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Dragon

What a beautiful song from the movie Page 3, you can’t judge if the depth of beauty of this song is more or the meaning of this song is deeper. But one thing is for sure, the lines are as true as god.
Many of you might not agree with this, but, if you’ll think and answer honestly you’ll agree, this is the harsh reality of Relationships.
"No one is for no one."

How many times it had happened with you, the most trusted person in your life had turned you down when you needed him/her the most. It could be anyone…it could be your brother, sister, mother, father, your best friend, your sweetheart…anyone.

Let me share one the moments of my life with you, I was into my graduation, things like recruitments, campus placement etc were common in college campus. We were a group of 3 friends, rather my best friends, and still we are. We all were trying our luck in interviews trying to grab the best opportunities, supporting each other, helping each other in preparation etc. Suddenly one of my “best friends” said he had to go somewhere urgently and he won’t be coming back for at least a weak. We tried our best to know what had happened suddenly, if everything is alright, but he said everything is fine and he can manage and went away.
Later, we came to know that the guy actually went to Delhi for an interview, from somewhere he came to know that there was a very good opportunity in some XYZ company who is paying healthy packages, the posts were limited, and the company will not be visiting to college campuses rather it’s asking for the walk in interviews. Our friend didn’t want to increase the competition so he didn’t tell us and went alone in interview. Good thing is, he got selected there and currently working as the Assistant Manager in the same company.
Later when he came back he told us everything, and said it was a sudden call. He asked us not to mind anything. To be honest, we didn’t. He is still my best friend. But I have learnt a lot from this experience. Now I take things more seriously. I don’t trust people easily. I am a changed man in some contest.

No, I am not trying to say that don't trust people; or there is no such thing like friendship;NO.

I just wanted to let you know my feelings, I hope you have understand what I am trying to express.

I am looking forward to hear your opinion, your view, your stories…

aashaka_gandhi

Yes I do agree wid u to a certain extent.....!

this happens not due to utmost trust but its bcoz of the expectations tht we have from the other person....!

I ve also had similar experiences .....but now i try to b really careful in choosing the ppl arnd me...!!!! plus I ve understood tht no matter wht ur family is always there for u....thy neva let u down!

We jus need to take things in a practical way but no matter wht we do n at the end we get emotional over sum things when it comes to ppl who r close to u....!!!!

It has happened to me as well...like my best fren.....we r togather since more than 20 years now....from kg...we used to talk about every small thing happening in our lives n used to b always togather...!!! she took one of the major decisions of her life....about getting married w/o even informing. she made me meet her fiancee almost after 4 days of deciding evertything...! Still she is my best fren.....n till date we r da same....!

I always wanted to ask her about this thing but i felt it was always better to not to speak about this to her....!!!!! maybe i xpected more.....

Experiences like this only make a person learn n bcome practical in life....!!!! Anyways i m thankful tht things like these dont affect me much !My Family is always there to support me....!!!!

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Dragon

You got me perfect..i thought may be i am not able to express what I am trying to but I think I succeeded thanks

I totally agree with you what you said, i like two things the most; first - Be practical and the second one is no matter what, your family is always there to support you.

But one thing I really wanna ask, if we compare your and my experience it seems that this topic revolves around friendship only; I mean we expect more from our friends but what about our family; are we expecting more from them too; what if your brother sister let you down?

one thing more, did your friend get married?

aashaka_gandhi

well well....see i understand ppl really fast....! dunno jus ve it me ......LOL!!!1ve experienced a couple of things which were maybe required.....n m thnkful to those lot....tht i ve been so!

yes its always about frenship! NO, ur family neva lets u down!!!!!

atleast in my these many years of life i ve neva seen my parents or my brother lemme down...no matter wht!!!! i can also say tht generally coz i normally ve a lot of frens n most of em r really close frens ....n there family is always there to support them.....even when frens r there or not...!!!! sumtimes its the situation n circumstances which makes u do things....but it for ur good only...!

I personally think tht Family is always there for u....maybe thy bcome rude, strict, angry wid u....but its always for ur good! No parent or siblings can think sooo!!!!

Yes my fren got married.....n its almost 11 months now...n now shes coming bak to her normal thingy....prolly this happens when there is a new relation but tht doesnt mean u forget ur frens.....! i mean atleast for me my frens r very valuable.....as my life mostly revolves arnd them ....also i ve a very small family n everyone in my family has similar thinking when it cums to frens..!!!!

Dragon

that's very great

I think we should change the heading of this thread to "Kitni ajeeb friendships hai yaahaan pe (exceptions are always there )"

I think we are the only two who agree with the topic..right people???

aashaka_gandhi

Looks soo...or prolly we only ve experienced in our lives things like this....!!!

Frenships not ajeeb....situations n circumstances...rule most of the times.....!!!! but sumtimes the person only r soo....

Dragon

This very thing makes it more complex to understand..on one side most of us will have our best moment with our friends while many of us have been bluffed by their own friends...but I totally agree that it depends upon person to person and situation to situation..we can only judge this thing by being practical in life...by taking some time before keeping a blind trust on any person

What do you think??

aashaka_gandhi

yea i totally agreee wid u....!!!!

Dragon

lets see if we can have more guys to share their experience with us..

Preeti_20

I think it is difficult to trust people, in todays time there is a lot of jealousy and many people think about themselves, which is why it creates this dis trust in relationships, especially like you guys mentioned in friendship!

It doesn't happen with immediate family like parents, or brothers or sisters, but sometimes these things do occur in cousins!

I think trust breaks because you you expect a lot from someone, and they turn out to do something different which hurts you, but sometimes it is also the case that the way you think of someone they may not think of you, and this can be a misconception in any relationship!

I think the key to it don't expect a lot from relations and yes like Aashaka mentioned be practical.

I think you can be at ease with your spouse, parents and brothers and sisters though, as long as you have a good relation with them!