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This is a discussion on Break up Theory within the The Lounge forums, part of the Entertainment and Recreation category; why breakup happens at the first place, there are number of reasons people can give and can play a great ...
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03-27-09, 11:38 PM
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| Aditya  Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: New Delhi/ London
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Rep Power: 11    |  Break up Theory why breakup happens at the first place, there are number of reasons people can give and can play a great blame game for the same. I was reading few articles online for the same and found something interesting here, lets see how many of you agree to this and what is the reason for a breakup. You may like to discuss the perfect or idle break up  the points which i can underline as reason of break up Over loved: If you show over loving or give great attention Boring Relation: If you get bored of the same sick outings or same activities, like the same garden or same cafe or if you follow the same routine. Cheating: If you are cheating your partner or telling lies every now and then or just trying to escape whenever there is a fact or truth discussion. Over demanding: If you are over demanding or your expectations are high then also it can affect your relation, there are so many times when a you are asking for the things which are really not possible. there are so many other reasons to write but would like to continue the discussion, apart from talking about breakup only you may like to say how to save a relation or how to avoid break up. Been a long time we had a good discussion here in relationships  started poll with 4 basic option if you have any more ideas then please remember to shout back, i will add them in poll |
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03-28-09, 08:32 AM
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Rep Power: 10 | What happened to all the posts?????? -F |
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03-28-09, 09:37 AM
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| Aadhavan is Coming  Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Leaving Chennai Age: 26
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Rep Power: 10 | You forgot to mention the most important reason for break up....Its EGO..... |
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03-28-09, 07:09 PM
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03-28-09, 10:09 PM
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 -F I am going to give my input on two scenarios. 1. Short term relationship, pre-marriage, younger couples a. boring relation b. long distance c. parental intervention. 2. Long term relationship, after marriage, older couples a. Different goals in life b. cheating c. physical/mental abuse. -F p.s like I mentioned in the deleted thread I have personal experience in most of the above categories    Last edited by Punch Farce; 03-28-09 at 10:09 PM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost | |
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03-28-09, 10:18 PM
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| Aditya Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: New Delhi/ London
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Rep Power: 11 | thanks for your inputs face and you are funny man |
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03-28-09, 11:17 PM
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Rep Power: 9 | The most important ones are 1> EGO 2> Inflexibility and inability to see the other point of view 3> Over expectations 4> Putting professional life ahead of personal life |
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03-28-09, 11:29 PM
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| Aditya Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: New Delhi/ London
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Rep Power: 11 | EGO is one of the biggest factor and apart from that cheating is something which can kill the peace. |
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03-29-09, 02:27 AM
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|  I think such reason is variable from person to person.In all previous post most of them already mention few of the reason so I am not mentioning it again.If I try to summarized all of these then one think I can say that most of the lovers are 'citizen of dreamland' and also love can be happen with a single reason but it can be break with lot of reason.I have seen(although i don't have any experience with love) when someone asked to lovers why have you fallen in love ? lot of lovers replied that 'I like his personality or 'I like her behaviour' or some different reason but most of them has started the relation or they have fallen in love with preliminary idea(or faith) of the other partner sometimes when the relation progress the preliminary idea of couple become more strong or confirm or it can opposite that they have found that his/her partner is not that perfect what he/she was anticipating.There is clear difference present between real life and imaginary life,emotion and feelings, sometimes lovers can create a harmony in their real and imaginary life with the power of love but some times not. Finally i just want to say that may be we all have seen lot of love relation never break in spite of lot of difference and other side few relation break only a single minor reason also.It's all depending on how much they have committed with such relation. |
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03-29-09, 02:40 AM
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| Alligator  Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Pleasure drome
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Rep Power: 10 | IMO biggest factor of breakup is Infidelity in any type of relation... Ofcorse there are other factors, but they can be dealt with... But cheating is something which can break the trust forever and hence most destructive thing to do by anyone... |
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03-29-09, 03:49 AM
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 once again expert comments from maddy ji I agree maddy cheating is the biggest turnoff anyone can ever face. This can even kill someone. Last edited by smoothvibes; 03-29-09 at 03:50 AM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost | |
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03-29-09, 04:27 AM
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Rep Power: 10 |  Lol... You are embarrassing me...  A relation is like a home in which therez space for only 2 persons... And both should lock all the doors & windows of their home (read relation)... to avoid any 3rd person to enter & make a mess of it! To explain it in your way, I'll sing a song from Bobby... Bahar se koi ander na aa sake, ander se koi bahar na ja sake... Socho kabhi aisa ho to kya ho, socho kabhi aisa ho to kya ho... Hum-tummm.... [Some music...  ]Ek kamre may bund ho, aur chabhi kho jaaye!! |
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03-29-09, 04:39 AM
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| Aditya Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: New Delhi/ London
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Rep Power: 11 | This is again 100% correct i know this even your best friends can also beat the crap out of your relation. I mean the best thing you can do is to give proper and balanced time to your relation and other things. can i sing a song |
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03-29-09, 05:00 AM
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Rep Power: 10 | Thats right... Sometimes best friends can be worst enemies... I mean they know almost all of ur little secrets from the past which you may not want to disclose to ur partner for some reasons or u think thats not relevant enough to tell her... And ur best friend may assume that you have shared all... She/he can then blurp it out... and it will be all mess... even if its not a big issue, ur partner may think why you had to hide it? Before you realize, seeds of insecurities are sown... Yeah buddy... go on... sing all the way! |
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03-29-09, 05:14 AM
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| Aditya Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: New Delhi/ London
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Rep Power: 11 | Sakhiyaan deh naal sarah pariya si verah Disda baneree utheh mukhra bhi tera Sakhiyaan deh naal sarah pariya si verah Disda baneree utheh mukhra bhi tera Dillon tera pyaar menu ondaa si bathehra Nachdee na thakhaan dhindee gereh utheh gera Dillon tera pyaar menu ondaa si bathehra Nachdee na thakhaan dhindee gereh utheh gera Laali gallan utheh agee channa veh, … Teh rehliyaan viyiyaan, teh rehliyaan viyiyaan ?? Tere naam teh soniya veh meh boliyaan si paiya meh boliyaan si paiya Tere naam teh soniya veh meh boliyaan si paiya meh boliyaan si paiya Nice song, i like this one |
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03-29-09, 05:52 AM
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Rep Power: 10 | Sounds good... Thanks for fulfilling the request... |
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03-30-09, 12:52 PM
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| Ooops...Smoothie initial thread kaha gaye?? P.S Ok got deleted.. |
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03-30-09, 01:01 PM
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i think last point was the most important. besides.. i completely agree with mohit.. perfect ... i loved the concept of BOBBY !!!! | |
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03-30-09, 01:52 PM
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| De WatEvaa SweetHeart  Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Ahmedabad
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Rep Power: 8 | well......as per me.....the biggest reason for break ups are cheating, ego clashes & different lifestyles, possiveness/jealousy!!! ofcourse...... it again matters as farcey told earlier .....short term relationships & long term relationships......but these factors are bound to create problems ......n results are mostly in short term break ups....n long term - married ppl - adjustments......to some extent......!!!!! Also, these days.....breaking up a relationship is soo bloddy normal.......i mean i had frens who were in a relationship for 2-3 years n all of a sudden out of some small things thy broke up......n i ve been hearing this alot.......!!!! n its mostly due to careers ..... also a relation get bored......due to a lot reasons.... no excitement n same routines.....specially Last edited by aashaka_gandhi; 03-30-09 at 01:52 PM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost |
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