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itsmemad

Yes, there is no issue in being in the same room with nothing on mind... Its just that one can manipulate sleeping arrangements u know...

Its no big deal... many of my friends have experimented with it too... atleast 5-6 cases that I know... but I've never witnessed that one night stand or few more, culminating in a serious relationship ever... even if it does in other friend-circles... I'm sure the probability of that one-night becoming success is very low...

So I just don't want to land myself in a situation where I can hope that sex will bring that female friend in my life as a partner...

StarK

The point is that u can get into such a situation only if u both decided to experiment... or u were too drunk to know what u r doing ...

in either case both people shud just get a reality check what all was good, what all was bad, can it continue, shud it continue, is there a future? And if they think it might turn out into something like a relationship and it can work out then they can engage in something like that or take a chill pill and remain frenz as usual...

i personally wud b able to continue being good frenz with the person, maybe even better but i know i won't be in such a situation ever

smoothvibes

same here starry i agree with you, even i'll be able to continue being good frnd with the person and sure even better

i am sorry maddy but its nothing like that, trust me i have slept with number of my female friends but its something which don't happen like that, its nothing like you need to make out at nite if you are with a girl or if you are drunk. I have seen so many nites with girls or with a single girl too where both of us were 100% drunk or high with some good stuff but never tried to make out even if we are sleeping together in a same blanket. I think its only indian mentality that if a girl and boy are together at nite it means they are making out or something but in real terms it is not true.
If a girl or boy really want to feel those vibes or want to get involved in any physical relation then day or nite hardly makes any difference then only thing which matters is your mind and the feelings for that person.
this is true aashaka, it all depends on feelings and time when it clicks

internet_guy

it depends on the feelings & physical attraction

in india mostly friendship doesnt go physical

icrave4knowledge

hmmm...

smoothvibes

what do you mean by this hmmmmm are you trying to acknowledge or something
still we cannot see your comments on this topic

itsmemad

Well, what I'm suggesting here is for precaution... Why to take a chance? Opposite sex always attracts... doesn't matter if its outside India or in India... So why r u blaming the Indian mentality? Its good that u have maintained your virginity so far despite sleeping with lot of females friends... But thats a rare thing dude... U deserve kudos...

And my answer to thread question is still yes...

icrave4knowledge

i agree completely with you smoothie.. sleeping in the same blanket, being drunk or high has got nothing to do with your having sex with a person. You have it when you want it (without accepting or not accepting it ). Some people take being drunk or high as a an excuse as a slimy cover up for their intentions.which is highly uncool. if you want to give yourself away to someone you should have the balls to acknowledging it and owing up to it!

Friendship can survive sex...?? not sure... something somewhere gets lost and a metamorphosis happens..good /bad, no clue but something happens which can be managed if both the parties are mature enough!

smoothvibes

I understand what you said maddy and trust me i am not against your comments but its like i can not digest some of the comments thats it

this is true and i have something to add here, may be f**ckin can make you a man but keeping control on mind makes you a complete man
we need to choose that what we need and what we don't

maddy mast bola na mai

itsmemad

mast bola bhai...
A complete man like in raymonds...

smoothvibes

I think it can survive without any issues and the only thing which matters is matureness level, understanding and willingness to understand

icrave4knowledge

i agree completely!

smoothvibes

thanks girl

aashaka_gandhi

yea......well said....! totally agree wid u.....

MADZ even i cant take sum of ur thoughts on it....but again its ur own personal view point......so i respect that as well......

its really nice to c all u guys being free minded ......n hopefully shall remain soo wid ur own girl.....as welll!!!!! coz when it comes to ur own girl.....the situation turns up different.....so stick to wht u ve told.......

itsmemad

Well, no need to tell me that... lol.. One of the reasons I don't go under the blanket with any friend is just cuz of that...

aashaka_gandhi

got ur point.......!!!!! keep up than....!!!!

smoothvibes

thanks for compliment and trust me i am like that only, i really love freedom and want everyone to enjoy that
Honestly tomorrow if my wife want to go out for a party with friends or anything like that, i am sure i will not stop her and in fact if she says that ok i went on a date with someone then also i will not mind that and will simply say one thing that its your life and you are smart enough to decide what is good for you and what is not, do enjoy your life to fullest and make your all dreams true but remember about the worst parts too which one may need to face
I remember one more thing here: dream is not what you see while sleeping, dream is something which never lets you sleep

StarK

well smoothie... i see u r really smooth with things ... but a wife wanting to go on a date just means the end of the relationship for me.

smoothvibes

no starry its not like ending a relation bro. its just like she want to go out and looking for something new in life thats it, ok look what if you go out with a girl on date or something like that or you call a girl for a drink one nite. Do you think your wife should leave you for this or she will give you dirovce or something or she will end up the relation then and there only. Its not like that mate there are so many things which we need to understand and i mean deeply understand.
Just think it in other way if you go out with a girl for a drink or date and your wife comes to know about it, may be she will feel bad but she will not disconnect and if she comes to know about it then you will try to make her understand that its not wrong or you did nothing wrong like that so if you do and its not a big deal then the game rules should be same for everyone know

this is the main problem of our society that boys and girls don't have equal status, parents can allow boys to go out and stay out for whole nite or they are happy to send son in a new place anytime but that is not same for girls na.

If you really want to play then better to play with the equal rules and same status.
may be i sound strange and stupid but thats how i think

StarK

aah so u mean a normal date like meet ups... thats perfectly fine... hehe... i too think that a person will definitely get bored of just seeing the face of one person over n over again...

u can say too much of watchin FRIENDS... lol... they have successful 'dates' if they have sex... so the first thing that got to my mind was an extra marital affair like situation ...

i totally agree both the people shud uinderstand each others needs... just puttig urself to the front is a turnoff