Thread: Friendship in Relations

Can you find a good friendship in relationships, I've seen many people who are good friends with their parents, brothers sisters and even their partners! But this is not always the case, i tried finding a friend in my mum, never worked, and well i tried in my brother and cousins, so I'm not expecting my future husband to be my best buddy!

Its sometimes easy for some, but i think there can only be friendship if you are close enough and don't mind sharing the little things in your life. If not then its just a relationship, in a way just a formality, for being a husband or wife, daughter, sister, brother and so one.

Those who have are like friends with their parents, brothers and sisters and partners, i would consider them very lucky!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wow....

wht a topic....? u kno wht never ever marry ur best fren is my funda.....as ur best fren knows u a lil more better than wht u do....

atleast thts my case..... Best Frens r always meant to be Best Frens neva husbands....n even if u get married to em...i dunno till wht extent it would be successful.....thts my take on it.....

yes def. ur good fren or a fren can be ur better half for sure.....n he would kno u in n out....but not as the way ur best fren would ...... coz ur best fren would even know ur reactions to things to a lot of personal past to other personal issues which one would not want to ever share with ny one else....

Thats a good point Aashaka, but say if you have an arrange marriage should you try to look for a friend in your husband then??????

Or would you look for a friend in someone else?????

well ofcourse ......ur husband shud b like ur fren ....as in u shud b as comfy with him as much u r with ur fren.....also u shud share everyhting about ur present + the future n ur feelings with ur husband.....at times u would want tht someone special with u..... n not a fren......n some times in some situations u would want to talk or be with ur fren.....

Why you girls make things so complicated. No offence. I mean live your life like a king oops i mean queen, forget all worries, tension, overcome the stress. Enjoy the present, don't spoil you today thinking what will happen tomrw. atleast live today. This is the Mantra which I follow. Try it.

I think preeti is currently in the process of the most important decision of her life. to marry or not to marry. and if to marry then who to marry.
so she is supposed to be confused. its the natural reaction.

I think you are right, while reading my previous post again, i felt that i was bit too harsh/rude. Sorry girlz, nothing to hurt you.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

so I'm not expecting my future husband to be my best buddy!

That's the one thing that is in your hands ..... try getting that right

Correct! As I have said before, If possible, try to give some time to your relationship before getting married. this will help you guys to understand each other

absolutely......

but i feel preeti is taking things too much in a negative way......from whteva she has been posting here...could make it out.....

prolly the set of ppl shez around with .....or dunno wht might b the reason.....

i mean every girl or a guy has to face this situation ......so y not understnd the situation n act accordingly.....

manish i totallyy agree with u with ur point of giving time to the relationship.....

also i would say....we dont make it complicated nor do we love to get into these complications but its the way of life tht a girl has to leave her parents n go to her husbands house with new people around......obviously its a bit scary.....!

i m sure if someone comes n tells u guys to leave ur parents place n shift to ur wife;s place with her family n all....ofcourse u ll also be scared .......

Can you find a good friendship in relationships

1st reply No even i can't find any good friend

i tried finding a friend in my mum, never worked, and well i tried in my brother and cousins, so I'm not expecting my future husband to be my best buddy!

Obviously previous experience give some idea but still we don't know about next day of our life so don't try to predict all thing from past experience.Another thing is most of us always try to find the ideal friend which is not easy to get.
Also time is one of the important element in life because even if anyone get proper person who can be his/her perfect friend that friendship also need few time to develop or to know each other.

Originally Posted by Endless Sky

1st reply No even i can't find any good friend

.

I don't even have one friend.

stay here for few days, I can bet you won't say that again

hmmmmm

yep i m sure u ll definately find good frens in here.....!

PunchBala - How come u dont ve frens? all thru ur childhood, schooling, college or if u r gng to college, .......there r a lot of ways u would make frens than???

thaks guys, it is not that i have 0 friends, just i don't have
time anymore to spend on friends, too busy at work and
spend lot of time online

yea so may be u can jus go n spend some of the time with ur actual frens.....

You can eat dosa with sambar, and dosa with chutney but
you cannot eat chutney with sambar. Similarly you cannot
have love and friendship.

y not????

i need to ask u a ques.....

i saw a couple of posts of urs in no. of threads..... wherein i found out tht u ve compared everything with dosa, sambar n chutney???? YYYYY

Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

y not????

i need to ask u a ques.....

i saw a couple of posts of urs in no. of threads..... wherein i found out tht u ve compared everything with dosa, sambar n chutney???? YYYYY

my entire life revolves around food. Food analogies are easy
for everyone to understand.

men and women cannot be friends, there is always some love thoughts
in the minds especially the man.

Platonic relationships are possible. Husband and wife can be friends. Love and Friendship is also possible.

What both parties need is R-E-S-P-E-C-T for each other and allowance for private space. Then everything is possible.

Originally Posted by Punch Bala

men and women cannot be friends, there is always some love thoughts
in the minds especially the man.

looks like i dont agree to this idea of urs as well.....

sounds soo SAD