Thread: Say Yes or No your bad

No matter relationship you may be in, whether its in a boyfriend girlfriend relation, husband wife, friends, cousins or any other relationships, you get stuck in situations where if you say yes to something or you say no to something your blamed for being the bad person.

If you stop someone from doing something, your bad and don't want them to be happy, if you say yes then your allowing them to go ahead and ruin their life and make them unhappy!

Have you been in these kind of situations????

I think the best thing is always live the life you want and let others live they want, who cares if something happens to them or they suffer anyway! At least you wont be the one to blame!

Yes.

-F

if you really love someone and want to protect that person, then no matter what you are accused off, go ahead and say "yes" or "no" in clear terms as your judgement tells you. sooner or later, your good judgement would be recognised.

Its true, but sometimes at that time you can be the worst person to the other who your giving advice to, end up in heir bad books or become their bad wisher! But for those who understand that something is being said for their own good then its fine, but for those who get in a strop and little tiffs, its best not to say anything! The friends or cousins who i know like this, i simply tell them not to ask me anything!

Originally Posted by farce

Yes.

-F

explain more farce!

What I meant was Yes, I have been in situations like that.

Sometimes people don't want to listen to you and in those cases
it is best to not give them unsolicited advice.

So my current policy is if someone comes to me with a problem
and talks to me I give them my perspective and advice and
try to help them out. But I won't go and interfere in others
business especially if they don't want me interfering.
(unless they are doing something illegal or hurting someone)

-F

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Its true, but sometimes at that time you can be the worst person to the other who your giving advice to, end up in heir bad books or become their bad wisher! But for those who understand that something is being said for their own good then its fine, but for those who get in a strop and little tiffs, its best not to say anything! The friends or cousins who i know like this, i simply tell them not to ask me anything!

over time my friends and relations have accepted me as one who always calls a spade a spade but provides the appropriate advice. so now they actually come seeking advice and genarally follow it even if its not what they had expected it to be
but yes, I don't go around giving unsolicitated opinion

I follow 2 simple rules in situations like these: 1) Don't give unwanted advice and 2) Never influence someone else's decision making process.

Originally Posted by 18lama

I follow 2 simple rules in situations like these: 1) Don't give unwanted advice and 2) Never influence someone else's decision making process.

best way.......

This can be a tricky situation, but like everyone else mentioned on the forum, don't give unwanted advice, and if asked give your opinion. Whether the other person likes it not, forget that, as long as your honest and saying something for the best of someone they should understand that, as someone who is close to you normally asks for advice.

I dont give unwanted advice, but yeh suppose just keep quiet and not answer, maybe is the best policy! Let others do what they want.

@preety i feel you give her advices...

a typical female...

thats why you are so much eager to ask this question here....

women like to gossip

Yes i have been in this situation many times and every time i take only one decision, do what is correct and do not worry about the result.

( I have a very bad experience in this situation)

Originally Posted by kirankumargb

Yes i have been in this situation many times and every time i take only one decision, do what is correct and do not worry about the result.

( I have a very bad experience in this situation)

doctor doctor.. ek dum same same thinking.. :lol:

Isilie to hum Doctor hain

:d

Originally Posted by mail2sc

@preety i feel you give her advices...

a typical female...

thats why you are so much eager to ask this question here....

women like to gossip

and whats gossip got to do with this, and i dont gossip!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

I dont give unwanted advice, but yeh suppose just keep quiet and not answer, maybe is the best policy! Let others do what they want.

keep it tht ways n u ll be all the more happier.....unwanted advises r never welcome....as they say....be it a relative or a fren.....

think of urself in a similar situation...u take advises only from some ppl n when someone else u dont want tht one to interfere in ur matters n gives his opinion n advise .....obviously u urself dont like it...so does everyone else....

Originally Posted by mail2sc

@preety i feel you give her advices...

a typical female...

thats why you are so much eager to ask this question here....

women like to gossip

m2c....u thinks so only girls gossip.....atleast we say we gossip n than.....

look @ guys....theres a survey done by someone in iim-A which concluded tht most of the guys almost around 92% of guys gossip....only thing thy dont tell or accept the fact tht thy do....infact guys r more bothered to know things arnd n poke their nose in others life......

i ll check my mail....if tht mail is still there or i ll ask my fren to resend....it....