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Punch Farce

but his experience is not really relevant to the overall question right?
The question is "Can guys and girls be just friends". If he has
experience to the contrary what does it prove? nothing.

On the other hand people like you and me have experiences
that answer the question as 'yes'.

An analogy can be "Can there be sweet grapes?"

I say Yes, because I have eaten sweet grapes.

what Akash is saying is There cannot be any sweet grapes because
I ate some sour ones.

-F

smoothvibes

LOL !!

you are really out of the world farce

can understand mate

Punch Farce

Let's see if Akash comes back with a reply...

-F

smoothvibes

sure please, we can wait for his post
but my reply will remain the same

aakashbhatnagar

Yeah, I have seen it that way only.

tell me one good reason why anyone writing here is attracted to a girl for sake of friendship or due to sheer attraction ?

Punch Farce

I read that three times but still cannot figure out what your questions is...

-F

aakashbhatnagar

I mean to say there is always a physical attraction first btw a boy n a gal and friendship can be byproduct of it in rare cases.

Punch Farce

with any girl and all girls you see/meet?

-F

aakashbhatnagar

I say this for all cases

rupu1983

My reply is quite similar to ramesh.Really practically such friendship ended at some point of time.
The second thing is that here everybody replying with their own definition about friendship some have very intimate friends some have good but not the such intimate & some have just so called friend that's why indian mythology friends has divided into three category "Sakha","Mitra" & "Bandhav" i have written all this things with a specific purpose and that is everybody replying their own view about friendship or the friends which they get in their first phase of life. Obviously this reply base on personal experience & expectation from the friend.Who can say which is the ultimate sweet grapes in the world.Akash also would have been tasted the sweet grapes like farce but may be that's not fulfill his expectation.

Now coming to the topic when boys & girls become friend then it has always a chance present to convert it into love and those are saying they have very good girl friend(read separately) may be most of the time the are in co-worker, college mate such friendship will continue with normal process and it can maintain same way in long time but very few time a boy become friend of girl from no where they are not co-worker or else such friendship often converted to love or it will break at some stage of life. One line i have accepted of akash that “there is always attraction" it's biological statement i don't differ it and I also feel thread starter asked this question from practical point of view. Just think if boy or girl anyone become married then boy’s wife or girl’s husband will tolerate if boy or girl both has intimate friendship each other like both went to trip for couple of days what two male friends often did after marriage also lots more think which can create problem.

So if summarized then in single sentence
Yes this friendship(in case of intimate friend) can be possible up to one level and specially after one of them married then either this friendship become fade or can be arise few complexity .

[Try to remember did you ever see a single bollywood movie where boys & girls only a friend and without any complexity does not arise from that point please don’t give example of Aamir’s RDB]

aakashbhatnagar

Man I don't know wats ur age but its not at all about tasting grapes, thats basic principle with which human population grow.

Read science book again : Opposites always attract.

Baseline is physical attraction if u can eat grapes u say its friendship (sour grapes).

rupu1983

did you telling me ? i have already agree with our such comment

Punch Farce

You didn't understand my 'grapes' post at all did you????

-F

what's my age got to do with anything. rest assured that I am
no spring chicken ;-)

aakashbhatnagar

Hey all friends,
It was nice talking to u all and knowing ur viewpoints. It's an open ended question whose answer depends on perspective which a person uses to see.
Like : which one came before Murgi or Aanda

I'd like to thank u all for responding my comments.

Regards
Aakash

aashaka_gandhi

well it totally depends as i said earlier the way u want ur relation to b with tht person....!!! plus player i guess its stupid tht if ur neighbours or relatives or nyone saw u arnd wid ur fren n take him or her as ur gf/bf .....i m sorry i wudnt even bother about them n let em think whteva.....

yes being a girl...this things usually affect the reputation as in tht look @ tht girl ...the way shez roaming wid ht t guy n all....but i find tht very stupid.....first of all i feel thy dont ve a life of their own tht thy want to poke their nose in our personal life.....thnkfully my parents r very fwd n ve a diff outlook towards life n frens....so i m really happy....specially my mom gives it back when sum relatives tell em tht we saw her with sum guys @ this place late in the nite n all....n its def fun when mom replies yes i knew whr my daughter was but do u wanna kno the details of wht n wid whom ur daughter or son was n doing wht??? since u wont b knowing all the truth....

LOL..... thnks for spefying starry...i to didnt kno....

yes totally...... but as its said oppsites attract also...the understnding level of oppesite sexes is also more....

well i dont agree to tht....i ve a lot of frens who r my very good frens....n tht means frens....

well prolly u think only in one direction......i dont understnd to b frens wid someone there has to b tht quality of attraction...thts bullshit ...utter nonsense....

Nope....disagreed

guess so....looks likes he think u r a chotu saa bacha......farcey


well my answer as earlier is definately yes a boy n girl can be frens...no doubts on tht....

saurav_k

even RDB had a slight hint of such complexity ... i dont know how many people ever noticed it ... or may be didnt take it that way ...

danny86

share all of our moments, joys and problems. Dont u think this is vat is having a chemistry vid ur friends means?

StarK

till the point was explained, i can imagine what u wud be thinkin of me

danny86

I completely agree, This is the main problem.

communication problem??

Quite a relevant analogy, some get to taste only sweet grapes, some tastes both kinds, and some people only get to taste sour ones .

rupu1983

That's why i have written that.
Just remember that the last comment of Dara Singh in the movie Jab we met. Now we often see if any boy & girl have any particular special opposite sex friend(not always office mate,college mate type or any other) then few cases(may be 60-40 chance) it converted into love or it become little fade at certain stage so some times people of society always try to speculate about such relation.