Thread: Not Answering Phone

Ok, recently saw a film where a girlfriend was calling up her boyfriend, and he wasn't answering his phone, and he was actually cheating her (we know that as its shown in the film, but unknown to the girlfriend).
She calls him 4 times and no answer, and then 20mins later the boyfriend calls up and doesn't even speak right to his girlfriend! And that's fine for the girl and story continues.........!

Its a common thing probably, and i know i seen it happen, if you were in the girls place what would you think, as for the guys if your girlfriend/fiancee/wife did that to you, what would come into your mind?

I would go bloody mad if my boyfriend/fiance/husband done that to me, i would give him that same crap back....yeh i can be evil!!!!!

@ princess
If you do that then whats the difference between you and him...? he is also a donkey and you will be too

hmmm my place i would first try to know why she did that (even after knowing what she did) if it was reasonable then would ask her not to do that ever again and forgive her else will quietly give her divorce and walk away

if after accepting that she wont do it again, if she does then i will sue her for spoiling my life by producing evidences (even if i had to create them) then divorce her.

@ kirankumargb - Ive learnt from someone tit for tat, and that's the best policy in all relations! Life's too short to be bothered about others!

If i were married and that happened, well i would divorce the guy, especially if i knew he was the flirty type or have had secret affairs before. If he hasn't maybe one chance but not more than that.

If it was a bf or a fiance then i would walk out of the relationship!

i should be dead and buried .... i never attend calls ...... because i am always "busy"

-E

//offtopic
PS : I am temporarily impersonating farce

@ princess
exactly correct we both have the same thinking, if it was only once and promise that it wont happen again then forgive them but not more than that.

and about tit for tat ... yes we have to do it sometimes, we dont have any other option but i wont do anything in tit for tat which is against my ethics thats all.

Originally Posted by kirankumargb

@ princess
If you do that then whats the difference between you and him...? he is also a donkey and you will be too

hmmm my place i would first try to know why she did that (even after knowing what she did) if it was reasonable then would ask her not to do that ever again and forgive her else will quietly give her divorce and walk away

if after accepting that she wont do it again, if she does then i will sue her for spoiling my life by producing evidences (even if i had to create them) then divorce her.

is nt it just easier to forget it ?? its so much more easier

and anyways whats in a phone call ??

-E

forget what ? if your gf is having affair with someone else and she is bluffing you, will you forget it and be normal with her ?

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

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I would go bloody mad if my boyfriend/fiance/husband done that to me, i would give him that same crap back....yeh i can be evil!!!!!

You mean you would go and have an affair in retaliation?????

You think at that point your BF will give a damn what you do?


Here's my personal way of doing things.

case 1: GF
Talk to her. maybe if it is one time and she promises the
affair is over then maybe give a second chance. If she
continues as before then break up. Make her get a complete
medical checkup before sleeping with her again. You never
know what deseases the other guy might have in this day
of AIDS and STDs.

case 2: Wife
Talk to her. maybe if it is one time and she promises the
affair is over then definitely give a second chance. If she
continues as before, then divorce her. Make her get a complete
medical checkup before sleeping with her again.

case 3: Wife with kids
Talk to her. See if she will stop the affair. maybe if it is
one time and she promises the affair is over then definitely
give a second chance. If not, ask her to keep it discrete.
Stay married till kids grow up, don't have any relations with
her.

-F

-F

Originally Posted by kirankumargb

forget what ? if your gf is having affair with someone else and she is bluffing you, will you forget it and be normal with her ?

good question .... i misread the first post ...... that would explain my "out of context" posts

//back to topic
How do you know that the girl is cheating ? because she does nt attend your calls

-E

no the topic is if you come to know that she is cheating then what would you do ?

case 1: GF
Ditch ..... Next :16:

case 2: Wife
:yes: Talk to her. maybe if it is one time and she promises the
affair is over then definitely give a second chance. If she
continues as before, then divorce her. Make her get a complete
medical checkup before sleeping with her again.


case 3: Wife with kids
:no: Hands Up .... surrender
-E

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

good question .... i misread the first post ...... that would explain my "out of context" posts

//back to topic
How do you know that the girl is cheating ? because she does nt attend your calls

-E

I mean what would you expect if no calls were being answered, unless your in a pub or something that's different! And whats the use of having a phone if your not going to pick up to your partner??????????? Think logically guys!

oh forgot to add another point, when the girlfriend asks her boyfriend where he is, he doesn't answer that question, and just says i will be home in an hour!!!!

(ive been stuck in a middle of situation like this too, where my cousin was engaged and she was also seeing another guy, so seeing the picture from both sides)

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

I mean what would you expect if no calls were being answered, unless your in a pub or something that's different! And whats the use of having a phone if your not going to pick up to your partner??????????? Think logically guys!

Yeah ..... i understand what u are coming at ....... If your partner does not attend your calls it clearly signals that they are not interested in u any more .... whats the point in continuing the relationship ?? (Edit )

:36:
-E

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

Yeah ..... i understand what u are coming at ....... If your partner does not attend your calls it clearly signals that they are not interested in u any more .... whats the point in continuing the relationship ??

E, you forgot this ->

-F

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

I mean what would you expect if no calls were being answered, unless your in a pub or something that's different! And whats the use of having a phone if your not going to pick up to your partner??????????? Think logically guys!

Ok, I am Mr. Logic,

1. No signal
2. In a meeting
3. Low battery
4. Left Phone at home
5. Dog ate the phone

etc.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

oh forgot to add another point, when the girlfriend asks her boyfriend where he is, he doesn't answer that question, and just says i will be home in an hour!!!!

Maybe he is at the florist getting here flowers and wants to
surprise her.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

(ive been stuck in a middle of situation like this too, where my cousin was engaged and she was also seeing another guy, so seeing the picture from both sides)

anecdotal evidence should not be the only determining factor in how
you look at things.

-F

most of the time I leave my wife strict instructions not to call, only to send sms.
given my job profile I would mostly be in situations where attending the call is very difficult or jammers are employed that does not allow mobile signals.
if my wife went thru the above posts I would be divorced by now.

it all boils down to the level of trust and commitment. not able to attend the phone does not mean that your partner is cheating. but it could be one of the indicators. so if such a thing happens, one needs to cross check with other factors and then come to a final decision.

but if you are sure that your partner is cheating, theres only one solution, dump him or her.

if its your husband/wife and there are children, even then. it would be better for the children to be known as having divorced parents rather than being known as children of parents who always fight and have extra marital affairs.

Originally Posted by bharthiae

Even if after a protracted discussion you did come to some silly conclusion would it be acceptable to you or your boy friend to get it ratified by the parliement and converted as a Section of the IPC?

Youth want to get into the parliment and is this what they want to discuss there? Whether you or your boyfriend answer phone calls is your private bussiness. Lets leave it there.

chill out sir ji. too much anger is bad for your health. could lead to BP, sugar etc. this is just a forum where people bounce their thoughts in their idle moments. not the Parliament or the Election Meeting of some political party. and to think that a few random posts on this forum can change the IPC is giving too much credit to this Forum, even if it happens to be one of the best.

@bharthiae

Princess is asking what she feels is important, she never said that it is important to the world or country so she is asking here. If you have to say anything in that matter then you can say it in polite manner but you dont have any authority to tell other members what they should say or not. If there is anything which is out of forum rules there are mod's & Admin here they will take care of it, you dont need to do it for your self.

If you have anything to say for what she asked then you can say else leave it why are you worried so much ? there are many other threads here just see something else...

Your behavior of replying is very rude,
I have reported this post to Mod's & Admin.

Originally Posted by bharthiae

You could discuss this mundane topic till cows come home!
What's the use and what's the point of washing your dirty linen in a public forum as if India's nuclear policy depended on it?
Even if after a protracted discussion you did come to some silly conclusion would it be acceptable to you or your boy friend to get it ratified by the parliement and converted as a Section of the IPC?

Youth want to get into the parliment and is this what they want to discuss there? Whether you or your boyfriend answer phone calls is your private bussiness. Lets leave it there.
There are other more pressing problems of the youth which minds could be applied and discused here and useful conclusions drawn. For example how to help youth to positively and constructively to deal with failures and frustrations for example of poor board exams?

Sure, there are more pressing problems and we should discuss those.

Please go ahead and open different threads for each pressing problems
you would like to discuss and we'll come there and contirbute.

Doesn't mean that is the only things we need to discuss. We can discuss
anything that is of interest to members. whether it will affect the
parliament or not ;-) In fact this thread will be useful to many
members of the parliament and their spouses

thanks
-F

well looking at most of the posts here i feel .......all we are blaming is guys - husbands or Boyfrens...?

in a lot of cases there are chances tht the gf or wife is also in situations or is also cheating......

i feel its pretty unfair to the guys...... its not always them to be blamed......

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

well looking at most of the posts here i feel .......all we are blaming is guys - husbands or Boyfrens...?

in a lot of cases there are chances tht the gf or wife is also in situations or is also cheating......

i feel its pretty unfair to the guys...... its not always them to be blamed......

Aur nahi to kya... Ladko ki bhavnao ko bhi samjho

samjhi naaa......

btw whoz dis bhavna?

Ek aaka hi hai jo samajhti hai

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

btw whoz dis bhavna?

:lol:

girls must not be muddleheads..

they must understand that a guy can be seriously busy..


moreover, a girl has no right to speak something to him if he is not presicely answering her..

girl should wait for his call, and be with it..

Originally Posted by gothic_coder

Ek aaka hi hai jo samajhti hai


:lol:

lol :P

arey waaaah......

From all your posts i can see that, u all have a thought of giving a chance to the person. I feel it's better to let go. Once the trust is broken then it's gone forever, He/she has cheated on you coz he/she was not happy with you. Then it's better to let her/him go for the betterment of both of you. You might say everyone should get a second chance. But if a person, whom you think loved you, felt like cheating on u then, they don't deserve to be with you. They will repeat it again one day or the other day. Either be with the person who truely loves you or it's better be alone. I know "true love" has become like a myth these days but trust me guys it do exist just have to look in the right place with patience

All the best to all of you [including me ]

@Preeti
If he is not picking up the call then it doesn't really mean he is cheating on you. Well he could be busy with work. Well if he returns the call later and tells you the reason then i think you should understand. Well trust is really important in a relationship, so have trust in him. If he is really cheating on you then just walk out of the relationship and save the emotional athyachar....

@ Red Devil - :lol::lol::lol: Its a film story! Not my life story!

I totally forgot about this thread, will update on what happens in the end, its a shame I don't remember the name of the film. Its a very old Hollywood film!