice finding. We are really like a family now. Aren't we ? RJ/Mohi do you feels like changing your vote now ?

I think that those who think that joint families are not good to live in, have seen the wrong side to it, or are too young to know about it!

I'm not saying that nuclear families are bad to adapt, both nuclear and joint families have their good and bad points as i have said before.

But you have to see both sides of it and also refer to different opinions and experiences from people and not just go on what you have seen! As every person is different and they way families are handled is different, sometimes, well actually 90% of the time it all depends on the head of the family how they are!

Originally Posted by Archer

RJ/Mohi do you feels like changing your vote now ?

No Thanks...

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

I think that those who think that joint families are not good to live in, have seen the wrong side to it, or are too young to know about it!

I'm not saying that nuclear families are bad to adapt, both nuclear and joint families have their good and bad points as i have said before.

But you have to see both sides of it and also refer to different opinions and experiences from people and not just go on what you have seen! As every person is different and they way families are handled is different, sometimes, well actually 90% of the time it all depends on the head of the family how they are!

yes i understand that preeti but don't you think in nuclear families we get more space or you can say personal space apart from that you face less quarrels and stuff like that

may be i am wrong but still i think like that

Originally Posted by itsmemad

His eyes have become like that since couple of days... :lol:

since the time he became ARCHER he keeps one eye of his closed for aiming targets...

well i ll go for a nuclear family anytime, but if the need arises i dont mind being a bit flexible and including a few more members of the family for a while.
if its inevitable then yes i wont be stubborn.

but i personally think it can be hard for two people (married ppl) to get along without issues, so more ppl will only add to the confusion.

Originally Posted by Alexina

well ..... i dont mind being a bit flexible and including a few more members of the family for a while.
if its inevitable then yes i wont be stubborn.

Originally Posted by DZire

oh Dzire that doesnt mean i ll let my husband have a mistress, if thats the issue thats confusing you

wat i meant is if its inevitable and i shall agree to live with the parents (either side)
or let a single sibling stay along, but then again i prefer nuclear families anyday.

thanks Alexina for clarifying !!!
u know this cud have taken away nights of sleep out of sumone !!!!

I believe, its always good to have blessings of elders at home... Ofcourse few things like Generation gap will come into play... But doesn't that happening even now, when we are living our bachelor life with them? There are few more questions that will make us take wise decision after our marriage...

Why we r staying with our family right now?

Why we don't abandon our parents straight after reaching legal adult age?

Why to abandon them after marriage when they always stood by us?

Why do we need more space and privacy when they sacrificed all their space and privacy for us the day we were born?

They took happiness from our success, they were encouraging in our failure... Why to deprive them from that right after our marriage?

One of my friend parted ways with his girlfriend when she refused to stay with his family after marriage...

One of my friend who was in a live in relation with his gf at his parents (they r ultra kool) home... Left his parents just before his marriage recently... Just cuz girl was angry that his mum was worrying about her son's extravagant life-style... They cudn't even wait to marry 1st then separate...

In both cases LOVE won.... Only time will tell which one was for better...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

One of my friend parted ways with his girlfriend when she refused to stay with his family after marriage...

One of my friend who was in a live in relation with his gf at his parents (they r ultra kool) home... Left his parents just before his marriage recently... Just cuz girl was angry that his mum was worrying about her son's extravagant life-style... They cudn't even wait to marry 1st then separate...

In both cases LOVE won.... Only time will tell which one was for better...

1st case - Give him a Rep from me !!!

I guess in second case love lost..and not only love but relation, responsibility, sincerety everything lost. ... love of parents for their son was much older than that of GFs.... secondly (Take it too seriously) time will not tell which was for better....its death of a person which tells what life did the person lived !!! and after death, you cannot regret.

Originally Posted by DZire

I guess in second case love lost..and not only love but relation, responsibility, sincerety everything lost. ... love of parents for their son was much older than that of GFs.... secondly (Take it too seriously) time will not tell which was for better....its death of a person which tells what life did the person lived !!! and after death, you cannot regret.

Yeah... I think my friend lost everything he had in life that day... but I also believe that both love should have been equal to him... even if his GF was loving him since few yrs... Only problem is that his judgment tilted in her favor too soon without giving it a proper thought, without making it clear that he can't live with one love and abandon other... I do think if a girl can't accept his family, she won't accept his thoughts which he has inherited from his parents but has suppressed them for now...

And thats right... a person can't regret after death!

well one things for sure...
dont count on your own kids for a joint family..
so everyone better set aside some cash to go chill at some silent land wen they are really really old.

thats right... we sudn't hope that from kids... but will feel good if they live with us...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Yeah... I think my friend lost everything he had in life that day... but I also believe that both love should have been equal to him... even if his GF was loving him since few yrs... Only problem is that his judgment tilted in her favor too soon

Yeah i may agree that both love are equal if you conside love minus responsibility....
Parenting has its own associations too.

Mind got tilted just because the love for GF was more active than the love for Parents, which is quite dormant but not dead.

By the way what is infatuation ??? Is there a difference between Love and Infatuation ??

The difference between infatuation & love is huge... Infatuation is characterized by an unrealistic expectation of blissful passion without positive growth and development... Characterized by a lack of trust, lack of loyalty, lack of commitment, lack of reciprocity, an infatuation is not necessarily foreplay for a love scenario...

Most people are infatuated with their love partners to a certain degree... People who are in love think of their partners periodically when they are apart (some more than others)...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Characterized by a lack of trust, lack of loyalty, lack of commitment, lack of reciprocity, an infatuation is not necessarily foreplay for a love scenario...
...

Is it only love in waiting ??? What if this lack is removed... there's always an expectation for it.
Not a foreplay exactly but a ground definately.

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Most people are infatuated with their love partners to a certain degree...

I dont really see a difference now... there used to be times, yes.
Infatuation to love in a single smile / yes / reciprocity..

I beleive.. Love is never in Haste !! but infatuation is !!

>>Is it only love in waiting ???
Yes & No... It depends person to person...

>> What if this lack is removed...
If lack is removed then its all love...

>>Not a foreplay exactly but a ground definately.
I agree...

>>I beleive.. Love is never in Haste !! but infatuation is !!
Its better if Love isn't in haste... But love can just happen... In many cases it doesn't need reasoning...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Its better if Love isn't in haste... But love can just happen... In many cases it doesn't need reasoning...

Love cannot be in haste but surely needs reasoning...
You Can Only Love Something (Someone) You Like !!!
(Demand / DZire - Availability / Supply Scenario)

Originally Posted by DZire

You Can Only Love Something (Someone) You Like !!!

except when it is a love-hate relationship

No kids allowed here. Okay. I will watch from a distance then. :sad:

We went off-topic... good that the kid is back with his online family...