What I am going to write about husband and wife discussions is something which I have seen myself happen and heard from a few of my married friends, its nothing against men or women just examples and the way things are in a husband and wife relationship, which may help both a wife and husband to understand each other better.
In a husband and wife relationship the wife trying or wanting to discuss something with the husband can be a difficult thing to do, and there are many reasons for this. Majority of the time the husband thinks that whatever the wife wants to discuss is a waste of time and full of nonsense, sometimes the husband is doing something too busy and doesn’t have time, other times the husband is not in the mood to talk. But when the husband wants to talk to the wife about something it should be all ear wide open and full attention no matter what she is doing, this whole situation makes the wife feel like someone with out any feelings, and that she is there for her husbands problems to be listened to and to take any crap the husband has been to throughout the day. The least a husband can do is be nice to his wife, I mean why take the days anger or stress out on the wife, when she is the one who cares about the husband the most and after leaving her family and friends she is living with you!
To help this situation there are some wives who charge at the husband everyday with problems between her and her in laws, instead of saying everything to him as soon as he comes from work, let him relax have his dinner and talk at night. Spending time together is very important, it gives both husband and wife to talk their feelings, problems and anything else, at night before going to sleep is a very good idea, as there are no disturbances and both husband and wife are free of their household things and work.
Another problem which arises in a husband and wife relationship is the male ego, and this is a very common thing, and a majority of men show this even to their wives, whether little or big they still show it, and this is something which affects the relationship in a major way. Believe it or not it affects the love between the two, creates misunderstandings and makes the wife and husband feel distant at times. When the male ego comes in between a husband and wife it makes the wife feel very low, makes her self esteem low and she loses confidence at times too. So men if you want to show your male ego try not to with the wife, although some people have seen their fathers that way so they kind of inherit that habit or think its right to be like that, but its not!
Every couple has a fight that doesn’t? If there are couples who don’t fight at all I wouldn’t call them normal! But when a husband and wife have a fight just remember that the fight is between them, husbands should not involve his parents and the wife should not involve her parents, unless the problem is something very major and it will end the relationship. Men should not raise their voices to their wives and show their strength, as in some cases when the husband raises his voice, the wife cant take it so she does, that aggravates the husband and he gets even more annoyed as the wife has risen her voice which the husband doesn’t like, but husbands try being equal to your wives, wives have as much right as men do.
A common problem in fights in a husband wife relationship is that the husband always taunts the wife about her parents, which is very bad, no matter how bad ones parents are their children love them as they are parents and more over it makes the wife feel as if she isn’t in the family and is an outsider. No one likes anyone talking bad about their parents no matter who it is!
Remember be equal and treat each other with respect and love, because at the end of your life its only going to be a husband who is for the wife and a wife who is for the husband!