Thread: Why husband is Guardian of Wife?

Still this is very strange question that in case of married couple husband become guardian we all know that but my question, is it another symbol of male dominant society ?Otherwise why husband is Guardian of wife ? even in university form and lot more sector that husband is guardian.Some times wife become elder than husband but whatever be still husband is superior is it discrimination ? Just think male will accept it if this rule be opposite ?
I know it has created for some official purpose because after the marriage wife generally stay in husband's resident.But still why Guardian ?

I don't think its a question of who's is superior. i think that "normally" the male is considered to be "physically" stronger than the "fairer sex".

And generally , its the male who is responsible for the welfare of the family so I guess thats the reason why it is so.

While not to be trying to sound sexist, the males have always had the responsibility of guarding the territory and the pack in the animal kingdom. There are exceptions - notably bees, ants, etc.

So the same philosophy has continued. But I think that "Father's name: " must not be the opnly option on the child's form; any form, from school's entrance form to the passport application. It could be "Father/Mother's name: ".

Obviously kix i feel one mother make most of the sacrifice for child it started before one baby come to this world and also a baby is the part of her organ.I have no doubt in my mind one mother should get more priority than father in case of identification of child.
But what ever be we know the power is the ultimate word in this world.Those who has the power & more energy they will rule this world and logical explanation is lagging far behind from that.

Husbands are poor chaps.i feel they loose the battles out home,and in house woman is the one on the head.

Originally Posted by just4kix

While not to be trying to sound sexist, the males have always had the responsibility of guarding the territory and the pack in the animal kingdom. There are exceptions - notably bees, ants, etc.

So the same philosophy has continued. But I think that "Father's name: " must not be the opnly option on the child's form; any form, from school's entrance form to the passport application. It could be "Father/Mother's name: ".

most application forms these days do give both options.

Originally Posted by rupu1983

Obviously kix i feel one mother make most of the sacrifice for child it started before one baby come to this world and also a baby is the part of her organ.I have no doubt in my mind one mother should get more priority than father in case of identification of child.
But what ever be we know the power is the ultimate word in this world.Those who has the power & more energy they will rule this world and logical explanation is lagging far behind from that.

very well said :clap: i agree that there cant be any comparison between mother and father but a mother understands her child very well than a father does.

well a husband wud def be stronger physically than the wife....n it is in generall tht a common man is physically stonger than a woman.

the main reason for this above statement....a husband is guardian of the wife - i feel is....due to the reason tht a girl leaves her parents n family n her house for the husband n she expects her husband to b the guardian -protector of her.......

Women are our Mothers & wifes, they give birth to child. due to this she is in very vulnerable spot. biologically also, a women body is made to give life so its week and fragile. whereas males are made stronger so they can protect their family.


So obviously a wife needs to protected and taken care of.
Its a responsibility of a Husband to take of his wife, hence he is a guardian.

Both have separate roles, that complement it other.
so no one is superior here, men need women & women need men.

So you are saying the men should go out and hunt the mammoths
and sabertooth tigers and the women should stay back in their
caves and take care of the kids?

-F

Wonder what will happen to this debate if same sex marriages are legalized in India...



Who will be the guardian and how will that be decided

Originally Posted by farce

So you are saying the men should go out and hunt the mammoths
and sabertooth tigers and the women should stay back in their
caves and take care of the kids?

-F

No, this is not relavent to current times

Originally Posted by Gary4gar

No, this is not relavent to current times

Bingo.... You got it now. That was what I was trying to say about your post.

-F

Originally Posted by pumbaa_g

Wonder what will happen to this debate if same sex marriages are legalized in India...



Who will be the guardian and how will that be decided

may be then marriages will involve three individuals ... one guardian for each couple (any permutation of sex) :lol:

Originally Posted by farce

So you are saying the men should go out and hunt the mammoths
and sabertooth tigers and the women should stay back in their
caves and take care of the kids?

-F

farcey u talking abt the stone age....its long gone.....

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

farcey u talking abt the stone age....its long gone.....

Not really, some parts of India are still there ;-)

-F

hmmmm okie......

Originally Posted by farce

Not really, some parts of India are still there ;-)

-F

what you said is relevant in many parts of india still now ...

Originally Posted by pumbaa_g

Wonder what will happen to this debate if same sex marriages are legalized in India...


Who will be the guardian and how will that be decided

:lol:

Originally Posted by pumbaa_g

Wonder what will happen to this debate if same sex marriages are legalized in India...



Who will be the guardian and how will that be decided

Personally i believe marraige is a social relation as well as contract(only relation where court legalization is must in these days) of two adult person so no one is guardian of the other but it's happen because still our society is male dominant.

I think there are many reasons why the male is considered to be the guardian of the wife, and most of them have been mentioned, but also post what i think too.

-A long time ago when men used to be the earners of the house, they were you can say the main person, as they brought the money in which provided food, clothing and living in general. Therefore because the man was the earner and the person who provided things for living he was like a gurardian to his wife and children, and this is something which had been carried on (although today there are many wives who work aswell)

-A women leaves her parents home to move into her husbands home. Before marriage its her parents who at that time protected her, cared for her and made sure that she has a good life with everything she needs to live. After marriage this responsibilty or duty is given or you can say passed on (or however you wish to address it) the husband

-Like said by others in this thread, a man is obviously stronger than a women which can be seen as him being a guardian to his wife

also can say....a man is usually physically strong than a women is one of the reasons too .....wudnt comment on emotional n other aspects.....

I think its preety simple, there are a few things, but their straight forward:

A man is pysically and emoitionally stronger
A man is like the head of the family, therefore has major responsibilties
A man takes over from the girls parents, and before marriage parents are guardians
When in trouble or a problem the wife turns to her husband

This are things which have been thought about long time back and are carried on till now!

Although there are some husbands, who do not know what responsibility is and can not act as a guardian to their wives, which i dont know if it is right or wrong, i suppose it all depends on the relationships.
But personally i think that a husbadn should be like guardian as in the place of the girls parents!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

A man is pysically and emoitionally stronger
A man is like the head of the family, therefore has major responsibilties
A man takes over from the girls parents, and before marriage parents are guardians

I don't agree with all this concept if anyone is physically stronger he will be guardian of his wife.If guardianship can be achieve by force and body strength then that society still represent wild era and one civilized society should gives every freedom to weakest adult person of that society.If i protect someone that not mean i got the guardianship of someone.
Although i have found that thread answer actually it has created due to some legal identity of wife.Actually husband is not a pure guardian of wife, in fact no adult person(whether male or female) have such guardian at all.

Originally Posted by rupu1983

Obviously kix i feel one mother make most of the sacrifice for child it started before one baby come to this world and also a baby is the part of her organ.I have no doubt in my mind one mother should get more priority than father in case of identification of child.
But what ever be we know the power is the ultimate word in this world.Those who has the power & more energy they will rule this world and logical explanation is lagging far behind from that.

there are female dominant systems. In kerala, nair (Menon and so on) community use their mother's family name. Not these days, but 30 -40 years before, you inherit your property from your maternal uncle (not only in nair, but many other hindu communities).