Thread: Separation and Divorce

The number of divorces has risen highly in the past couple of years, and its becoming a common issue in many countries, and especially in India.

Why do some people suffer in their relations and not talk about things? If they are suffering is divorce or separation the way out?

If couples want a divorce or to be separated then why get married in the first place!

Do you love your partner or just want to be free from their problems or hassles in life?

Should couples actually consider separation or divorce, or should things be sorted out?

Do you think its easy to move on in life after separation or divorce?

I am really not sure about the number or stats of this separation but yes i know its increasing in India may coz people are not dependent as they were before.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Why do some people suffer in their relations and not talk about things? If they are suffering is divorce or separation the way out?

I don't agree with this preeti coz i think people who just don't talk about it they don't suffer divorce and the people who try to take there space without approval of partner or who do anything against wish of partner suffer divorce or separation. This is really sad that in todays world people take there own ways like this and if they don't have a proper understanding then its worthless to marry.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Do you love your partner or just want to be free from their problems or hassles in life?

I still don't have one and m still single :sad:

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Should couples actually consider separation or divorce, or should things be sorted out?

both the ways are correct but both the idea's have there merits and demerits
if they take separate ways then there is a involvement of society and people who will talk about it and may be you will feel bad about it.
but if you still try to patch up or stay together then the same clashes will happen if there is a lack of co-operation and understanding

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Do you think its easy to move on in life after separation or divorce?

It is really not very easy to move on after separation or divorce coz when you go out of any relation then you really feel like something is missing or any essential part of your body is not there with you anymore, i remember my dog after his death i missed him for a very long time as there was no one to play with me and there was no one to go out with me anytime when i want. :sad:

I did not mention my views in this, just asked for everyone's opinions, and no one is right or wrong here, its just everyone's own opinions and prospective to life!

Divorce is indeed a difficult thing to go through especially
if there are kids involved. But sometimes it is the best choice
especially for someone in an abusive relationship.

I think there should be significant effort by both parties to
mend the differences through dialog and communications
before taking the step towards divorce.

regarding moving on after divorce, I think it is possible.
Of course there will be a period of depression and self doubt
but that will pass and usually people move on with their lives
and are better off than when they were in a miserable marriage.

-F

farce what do you mean by miserable marriage, aren't these relations are made in heaven or somewhere.
at marriage we say that god has created both of you for each other and after that such kind of cruel words sounds very strange mate :confused1:

Are you serious? or are you joking? "Marriages are made in heaven"
is just an expression and is pretty far from the truth

-F

LOL yeh they are all made in heaven and once they are made we are thrown into hell to live with it

OK Here's a scenario. A husband drinks every day and comes home
and beats the crap out of the wife and kids on a daily basis.

Choose the correct answer.

Is this marriage

a) excellent/happy
b) OK/mediocre
c) inconvenient
d) miserable

-F

p.s I would answer d)

Answer d obviously!

Originally Posted by Admin

LOL yeh they are all made in heaven and once they are made we are thrown into hell to live with it

Admin you living in hell then?

we need to have another option there : Made in heaven.



Our kaam wali bai has the same story... her husband is a rikshaw puller and he spends all the money he earns on drinking and then beats the crap out of his wife every single day...
I am sure this one wasent made in heaven.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Answer d obviously!



Admin you living in hell then?

LOL not mine... I am living in heaven

It's always a rikshaw puller, isn't it???
-F

Marriages are something which do happen, its destiny who you are with and end up with, sometimes it works out for good sometimes life plays a big joke and you end up living life like hell, or even making your partners life hell! (A live example seen from someones life)

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Marriages are something which do happen, its destiny who you are with and end up with, sometimes it works out for good sometimes life plays a big joke and you end up living life like hell, or even making your partners life hell! (A live example seen from someones life)

yes, and it can be totally different based on the order of photos in
a stack presented to you....the butterfly effect...
-F

whatever it is but why men need to beat the crap or hell out of wife, means i don't think daaru is the only thing which makes or encourages them to do this, means admin can you imagine yourself doing this no na..

and farce i am not joking or kidding just check your wedding invitation card or if you don't have your wedding card then check any other wedding invitation card you will find that

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

whatever it is but why men need to beat the crap or hell out of wife, means i don't think daaru is the only thing which makes or encourages them to do this, means admin can you imagine yourself doing this no na..

and farce i am not joking or kidding just check your wedding invitation card or if you don't have your wedding card then check any other wedding invitation card you will find that

come on smoothie, you can't be that naive, believing
the words on wedding invitation cards. That's what
people wish for, but sometimes things end up differently.

I am not sure I had a physical card, It was all online/evite ;-)

-F

if it was online then check it in your sent items folder

This is the only thing I could find in my sent folder


-F

Originally Posted by farce

It's always a rikshaw puller, isn't it???
-F

Yeh you are right more often then not its a rikshaw puller... May be I will try and see if I can hook him up with another job or something... hopefully my kaam wali bai's problems will be over

maybe you can offer him a moderator post at IBB. They
seem to be very nice guys who can't even
imagine beating the wives (you know who I am talking about)

-F

LOL
Will ask him to write an article about what is it with rikshaw pullers and beating up their wives... hopefully he will win a competetion or two and stop pulling rikshaw

Originally Posted by farce

maybe you can offer him a moderator post at IBB. They
seem to be very nice guys who can't even
imagine beating the wives (you know who I am talking about)

-F

i know you are talking about me

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

whatever it is but why men need to beat the crap or hell out of wife, means i don't think daaru is the only thing which makes or encourages them to do this, means admin can you imagine yourself doing this no na..

I dont think so its always men....! one can say in 60-70% of divorce cases its men who are at fault....but there are many times wherein a woman is also @ fault....!!!

There can be lots of reasons for the problems to arise which leads to seperation....or to extent of divorces ....some r like problems with inlaws, ego problems, working woman, n lots more...!!!!

Its jus tht in our society, everyone looks upto men n says he must ve tortured his wife to death.....but noone kno;s the inside story......!!!! now atleast things r changing n ppl ve strted accepting facts as woman can also go wrong.....sumwhr in relationships...

I second that Aashaka... Men & women both can be wrong...

IMAO, I don't mind increase in the divorce trend... Though divorce should be the last option especially if u have kids... But it shows that people are getting less tolerant towards the attrocities of their partners... Earlier one partner had to compromise a lot cuz of fear of the society... But now its like "Who cares for the society, God has given me one life to live... And I won't allow anyone to ruin it!"...

After all there is no point in living, if u can't feel it alive!

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I second that Aashaka... Men & women both can be wrong...

IMAO, I don't mind increase in the divorce trend... Though divorce should be the last option especially if u have kids... But it shows that people are getting less tolerant towards the attrocities of their partners... Earlier one partner had to compromise a lot cuz of fear of the society... But now its like "Who cares for the society, God has given me one life to live... And I won't allow anyone to ruin it!"...

After all there is no point in living, if u can't feel it alive!

Y r u seconding me??? i jus told the ratio is more for men...!!!!

wht re??? u dont mind increase in divorce trend.....wht r u saying???? even if u dont ve kids....divorce is like the last option...but its becomin like a FAD.....moreover due to the exposure.....specially TV.....wid dose serials around......its like most of the families r affected by it....!!!!!!

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

Y r u seconding me??? i jus told the ratio is more for men...!!!!

lol.. OK.. I was agreeing with that fact too... happy?

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

wht re??? u dont mind increase in divorce trend.....wht r u saying???? even if u dont ve kids....divorce is like the last option...but its becomin like a FAD.....moreover due to the exposure.....specially TV.....wid dose serials around......its like most of the families r affected by it....!!!!!!

Yeah.. Read my lines once again... I already said divorce should be the last option(in any case & especially if u hv kids)... hope that clarifies my stand...

I still stand by my opinion that increase in divorce trend is bad for society but good for an individual who is suffering! And TV serials/movies don't really inspire anyone to divorce... Divorce/seperation is an outcome of worst living condition for either of the partner... I can say that TV is creating awareness about their rights... About their rights to live life without allowing anyone abuse it!