Thread: Break up Theory

why breakup happens at the first place, there are number of reasons people can give and can play a great blame game for the same. I was reading few articles online for the same and found something interesting here, lets see how many of you agree to this and what is the reason for a breakup.
You may like to discuss the perfect or idle break up

the points which i can underline as reason of break up

Over loved: If you show over loving or give great attention

Boring Relation: If you get bored of the same sick outings or same activities, like the same garden or same cafe or if you follow the same routine.

Cheating: If you are cheating your partner or telling lies every now and then or just trying to escape whenever there is a fact or truth discussion.

Over demanding: If you are over demanding or your expectations are high then also it can affect your relation, there are so many times when a you are asking for the things which are really not possible.

there are so many other reasons to write but would like to continue the discussion, apart from talking about breakup only you may like to say how to save a relation or how to avoid break up.

Been a long time we had a good discussion here in relationships


started poll with 4 basic option if you have any more ideas then please remember to shout back, i will add them in poll

What happened to all the posts??????

-F

You forgot to mention the most important reason for break up....Its EGO.....

Originally Posted by farce

What happened to all the posts??????

-F

By mistake deleted that thread :sad:

Originally Posted by Rameshjeee

You forgot to mention the most important reason for break up....Its EGO.....

its there now

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

By mistake deleted that thread :sad:

no problem, atleast my input on additional poll choices are there

-F

I am going to give my input on two scenarios.

1. Short term relationship, pre-marriage, younger couples

a. boring relation
b. long distance
c. parental intervention.

2. Long term relationship, after marriage, older couples

a. Different goals in life
b. cheating
c. physical/mental abuse.


-F

p.s like I mentioned in the deleted thread I have personal
experience in most of the above categories

thanks for your inputs face and you are funny man

The most important ones are
1> EGO
2> Inflexibility and inability to see the other point of view
3> Over expectations
4> Putting professional life ahead of personal life

EGO is one of the biggest factor and apart from that cheating is something which can kill the peace.

I think such reason is variable from person to person.In all previous post most of them already mention few of the reason so I am not mentioning it again.If I try to summarized all of these then one think I can say that most of the lovers are 'citizen of dreamland' and also love can be happen with a single reason but it can be break with lot of reason.I have seen(although i don't have any experience with love) when someone asked to lovers why have you fallen in love ? lot of lovers replied that 'I like his personality or 'I like her behaviour' or some different reason but most of them has started the relation or they have fallen in love with preliminary idea(or faith) of the other partner sometimes when the relation progress the preliminary idea of couple become more strong or confirm or it can opposite that they have found that his/her partner is not that perfect what he/she was anticipating.There is clear difference present between real life and imaginary life,emotion and feelings, sometimes lovers can create a harmony in their real and imaginary life with the power of love but some times not.
Finally i just want to say that may be we all have seen lot of love relation never break in spite of lot of difference and other side few relation break only a single minor reason also.It's all depending on how much they have committed with such relation.

IMO biggest factor of breakup is Infidelity in any type of relation... Ofcorse there are other factors, but they can be dealt with... But cheating is something which can break the trust forever and hence most destructive thing to do by anyone...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

IMO biggest factor of breakup is Infidelity in any type of relation... Ofcorse there are other factors, but they can be dealt with... But cheating is something which can break the trust forever and hence most destructive thing to do by anyone...

so here comes the love guru :clap:
once again expert comments from maddy ji

I agree maddy cheating is the biggest turnoff anyone can ever face. This can even kill someone.

Lol... You are embarrassing me...

A relation is like a home in which therez space for only 2 persons... And both should lock all the doors & windows of their home (read relation)... to avoid any 3rd person to enter & make a mess of it!

To explain it in your way, I'll sing a song from Bobby...

Bahar se koi ander na aa sake, ander se koi bahar na ja sake...
Socho kabhi aisa ho to kya ho, socho kabhi aisa ho to kya ho...
Hum-tummm.... [Some music... :5:]
Ek kamre may bund ho, aur chabhi kho jaaye!!

This is again 100% correct i know this even your best friends can also beat the crap out of your relation. I mean the best thing you can do is to give proper and balanced time to your relation and other things.
can i sing a song

Thats right... Sometimes best friends can be worst enemies... I mean they know almost all of ur little secrets from the past which you may not want to disclose to ur partner for some reasons or u think thats not relevant enough to tell her... And ur best friend may assume that you have shared all... She/he can then blurp it out... and it will be all mess... even if its not a big issue, ur partner may think why you had to hide it? Before you realize, seeds of insecurities are sown...

Yeah buddy... go on... sing all the way!

Sakhiyaan deh naal sarah pariya si verah
Disda baneree utheh mukhra bhi tera
Sakhiyaan deh naal sarah pariya si verah
Disda baneree utheh mukhra bhi tera
Dillon tera pyaar menu ondaa si bathehra
Nachdee na thakhaan dhindee gereh utheh gera
Dillon tera pyaar menu ondaa si bathehra
Nachdee na thakhaan dhindee gereh utheh gera
Laali gallan utheh agee channa veh, …
Teh rehliyaan viyiyaan, teh rehliyaan viyiyaan ??
Tere naam teh soniya veh meh boliyaan si paiya meh boliyaan si paiya
Tere naam teh soniya veh meh boliyaan si paiya meh boliyaan si paiya

Nice song, i like this one

:clap: Sounds good...

Thanks for fulfilling the request...

Ooops...Smoothie initial thread kaha gaye??


P.S
Ok got deleted..

Originally Posted by panchabhut

The most important ones are
1> EGO
2> Inflexibility and inability to see the other point of view
3> Over expectations
4> Putting professional life ahead of personal life

i think last point was the most important. besides.. i completely agree with mohit.. perfect ... i loved the concept of BOBBY !!!!

well......as per me.....the biggest reason for break ups are cheating, ego clashes & different lifestyles, possiveness/jealousy!!!

ofcourse...... it again matters as farcey told earlier .....short term relationships & long term relationships......but these factors are bound to create problems ......n results are mostly in short term break ups....n long term - married ppl - adjustments......to some extent......!!!!!

Also, these days.....breaking up a relationship is soo bloddy normal.......i mean i had frens who were in a relationship for 2-3 years n all of a sudden out of some small things thy broke up......n i ve been hearing this alot.......!!!!

n its mostly due to careers .....

also a relation get bored......due to a lot reasons.... no excitement n same routines.....specially

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

also a relation get bored......due to a lot reasons.... no excitement n same routines.....specially

This is a very good point aaka..! thats the reason many are changing their partners too....!

Will let know the reason once I have a break up.......

Originally Posted by Rameshjeee

Will let know the reason once I have a break up.......

Thats really optimistic.... will pray never to break up....!

EGO is main reason for break ups....If we can get rid of this EGO, the relation will be smooth....:cool2:

yep....like one of the partners is wanting to do lots of stuff but due to the other one....hez not able to n than results to slowly built frustrations leading to break ups......!!!!!

Originally Posted by Rameshjeee

EGO is main reason for break ups....If we can get rid of this EGO, the relation will be smooth....:cool2:

but don't you think you need some ego to keep your self respect too.