Thread: Joint Family Vs. Nucleus Family

In joint family, usually ego arises..
Everyone has to adjust with family.. But all of them think, the newly married girl has to accept everything, she shouldn't talk, etc...,

We can try to change them..
But watever u do, some people wont change..
That time, u hav to take a decision..

I have experience in joint family.
Instead of staying in joint family with quarrels, better to stay in a nuclear family with peace.
This is my suggestion..

Again it may vary from person to person..

There is a saying,
God cannot be eveywhere, so he created "Mother"
Devil cannot be everywhere, so he created "Mother-in-law"

Originally Posted by Guest

In joint family, usually ego arises..
Everyone has to adjust with family.. But all of them think, the newly married girl has to accept everything, she shouldn't talk, etc...,

We can try to change them..
But watever u do, some people wont change..
That time, u hav to take a decision..

I have experience in joint family.
Instead of staying in joint family with quarrels, better to stay in a nuclear family with peace.
This is my suggestion..

Again it may vary from person to person..

There is a saying,
God cannot be eveywhere, so he created "Mother"
Devil cannot be everywhere, so he created "Mother-in-law"

All mothers in law are not devils!!
It is strange that a woman who is a God to a man becomes a devil to his wife!!

Originally Posted by Kangaroo

All mothers in law are not devils!!
It is strange that a woman who is a God to a man becomes a devil to his wife!!

Yes. I already told, there are exceptions.
Very rare.
Usually mother-in-law will get ego.
Watever daughter-in-law does, she will always finds fault in it.

Nuclear family is the best.

Nuclear family... why?

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As I said earlier... The joint family is ideal for the woman who wants to work as well as have a family... Working women have SOME1 2 LEAV THEIR CHILDREN with when they are away at work, rather than leaving their children in a creche or with servants... They can be assured that their children are being looked after by people who care for them almost as much as they do themselves... After all, as they say, "blood is thicker than water!"

Also, children need not have to go out of the home to seek companionship... They always have their cousins or to play with... Daughter inlaws of home can SHARE FAMILY RESPONSIBILITIES N SOCIAL DUTIES... They take turns cooking, dropping the children to school and baby-sitting...
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hey there im sindhu...jus a passerby,im 16, ive been raised in a nuclear family n tht was ideal 4 us cuz my moms had differences wid my aunt n grandparents n she's t emotional drama type(no worries v stil visit vry often)...n shes a housewife but also helps dad wid business(u'v made a gud point bout it being CONVINIENT 2 liv wid mor family but workin moms can handle fine wid help from contributin husbands or arrangaments wid close-frnds havin kids)

honestly i wud hav liked livin in a joint family but i noe i wudnt b vry com4table...not much privacy n also i cudnt b myself completly in my own home n wud feel suppressed as i cant express my personal veiws 2 elders(traditional thinkin v/s modern) widout dem thinkin tht i speak only 2 contradict dem!!

the ideal siuation 4 me wud b a SEMI-JOINT FAMILY...lik separate home but livin really close by....i think dis wud solve al probs lik in-law diffrences, fights, handelling children, n still b close 2 family

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Yeah... I think my friend LOST EVERYTHING he had in life that day... but I also believe that both love should have been equal to him... even if his GF was loving him since few yrs... Only problem is that his judgment tilted in her favor too soon without giving it a proper thought, without making it clear that he can't live with one love and abandon other... I do think if a GIRL CAN'T ACCEPT his family, she won't accept his thoughts which he has inherited from his parents but has suppressed them for now...

And thats right... a person can't regret after death!

y is it tht al of u blame UR DILEMMA of livin in a joint family or nuclear on basis tht EVERYTHIN WIL DEPEND ON HOW T WIFE WIL B WID IN'LAWS???
or tht SHE DOESNT WANT 2 LIV WID HUSBANDS PARENTS???
t wife is goin out of her way 2 liv wid practically strangers 2 respect her husband wen he doesnt even consider LIVIN WID HER FAMILY???

4 ALL U GUYS OUT DER-1st ask urselves wud u go n wid wid ur patners parents 4ever???


oh n F.Y.I living in a nuclear family doesnt mean tht ur ABANDONIN UR PARENTS!!!! n IN MOST CASES livin in a joint family means ur forcin ur wife 2 abandon hers

^^ it also depends upon the culture that you come from...

if you are raised in an advanced family you will never get troubles like that... joint families are a boon not just to woman but also to the kids and everyone else.. kids are brought up normal, they can see their grandparents and so the grands will do in their late days.
similary the kids will be afraid of doing the wrong things in front of them(atleast feel ashamed)..

woman gets easy when she feels more secure as there are many people to protect her and not just husband.. now if she is not feeling safe in a family of his brother - in - law and papa-in-law, she must not feel safe anywhere..

kids will get more of brothers and sisters to play with.. that will make them more active if they are single children of their parents.. i can bet that a boy from Mumbai or Bangalore who lives in his "nucleus" at a place somewhere there in the 20th floor will be less active than a kid from a joint/ "atom" family... they can do much chutter putter..



its also about necessity sometimes,. some people will have to leave their parents in home because to find some job in an outside city and thats what keeps the laying stone of a nuclear family or maybe some inbuilt family tensions may arise.. but thats all i think is an abnormal situation..


in short.. if you have your own "gang" its much better than paid ones..

and now a quiz... since the thread starter picked the word "Nucleus" for nuclear.. i have this question from Science , "Atom Structure" that my elder brother just asked me some days off now..


Which is the Father-son duo to have won nobles for their atomic structure theories..

the father has won for his thoery, while the son gave antithesis on his own father's theory and has won noble...
take time, and please dont look onto google and map here.. _i_