Thread: Realtions and Religious Differences

How you compare Relation and Religion. Which one is higher or which one is on first preference in your list.
what if you believe in one religion and your spouse belongs to other religion or what if you started loving a girl/guy of different religion, do you think its correct or your parents and society will accept this.
I have seen this personally in my family, for me i think these things hardly matters.
What will you do if you get married to a guy/gal of different religion and your gods are different like say for you its hanuman and for your partner its jesus or allah.
will you be able to survive in this relation.

Like if you talk about me i am atheists so do i really need to search for atheists girl or can i get married to any girl of my own choice.

Looking for your comments and thoughts



~smoothvibes~

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

Like if you talk about me i am atheists so do i really need to search for atheists girl or can i get married to any girl of my own choice.

~smoothvibes~

Its totally upto us , if we are tolerant enough to let our spouses practice their own religion and lend a hand ourselves from time to time, we can definitely marry someone from another religion. Forceful transformation is a strict :nono: for me cause I believe that religion should not be forceful/tyrannic. If I must marry and marry into diff religion and if my parents/society dont
accept this -- I will try my best to make them see my way.

I suppose it does help a lot of both the partners have same or atleast similar beliefs.. Not that a relationship wont last if they believed in different sects or relegions but it does bring in an awkward angle...

I like sausages (pork) a lot and if my wife would have been a muslim it would cause a bit of an issue I guess wont it? in the same way if a hindu or sikh guy/girl had apartner who likes beef.... hummm its gonna raise an eyebrow for once if not a breakup but then why leave room for such stuff? why not find some one who thinks the way you do or atleast somewhat similar to you... an not totally opposite.

Please do not take my comments in a wrong way... I just created a few examples and I am sure there must be a lot of other issues as well which would arise due to difference of opinions.

ditto, thats why i said "if we are tolerant enough" in my post. personally, i dont like to change so for people like me the best way is to stick to the roots.

@ Leo
grrrr... i am not looking for a girl and not asking for dating links :cursing:
but thanks

@ admin
I understand your point but i am saying that if you love someone from different religion, that means both of you share similar taste and stuff nothing like eating but yes how about the society and people.

Like if a hindu guy goes for a sikh girl its alrite and everyone welcomes that relation and no one points finger but if a hindu/sikh guy goes for a muslim girl then everyone looks like this :scared:
and if a hindu girl goes for a muslim guy then its total confusion and gone case for our society, why people behave like that, are we all human or not and i know number of people who say that i am pandit and all but still they eat meat and drink like a fish.

Ok.

Originally Posted by Evander Leopold

Ok.

LOL :lol:

smoothvibes You are right we are all humans but every one is brought up in a different environment and differently and relegion being somethng which dictates the major part of your outlook towards life in general... stuff like gai hamari mata hai and all that stuff is someting I grew up with ... I wont tolerate some one sitting infront of me having beef and show me a Muslim here in India who would share the table with you if you have a pork dish being served... Those who are too much into iskon wont even look at onions and garlic... I have had personal experiences like these.

These are just little examples... I am not saying that a match is not possible... its just that one out of the two would have to adjust a bit too much.

Its ok you love talk and all that... for a min keep love aside and think about the person as a person and imagine what would it be like if you didint love him/her ... would you be able to put up with your partner if that love angle diminishes a bit?
Dont come up with stuff like love is for ever and all that... been there done that and I know what I am talking about.

Try finding a match for yourself who is like you in almost ever respect be is academically, relegion or even the iq level... if you dont think about 20 years down the line I am sure you are in for a surprise and this choosing your partner thing is not something you do ever day ... for some may be they get a second chance but for most of us its a one time affair ... either you do it right or you commit a mistake but you wont get a chance to correct it.. (in most cases)

Dont get carried away with all that modered culture and all that... get selfish when it comes to choosing a partner... find some one who is like you and would be a perfect match... dont make yourself an example just coz you want to stand apart.

I hope my political incorrectness in this post wont change everyone's persception about me.

Please forgive me if I may be hurt your feelings in the process.

nope admin there is nothing in post which i took personally and your words don't hurt like that bro

I really understand what you are trying to say and i am not looking for a match right now, may be i will marry a pahadi girl and trust me i am not influenced by any western culture or anything like that but honestly i have seen lot many things.

Even i grew up with same lines Gaaye hamaari mata hai n all that and i really respect all religious bells which my parents ring in morning.

I lived with a muslim guy in mumbai and trust me we never found any problems in living together, we use to share same room, same bed, same clothes, same shoes and everything. He was non-veggie and i am pure veggie but never found any problem. I think it all depends like how you take and understand things

sorry parminder :sad: i know my idea's are strange but can not help, tried to change my nature lot many times but thats truth of my life. I really don't see any differences in any human. Race, religion, cast, colour these things don't come in my mind at the first place. :confused1:

Originally Posted by Admin

Its ok you love talk and all that... for a min keep love aside and think about the person as a person and imagine what would it be like if you didint love him/her ... would you be able to put up with your partner if that love angle diminishes a bit?
Dont come up with stuff like love is for ever and all that... been there done that and I know what I am talking about.

Try finding a match for yourself who is like you in almost ever respect be is academically, relegion or even the iq level... if you dont think about 20 years down the line I am sure you are in for a surprise and this choosing your partner thing is not something you do ever day ... for some may be they get a second chance but for most of us its a one time affair ... either you do it right or you commit a mistake but you wont get a chance to correct it.. (in most cases)

Dont get carried away with all that modered culture and all that... get selfish when it comes to choosing a partner... find some one who is like you and would be a perfect match... dont make yourself an example just coz you want to stand apart.

Is this the way you found your partner too! I mean you say from experiences so does doing this help, and did you find someone you is similar in thoughts and thinking, iq etc to you

Thats a bit too personal for me to be discussing on a public forum

Come down to my place some time and see for yourself.