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rupu1983

I told you before both side is present in society now you have told me one story but i can't tell you another because all the story is started from us it's very painful experience to us we are still living with lots of sorrowfulness in mind what ever be now this one think i can say those who are not want to love his own son they are the really exceptional & nonsense in society (but i agree with you that such person is present in society) still normally we often not see such thing and also I think that's the another issue my thread question is little different way.

aashaka_gandhi

rupu u r being too philosophical...i felt soo from ur above thread....

antartica

I think in india if we need our parents or married kids (I am talking about vice versa) to continue there love as same before should get saperated after marriage but same time should take care of them in this you will have long lasting relation

aashaka_gandhi

i would say .....i pretty much agree to this situation.....

better for both

Punch Farce

parents should be given importance. also the wife, also the
brothers and sisters. also the relatives and others in the village.
after marriage nothing should be changed.

RADS

This is the story of RA -- that's me.
My brother and me shared one of the most beautiful relations in our lives. I still feel nobody else than my husband was able to give that platonic love, he being husband.
I have deliberately opted to stay in India as I never thought I was in any ditch or a pit though all my cousins and friends preferred the ' more materialistic ' and Going foreign mania sometimes or most of the times in desperation or to stop the torments of their respective mothers who have the itch to compare him/ her with a 'U.S settled cousin' - with due respect to all N.R.I's who have genuine reasons.
The most wonderful time started when I was asked to be one of the team members of the people to decide on the photographs of the prospective brides for my brother. Ironically the prospective Bhabhi's proposal came from the downstairs -- her uncle, our tenant, had an office downstairs our home. She was working there pursuing her studies. I liked the career mindedness of hers as I myself thought that woman should be very successful in their lives. In fact our family supports it as it is one of the elite academic family.
I was a big tom-boy myself who supported about women empowerment etc., Now , thanks to God, I have already made a mark in my career and there is no looking back, my work goes parallel to my breath.

My brother who started staying in U.S.A ( as the story goes in many a homes) for 3 years, still sweet and warm in his affections till then got the lady of his life. With a lot of pomp the marriage took off and now it is almost 7 years they got married. The drift between him and me started with a single idea that my Bhabhiji wanted --- or never wanted. She simply hated me talking with him. That is the bottom line. He fought with her for some time, gave up after some more time, now finally conceded to her demand and STARTED HATING ME. It has been 3 years since he has wished me on my birthdays or called to talk to me.

Dear friends -- I never wanted to tell this anyday as I would only hurt my parents by doing so and I love them more than anything as their kid -- I always fought wih my grandma when they discreted my brother by giving him priority as a male for my rights . I think it is time I realize about my Responsibilities as a female towards my parents. I will always be there for them, COME WHAT MAY. This is the DON'T my brother taught me.
Today I stand to talk about this to all of you only to tell you that

You have a right to take care of your wife - agreed. You have a right towards the parents- agreed. Sometimes in this game to balance these in case if the person makes a sister a skapegoat for no reason , it is wrong.
It is as though a hero needs a villian in a movie to portrya his bravery to the heroine. Sometimes when there is no villian found, why did this hero try to make one to prove his 'mardangi' of protecting his wife ---

something strange and off the track .. let me tell you one more thing -- The biggest wish in my Bhabhi's list is to uplift her family (which is from a village and never had basic things to themselves) through my brother's success in U.S.A as a money making machine.. I am happy he is spending his money to do some good to people -- in fact it is none of my business. But the wrong impression my Bhabhi had is that I may ask him money and be a competition .. which can never happen, given my attitude. This made her get crazy ideas to distance a bond of a brother and sister. I have of course spent years crying , now I have no tears as I thought that I need to elevate myself to a better level by forgiving such people. God take care them.

So boys who need to get married or those who got married , think twice when you want to hurt your sister. If it is justified, it is your right , she deserves a whip on her back. If it is unfair God's whip may not spare you one day. Make sure that you are not Clouded by someone's mind to that extreme that you have lost the sense of discretion of blood and water.

May all sisters and brothers relation prosper unlike mine!!