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    What I am going to write about husband and wife discussions is something which I have seen myself happen and heard from a few of my married friends, its nothing against men or women just examples and the way things are in a husband and wife relationship, which may help both a wife and husband to understand each other better.

    In a husband and wife relationship the wife trying or wanting to discuss something with the husband can be a difficult thing to do, and there are many reasons for this. Majority of the time the husband thinks that whatever the wife wants to discuss is a waste of time and full of nonsense, sometimes the husband is doing something too busy and doesn’t have time, other times the husband is not in the mood to talk. But when the husband wants to talk to the wife about something it should be all ear wide open and full attention no matter what she is doing, this whole situation makes the wife feel like someone with out any feelings, and that she is there for her husbands problems to be listened to and to take any crap the husband has been to throughout the day. The least a husband can do is be nice to his wife, I mean why take the days anger or stress out on the wife, when she is the one who cares about the husband the most and after leaving her family and friends she is living with you!
    To help this situation there are some wives who charge at the husband everyday with problems between her and her in laws, instead of saying everything to him as soon as he comes from work, let him relax have his dinner and talk at night. Spending time together is very important, it gives both husband and wife to talk their feelings, problems and anything else, at night before going to sleep is a very good idea, as there are no disturbances and both husband and wife are free of their household things and work.

    Another problem which arises in a husband and wife relationship is the male ego, and this is a very common thing, and a majority of men show this even to their wives, whether little or big they still show it, and this is something which affects the relationship in a major way. Believe it or not it affects the love between the two, creates misunderstandings and makes the wife and husband feel distant at times. When the male ego comes in between a husband and wife it makes the wife feel very low, makes her self esteem low and she loses confidence at times too. So men if you want to show your male ego try not to with the wife, although some people have seen their fathers that way so they kind of inherit that habit or think its right to be like that, but its not!

    Every couple has a fight that doesn’t? If there are couples who don’t fight at all I wouldn’t call them normal! But when a husband and wife have a fight just remember that the fight is between them, husbands should not involve his parents and the wife should not involve her parents, unless the problem is something very major and it will end the relationship. Men should not raise their voices to their wives and show their strength, as in some cases when the husband raises his voice, the wife cant take it so she does, that aggravates the husband and he gets even more annoyed as the wife has risen her voice which the husband doesn’t like, but husbands try being equal to your wives, wives have as much right as men do.
    A common problem in fights in a husband wife relationship is that the husband always taunts the wife about her parents, which is very bad, no matter how bad ones parents are their children love them as they are parents and more over it makes the wife feel as if she isn’t in the family and is an outsider. No one likes anyone talking bad about their parents no matter who it is!

    Remember be equal and treat each other with respect and love, because at the end of your life its only going to be a husband who is for the wife and a wife who is for the husband!

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    seems sort of one sided to me ;-) mostly husband bashing I see.
    and if I may make an onservation, this is a recurring theme in your
    relationship posts. what's the reason?

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    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    seems sort of one sided to me ;-) mostly husband bashing I see.
    and if I may make an observation, this is a recurring theme in your
    relationship posts. what's the reason?

    -F
    Ditto. I was thinking the same thing.

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    Its not reoccurring, there are different sides to a relationship, and this is based on arguments and understanding. It was a recent thing that a friend told me, and i had a lot to write on it so I did!

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    i agree that it sounds like male bashing but don't you think farce that whatever she said is true to some extend and people do this in our society.
    I am not married :no: so don't have proper or practical knowledge about this relation

    -A
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    Its not entirely one sided, i have mentioned something about women too!

    I think smoothvibes is currently the only one is is admitting to something which is true, where as others are not.

    I'm not saying any of you guys are like that, but there is a majority, i dont know if any of you guys have married friends or not or if you have any of them are girls, if you have friends as in girls then you would know, if not then its difficult to know a lot about the matter.

    I'm not bashing the male, I've got nothing against males, as i have male friends! And i have no reason to make up things, whether you like it or not i don't know, but its something which many women go through, and being a women i can point this out!
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    Quote Originally Posted by smoothvibes View Post
    i agree that it sounds like male bashing but don't you think farce that whatever she said is true to some extend and people do this in our society.
    I am not married :no so don't have proper or practical knowledge about this relation

    -A
    you are right. these things happen. but this is not the only thing that
    happens. to have a balanced view we should provide both scenarios
    especially in the light of the heading 'Husband and Wife understanding'

    -F

    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post

    I think smoothvibes is currently the only one is is admitting to something which is true, where as others are not.

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    Preeti, I never said what you said was untrue. Like they say in courts there
    is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I think you got 1 and
    3 but not 2.

    let me give you some anecdotal evidence. I think I know about
    30 or 40 married couples, who are friends, siblings, cousins, relatives.
    of those I can say about 3-4 husbands are like what you describe and
    there are about 4-5 of the wives who are like that too.

    -F
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    Preeti whatever you said here is all a woman's perspective and you heard from your friends who were all probbably females... The problem is that females are genrally a lot more attention seekers as compared to males and if you keep trying to get attention from your husband there will be a point when the guy is gonna ask you to talk to the hand and then people like you come here and moan about guys being unattentive towards your bullshit.


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    Excuse me but I didn't say it happened to me, as im not even married!

    So why is it that when a guy wants to talk he wants full attention, and a total standstill, and then if the women hasn't heard him, he moans saying that she doesn't listen and talk to him!

    Are you saying that a wife can also say to her husband talk to the hand when the same situation arises!

    Im not being one sided, and i know there are a lot of women who throw their weight around in a married relationship, but non of my male friends have every complained about this to me, so therefore i can not say anything in particular, but i do agree that their are women who make a man's life hectic and full of problems. But in some cases a women wants to show she cares and the husband takes it the other way round.

    For example a friend of mine really cares for her husband more than anyone else in the world, but her husband just complains that she doesn't care for him or love him! I mean what should she do then?????

    Why do you men take it personally?
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    You havent had any firsthand experience about what you said and you got this information from friends who are married.... I dont know if you have an idea that most women moan about their husbands infront of their female friends... its a female thing and I guess your friends are no different from other females.

    Hence proved... its all bullshit.

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    Not all women talk about their husbands, yes they do talk but they don't complain. What women talk about men take it as complaining and thats where understanding is needed, and as far as i know some men also complain about their wives, you cant not deny that now!

    And when someone says bullshit it normally means that whatever is said or done its a lie, which it isn't in this case, unless you have a different meaning of bullshit!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Admin View Post
    You havent had any firsthand experience about what you said and you got this information from friends who are married.... I dont know if you have an idea that most women moan about their husbands infront of their female friends... its a female thing and I guess your friends are no different from other females.

    Hence proved... its all bullshit.
    My husband is both caring and an MCP Say about 70%caring and the other 30MCP. This is my personal experience and I am amiddle aged lady with two grown up sons . I always tell that I am missing not to have a daughter.
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    Whats MCP?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    Whats MCP?
    Microsoft Certified Professional.

    I've a feeling that this thread can win...

    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    Whats MCP?
    I just recalled... Few of my cousin bros got this compliment from my cousin sis...

    MCP--->> Male Chauvinist Pig... :lol:

    And I must admit few men are like that... I've around 8 cousin brothers... And 3 of them already got this compliment... all are unmarried... wonder what will happen to their wives...
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    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    I've a feeling that this thread can win...
    may god grant your wish!

    Again i got to point this out to people, im not say all men are the same but there is a majority who do not understand their wives and not all women are the same but there is a majority who don't understand their relationship with their spouse!

    I have given examples from a female friend, im sure if i got a response or example from a male friend i would have given it to you!

    I don't understand why some people on the forum take me wrong and think im sexist, when im not!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post

    I have given examples from a female friend, im sure if i got a response or example from a male friend i would have given it to you!

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    Therein lies the problem. It is more likely that a woman talks to another
    woman about her husband being dominating than a husband talking to
    another woman about his wife being dominating.

    All I am saying is your perspective is one sided and there is
    an equal if not more things happening in the other direction
    that you are not aware of.

    I am not implying any ulterior motives to you nor am I claiming
    you are sexist, just that you need to accept the fact that it is
    not just the husbands who can be jerks.

    -F

    p.s try talking to your friend's husband and tell us what he told you.
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    When i said that its not just the wives who talk to their friends, i was referring to when husbands talk to their friends about how there wives are, and how they are behaving with mood swings, and that is something common!

    True to some extent what i have posted is one sided but its from a friends marriage who has been married for 6 years, it may be that both my friends have married the wrong people or they have a understanding problem!

    But like i said i cant vouch for men or what they think about their wives or what complaints they have, as im not a man, i will only write what i know not what i think may be right!

    Third time im saying this its not all your guys but a majority, so dont take it personally anyone! Its mostly a common problem with a husband and wife relationship with the man problem, according to some survey and in the news I can not remember where i saw it, as it was a random ad survey shown on the net some time ago! In a way its the way people in India get treated and society which affects these issues as well as from previous times its been the man who is the boss, many things have changed now, but some things in some people carry on, hope you understand what i am saying!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Admin View Post
    ...................and if you keep trying to get attention from your husband there will be a point when the guy is gonna ask you to talk to the hand
    hehe he he :lol::lol::lol: .....oh ,cant stop laughing...... quote of the day :lol:
    bravo terminator....

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    Maybe the wife should giving the husband attention, then see what happens, and i know the answer to this too!

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    well, i m not against giving ones wife or any other woman the attention she needs/deserves. but I have met quite a few woman who constantly demands attention and makes u very irritated in the process. Thats when the terminator comes in mind . I m not saying that every woman is like that but which ones are ,get their enthu from a bunch of male bastards who thinks agreeing with and pampering a woman will give them the desired results. Not all men are like that either. They are as annoying as those nagging woman are to me.

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    Yeh true to a point!

    But then comes the part there has to be equal understanding between the both the husband and wife.

    Sorry got another situation (i know you men are going to take it out the wrong way but again i have seen this happen more than once, and this is not all men but most men)

    Say both a husband and wife work, and when it comes to household chores and food, why is it always the wife who does the running around, i know its generally the wife who does the house things, its not bad, but even a little bit of a helping hand from the husband does make a big difference to her! What makes it worse is when the husband orders get me this and get me that!

    Now this is where understanding is required the most!

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    Why are you lookin at them as husbands and wives, look at them as persons and not couples. As persons they are all meant to be different. Some like to boss around and some like to be bossed around. Yes, i agree that the number of dominating husbands is much more than the number of dominating wives. But still, they are both out there and are different sides of a coin. Just wait, the times are changing and I m pretty sure that very soon men will take the surname of woman after marriage. And I am not saying it as a joke.

    Men who treat their spouses as slaves are basically bad people. there is no point in associating them with the Husband-Kind.

    Lets take me for example, I m a very old-fashioned guy and I like the old ways. And I m very very sure that I m not going to find a non-modern-gal in todays world. So, I would remain unmarried rather than marry someone and then burden them with my views and beliefs. So, u see, there are all kinds of people and U cant associate them under a term Husband-kind and find flaws with the lot.

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    But the thread is about husband and wife understanding thats why i mention husband and wife! And these kind of situations arise in a husband and wife relation, I mean if this happens with friends its different and its these situations are not common in other relations anyway.

    I mean why would you want attention from your friend, you would want it from your spouse or partner (this sound better) wouldn't you?

    Ok i only know how the opposite sex is like, im not saying wifes are always right. But its natural to think like what you are, i mean im a female so i will think like one, your a male you will think like one! Its not about who's right who's wrong, your more than welcome to add in what you think!

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    "wouldnt you?" -preeti

    of course I would
    Thats the sole reason for hitchin with one person, not an entire nation.

    Anyway, I understand what u mean and yes, its right to crave attention from ur spouse. But in some cases it crosses all earthly boundary and thats when ADMIN's comment takes place. Normal Husbands dont get angry if his wife asks him to check her new dress, but if she wants him to check her entire designer collection when he is going through his company's final audit, then we got a different situation.
    All I m saying is that understanding works both ways.
    But since I m not married and also not that grown up to disscuss these things, I m gonna stop right here.

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    It doesn't matter what age you are, you have your views thats fine.

    Yes i too agree that their should be mutual understanding, and the situation you gave was absolutely right.

    But what Im also adding to this situation is that there are husband's who don't take interest at all even something his wives have brought, and if she then buys something herself and wears, he moans and says its not good! This is not an argument, but just an example, that understanding is required in everything to a limit and things should be said and done at the right time and both husband and wife should try to be involved in each others things even if it means a little bit!

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    thats very true.

    But I have already said that there are all sorts of guys and all sorts of gals. So this problem will always be there. The only solution is, be extremely careful whom u marry ....
    no britney spears stuff.

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    I noticed similar line in almost every posts. "I am not saying every men are like that" & "I am not saying every women are like that".
    (Or basically the idea is same) I am confused. :confused1:

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    :lol:
    thats because this is too disturbing a topic my sire.......
    if we dont use those kind words, we might end up hurting the feelings of every man and woman either married or waiting to get married. Thats why we chose to use shrewd diplomacy my young majesty.
    its essential.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    Maybe the wife should giving the husband attention, then see what happens, and i know the answer to this too!
    what can yu expect from a society where husbands are treated a sGods . There are funcions where the wives pray for their husband's long lives , is there any function for husbands praying for their long lives.
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    Quote Originally Posted by padnar View Post
    what can yu expect from a society where husbands are treated a sGods . There are funcions where the wives pray for their husband's long lives , is there any function for husbands praying for their long lives.
    padma
    that probably started long time back when the husbands went to
    war and stuff so they need the extra prayers, the wives probably stayed
    back home and were not in any great imminent danger. This is just my
    theory and I might be totally wrong. On the other hand I might
    be exactly right too

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    Actually your theory is right.

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    @farce

    great reply buddy, no one could have given a better reply. Thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by padnar View Post
    what can yu expect from a society where husbands are treated a sGods . There are funcions where the wives pray for their husband's long lives , is there any function for husbands praying for their long lives.
    padma
    We don't need a function to pray for long life of our female counterparts... We always pray that... And give their lives greater value than ours... We are expected to become protectors right from childhood...

    For an Indian man, earlier its raksha-bandhan which puts a sense in him to protect his female sibling... Later, its mangal-sutra which surely makes him a NSG guard of his wife's life... So who cares for who's life more now?

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    adding a little bit,

    We never harp on continuously about what we do for our femme fatales.
    there are no ceremonies for our part in the act, we do it silently and steadily.

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    I think with all these discussions, Preeti is in the lead to win this contest

    -F

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    Quote Originally Posted by padnar View Post
    what can yu expect from a society where husbands are treated a sGods . There are funcions where the wives pray for their husband's long lives , is there any function for husbands praying for their long lives.
    padma
    Well i personally think that no one should be treated like god, only god has that place! Looking up to someone can be done which is different!
    The tradition where wives pray for their husbands long lives (known as karva chauth), well i think thats something personal and its tradition too which is followed by choice and in some places it has to be done!

    Quote Originally Posted by Evander Leopold View Post
    adding a little bit,

    We never harp on continuously about what we do for our femme fatales.
    there are no ceremonies for our part in the act, we do it silently and steadily.
    Thats because these were traditions and things done which started long time ago, and they were named as being a festival or ceremony! These festivals or ceremonies have been carried forward now. Men may do the same thing, but there is no such tradition which is why you are saying men do it silently!

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    Thats what I said.

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    i know, but have to put my point in front too!

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    :lol:

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    Congrats Preeti. As I predicted this thread won the contest!!!!

    -F

    p.s where is our cut of the Rs280?

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    thanks people, but i hope this doesn't stop the discussion on this thread!

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    omg u ppl .......

    u guys ve gone crazy arguing like cats n dogs....!!!!

    every one has aright to put in their opinion n a point of view.....from whteva they ve seen n understood wid the situations arnd em....but that doesnt mean everyones the same...!!!!!

    we shud rather discuss things n learn from these experience....which goes for both guys n gals in their cumin life.....(for unmarried ones..) n the married ones can try n deal wid it....nicely, calmly......with a lil maturity rather than arguing like 2 crazy ppl to get their things done....!!!

    Between every husband n wife, there ll b arguments n issues at sum point of time in their life.....but these can be sorted out always...!!!!

    n all u guys n gals on da forum....discuss things.....than blaming a husband or a wife....!

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    Well, what u r saying is right... but everyone tries to assert his/her point... then eventually blame game begins... lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    Well, what u r saying is right... but everyone tries to assert his/her point... then eventually blame game begins... lol
    so thts wht we need to understnd yea!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    omg u ppl .......

    u guys ve gone crazy arguing like cats n dogs....!!!!

    every one has aright to put in their opinion n a point of view.....from whteva they ve seen n understood wid the situations arnd em....but that doesnt mean everyones the same...!!!!!

    we shud rather discuss things n learn from these experience....which goes for both guys n gals in their cumin life.....(for unmarried ones..) n the married ones can try n deal wid it....nicely, calmly......with a lil maturity rather than arguing like 2 crazy ppl to get their things done....!!!

    Between every husband n wife, there ll b arguments n issues at sum point of time in their life.....but these can be sorted out always...!!!!

    n all u guys n gals on da forum....discuss things.....than blaming a husband or a wife....!
    well put Aashaka!

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    I cant help but laugh......:lol:
    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    omg u ppl .......

    u guys ve gone crazy arguing like cats n dogs....!!!!
    arguing and discussing share a common border. and we are not discussing the price of tomato. our subject, "husband and wife......" is much more closer to the topic "america and vietnam". So, no way to calm down.

    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    every one has aright to put in their opinion n a point of view.....from whteva they ve seen n understood wid the situations arnd em....but that doesnt mean everyones the same...!!!!!
    makes no sense.

    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    we shud rather discuss things n learn from these experience....which goes for both guys n gals in their cumin life.....(for unmarried ones..) n the married ones can try n deal wid it....nicely, calmly......with a lil maturity rather than arguing like 2 crazy ppl to get their things done....!!!
    WoW:clap:

    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    Between every husband n wife, there ll b arguments n issues at sum point of time in their life.....but these can be sorted out always...!!!!
    wow squared, everybody can also say that India and Pakistan will become the best buddies. but HOOOOWWWWWWWW ?????

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    well put Aashaka!

    thnks girl.....


    n leo.....well india -pak buddies :w00t:......i dont think so its happening......!!!!!1 n after all this i dont think so it shud happen as well!

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    "every one has aright to put in their opinion n a point of view.....from whteva they ve seen n understood wid the situations arnd em....but that doesnt mean everyones the same...!!!!!"

    @leo, how can you say that the above doesn't make sense, when it does and it something that many have to get into their brains!

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    Congratulations Preeti............:clap:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    "every one has aright to put in their opinion n a point of view.....from whteva they ve seen n understood wid the situations arnd em....but that doesnt mean everyones the same...!!!!!"

    @leo, how can you say that the above doesn't make sense, when it does and it something that many have to get into their brains!


    "every one has aright to put in their opinion n a point of view.....from whteva they ve seen n understood wid the situations arnd em....."
    this part elaborates on how different peoples can make a point on one topic, OK.
    "but that doesnt mean everyones the same..."
    where does this part come from ?????? does this mean that "..... if those different people are making it a point to go against a race/tribe/community, they are wrong cause every element within a community is not the same ".
    isnt this a repetition.

    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    n leo.....well india -pak buddies :w00t:......i dont think so its happening......!!!!!1 n after all this i dont think so it shud happen as well!
    I rest my case.
    It was supposed to be a circustic remark.
    Last edited by Evander Leopold; 1st December 2008 at 09:52 PM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost

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    Hi frnds, i have gone through the whole blogs posted....
    preeti.. i m a married man.. n i care for my wife..so.. i always listen to her.. sometimes she talks very negative n worthless but still i listen.. coz i understnd dis thng tat she wants sum1 to listen her. Nw she is happy with me coz she doesnt have anything in her heart to tell sum1...

    nw if i talk abt myself ! everytime it becomes a issue when i try to tell sumthing wat i feel or wat i want...the things goes on another track n become worse.

    n one more thing which is totly opposite to you (preeti). She tells me everything n tat doesnt matter wat i m doing, wat i m thinking and my mood.. i hav to listen othrwise situation become worse.. n from ma side.. i hav to check wether she is in mood to listen or not.

    N she start crying on very small - small things..

    We r living happy life.. coz i always try to give her wat she wants .. but on my end.. i hav to do compromise.

    Hi frnds, i have gone through the whole blogs posted....
    preeti.. i m a married man.. n i care for my wife..so.. i always listen to her.. sometimes she talks very negative n worthless but still i listen.. coz i understnd dis thng tat she wants sum1 to listen her. Nw she is happy with me coz she doesnt have anything in her heart to tell sum1...

    nw if i talk abt myself ! everytime it becomes a issue when i try to tell sumthing wat i feel or wat i want...the things goes on another track n become worse.

    n one more thing which is totly opposite to you (preeti). She tells me everything n tat doesnt matter wat i m doing, wat i m thinking and my mood.. i hav to listen othrwise situation become worse.. n from ma side.. i hav to check wether she is in mood to listen or not.

    N she start crying on very small - small things..

    We r living happy life.. coz i always try to give her wat she wants .. but on my end.. i hav to do compromise.

    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    Excuse me but I didn't say it happened to me, as im not even married!

    So why is it that when a guy wants to talk he wants full attention, and a total standstill, and then if the women hasn't heard him, he moans saying that she doesn't listen and talk to him!

    Are you saying that a wife can also say to her husband talk to the hand when the same situation arises!

    Im not being one sided, and i know there are a lot of women who throw their weight around in a married relationship, but non of my male friends have every complained about this to me, so therefore i can not say anything in particular, but i do agree that their are women who make a man's life hectic and full of problems. But in some cases a women wants to show she cares and the husband takes it the other way round.

    For example a friend of mine really cares for her husband more than anyone else in the world, but her husband just complains that she doesn't care for him or love him! I mean what should she do then?????

    Why do you men take it personally?
    Hi frnds, i have gone through the whole blogs posted....
    preeti.. i m a married man.. n i care for my wife..so.. i always listen to her.. sometimes she talks very negative n worthless but still i listen.. coz i understnd dis thng tat she wants sum1 to listen her. Nw she is happy with me coz she doesnt have anything in her heart to tell sum1...

    nw if i talk abt myself ! everytime it becomes a issue when i try to tell sumthing wat i feel or wat i want...the things goes on another track n become worse.

    n one more thing which is totly opposite to you (preeti). She tells me everything n tat doesnt matter wat i m doing, wat i m thinking and my mood.. i hav to listen othrwise situation become worse.. n from ma side.. i hav to check wether she is in mood to listen or not.

    N she start crying on very small - small things..

    We r living happy life.. coz i always try to give her wat she wants .. but on my end.. i hav to do compromise.

    Quote Originally Posted by Preeti_20 View Post
    Excuse me but I didn't say it happened to me, as im not even married!

    So why is it that when a guy wants to talk he wants full attention, and a total standstill, and then if the women hasn't heard him, he moans saying that she doesn't listen and talk to him!

    Are you saying that a wife can also say to her husband talk to the hand when the same situation arises!

    Im not being one sided, and i know there are a lot of women who throw their weight around in a married relationship, but non of my male friends have every complained about this to me, so therefore i can not say anything in particular, but i do agree that their are women who make a man's life hectic and full of problems. But in some cases a women wants to show she cares and the husband takes it the other way round.

    For example a friend of mine really cares for her husband more than anyone else in the world, but her husband just complains that she doesn't care for him or love him! I mean what should she do then?????

    Why do you men take it personally?
    Hi frnds, i have gone through the whole blogs posted....
    preeti.. i m a married man.. n i care for my wife..so.. i always listen to her.. sometimes she talks very negative n worthless but still i listen.. coz i understnd dis thng tat she wants sum1 to listen her. Nw she is happy with me coz she doesnt have anything in her heart to tell sum1...

    nw if i talk abt myself ! everytime it becomes a issue when i try to tell sumthing wat i feel or wat i want...the things goes on another track n become worse.

    n one more thing which is totly opposite to you (preeti). She tells me everything n tat doesnt matter wat i m doing, wat i m thinking and my mood.. i hav to listen othrwise situation become worse.. n from ma side.. i hav to check wether she is in mood to listen or not.

    N she start crying on very small - small things..

    We r living happy life.. coz i always try to give her wat she wants .. but on my end.. i hav to do compromise.
    Last edited by rohitkapoor; 28th November 2010 at 09:03 AM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost

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