Thread: Can friendship survive sex?

You have an amazing buddy with whom you love hanging out and feel perfectly comfortable with. You just love his/her company and would never want to give up on this friendship, but one fine morning when you wake up, you find him/her sleeping right next to you.

It may not be intentional...but the line has been crossed. So what happens now? Do you go ahead and enter into a relationship with your friend? Or are you too embarrassed to be able to continue being 'friends'?

Pour in your comments....

Originally Posted by Rameshjeee

You have an amazing buddy with whom you love hanging out and feel perfectly comfortable with. You just love his/her company and would never want to give up on this friendship, but one fine morning when you wake up, you find him/her sleeping right next to you(1)

It may not be intentional...but the line has been crossed. (2)So what happens now? (3)Do you go ahead and enter into a relationship with your friend? (4)Or are you too embarrassed to be able to continue being 'friends'?

Pour in your comments....

(1) This happens a lot, the question is did anything happen before the sleep

(2) I think brushing of teeth happens now

(3) Sometimes

(4) No

-F

Originally Posted by farce

(1) This happens a lot, the question is did anything happen before the sleep

(2) I think brushing of teeth happens now

(3) Sometimes

(4) No

-F

I m voting this post for Reply-o-the-week........WoW, what an answer :lol::lol::lol:

I have a question

Why did RameshJee who never posts in the relationship section get this doubt ???

good point shadow......

why Rameshjee, whats cookin ?????? :lol:

did anything really happen before falling asleep...

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

I have a question

Why did RameshJee who never posts in the relationship section get this doubt ???

I was reading through an article (about friendship,love,sex) today.So I thought let me post a thread on this "Can friendship survive sex?"
As Evander thinks,there's nothing. To be honest, I never had any female friend.

Can friendship survive sex?
I am pretty much clear on my views (i don't have any doubt), that first of all it should not have happened.& now as it has happened.The relationship (friendship) should move to the next level (love). But now a days it has become common.People forget things & move ahead.

The reason why I never posted much in the relationship's thread is the some of the things I have never experienced in my life like:
Teacher crushes!
Ex-love: U learnt anything from that Relation?

& in the other threads I have left my views.Its not that I am completely new to this thread.I just post my views (1 or 2 posts) not more than that.
These threads (in relationship) we can keep on posting,there's no end.

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

I have a question
Why did RameshJee who never posts in the relationship section get this doubt ???

Originally Posted by Evander Leopold

good point shadow......
why Rameshjee, whats cookin ?????? :lol:
did anything really happen before falling asleep...

Wasn't expecting such comments.
I will think twice when I start a thread next time.
(I dint want to express what I felt,but could not stop myself)

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

I have a question

Why did RameshJee who never posts in the relationship section get this doubt ???

:lol: :lol::50:

dude point !!!:thumbup1:

@ Rameshjeee

those comments were meant to be funny and not-offensive ,Rameshjeee. dont know about shadow, but I have been black-listed as inhuman-nazi-chauvinist-bastard by many :lol:.
so dont take my comments at face value. and please dont stop posting in rela... pages dude.

PS : dont ever think twice

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

I have a question

Why did RameshJee who never posts in the relationship section get this doubt ???

Originally Posted by Rameshjeee

Wasn't expecting such comments.
I will think twice when I start a thread next time.
(I dint want to express what I felt,but could not stop myself)

You took it seriously :47:

Did nt u see this --> <-- in my post

I think yes Friendship can survive sex, if this thing just hppnd/ happens without any cruel intentions and if it came in picture with all emotions then its allright and friendship can survive without any issues, i know some people will not agree with me here but trust me, just imagine if you are sitting with a friend and you get some feeling for him/her n just let them go on then there is no harm in this, its all about your wish and need.

Every human needs a touch and feel, now don't tell me that you never feel this or something. In this case you are just feeling it for/ with a friend thats it.

agree with smoothie..... If friendship (only wid opposite sex ) crosses the stage , there ought to be something more required between them...
I mean if sex happens in good friendship..... its agreed and can survive as both the Parties need that.

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

I think yes Friendship can survive sex, if this thing just hppnd/ happens without any cruel intentions and if it came in picture with all emotions then its allright and friendship can survive without any issues, i know some people will not agree with me here but trust me, just imagine if you are sitting with a friend and you get some feeling for him/her n just let them go on then there is no harm in this, its all about your wish and need.

Every human needs a touch and feel, now don't tell me that you never feel this or something. In this case you are just feeling it for/ with a friend thats it.

A very good thread must say.....!

yep i agree wid u.....!!!!

Everyone knos about frenship....n sex....well its a supernatural thing....which every human needs.....

My saying on Can frenship survive sex...? wud be definately a yes.....!

i mean y not....? when its frenship....there is always some emotion, sentiments n attachments so if intentionally or unintentionally....had sex...isnt a big deal....! n its like a practical world.....jus speak out the feelings once u ve found out......cant b embarresed.....n not meet ur fren all ur life....!!!!! if theres a scope of relationship or love...be it.....best thing.....but if its only frenship....than be frens......!!!!!!

thts my take on it......!

thanks for support

but i think it is not a bad thing if it comes with emotions or something, i am still waiting for some more members to post on this topic, elders please say something

Call me old fashioned, but I have to be in a relationship of some substance before I engage in sexual intimacy with someone... and at the foundation of that relationship is some kind of trust and friendship... So I suppose a more crude way of saying that is I can only have sex with real good friends... lol

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I can only have sex with real good friends... lol

its not like that maddy, thing which we are talking is totally different.

I know what you people are talking about... and yes, friendship can survive sex... no doubt...
but we should try to avoid such things from happening in 1st place, if we know it very well that therez no future together...

and I follow it religiously... I've many female friends in mumbai... who when come down to Pune to meet me and some other friends... I make it a point that no female is sleeping next to me... lol.. Its better to shut all the doors, if u know that therez no light outside...

LOL :lol:

maddy i am not saying that mate but i am saying that if this happens and in fact thats what we are discussing that what if this happens and can friendship survive sex

I already answered that short n sweet... yes..

i got that bro

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I know what you people are talking about... and yes, friendship can survive sex... no doubt...
but we should try to avoid such things from happening in 1st place, if we know it very well that therez no future together...

and I follow it religiously... I've many female friends in mumbai... who when come down to Pune to meet me and some other friends... I make it a point that no female is sleeping next to me... lol.. Its better to shut all the doors, if u know that therez no light outside...

well whts da issue being in the same room when u dont ve nything on ur mind?? pls clarify dis madz....

common its no big deal now....till the time u ve a free mind set.....

well u neva kno....about the future......u meet a stanger n get married to him/her or u kno a fren since ages n than all of a sudden u get da feeling n get married.....so it all depends....when it clicks.......u c!

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

well whts da issue being in the same room when u dont ve nything on ur mind?? pls clarify dis madz....

common its no big deal now....till the time u ve a free mind set.....

well u neva kno....about the future......u meet a stanger n get married to him/her or u kno a fren since ages n than all of a sudden u get da feeling n get married.....so it all depends....when it clicks.......u c!

Yes, there is no issue in being in the same room with nothing on mind... Its just that one can manipulate sleeping arrangements u know...

Its no big deal... many of my friends have experimented with it too... atleast 5-6 cases that I know... but I've never witnessed that one night stand or few more, culminating in a serious relationship ever... even if it does in other friend-circles... I'm sure the probability of that one-night becoming success is very low...

So I just don't want to land myself in a situation where I can hope that sex will bring that female friend in my life as a partner...

The point is that u can get into such a situation only if u both decided to experiment... or u were too drunk to know what u r doing ...

in either case both people shud just get a reality check what all was good, what all was bad, can it continue, shud it continue, is there a future? And if they think it might turn out into something like a relationship and it can work out then they can engage in something like that or take a chill pill and remain frenz as usual...

i personally wud b able to continue being good frenz with the person, maybe even better but i know i won't be in such a situation ever

Originally Posted by StarryKnight

i personally wud b able to continue being good frenz with the person, maybe even better

same here starry i agree with you, even i'll be able to continue being good frnd with the person and sure even better

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Yes, there is no issue in being in the same room with nothing on mind... Its just that one can manipulate sleeping arrangements u know...

i am sorry maddy but its nothing like that, trust me i have slept with number of my female friends but its something which don't happen like that, its nothing like you need to make out at nite if you are with a girl or if you are drunk. I have seen so many nites with girls or with a single girl too where both of us were 100% drunk or high with some good stuff but never tried to make out even if we are sleeping together in a same blanket. I think its only indian mentality that if a girl and boy are together at nite it means they are making out or something but in real terms it is not true.
If a girl or boy really want to feel those vibes or want to get involved in any physical relation then day or nite hardly makes any difference then only thing which matters is your mind and the feelings for that person.

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

well u neva kno....about the future......u meet a stanger n get married to him/her or u kno a fren since ages n than all of a sudden u get da feeling n get married.....so it all depends....when it clicks.......u c!

this is true aashaka, it all depends on feelings and time when it clicks

it depends on the feelings & physical attraction

in india mostly friendship doesnt go physical

hmmm...