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Preeti_20

They say honesty is the best policy, but why is that at times when you are honest with someone they don't believe you, and think your acting fake and pretending.
How far would you go being honest, is it best to open your heart out and be straight up with a person, is this only applies to some relations, which relations do you think this would apply to and why?


Parents: Yes you should be honest, but sometimes depending on the situation you have to take little white lies, but its always good to have such a relationship with them that you don't need to lie

Siblings:It depends on your relation, but generally siblings you can be really honest with whether its giving opinions or no matter what

Friends:friends well you can easily be honest with them, and they know you well, and they know your not fake as you can choose your friends and you like them generally for what you are

Partner:well again this depends on the relation, sometimes its easy to be honest in cases as telling what you feel, sometimes in telling what you feel can have a bad affect and can be taken wrongly. But in general you should be honest. The worse thing would be to pretend with your partner and if you give a false opinion or agree to something you don't then that's being fake and not being honest

meetdilip

Try to be honest as much as possible, but with whom is what you should take care of.

gothic_coder

It all depend on how other person will take your view, Some people (Your closed one) might not like the stuff you do, But you know that it's harmless then i don't think that there is no problem in telling LIE...

But a million dollar question is "Do you know that whatever you're doing is right or wrong", If yes, then you can go ahead be manipulative about your views

ShAdOwCoN

what do you think about "white lies" ?

amol_sm

U can not Honest with everyOne

Dragon

Honest plays a key factor in every kind of relationship. You should try to play honest, but sadly, certain days, situations in life comes when you are said to be dishonest or fake even if you are not and then comes the part2 when you have to lie for something good be it for yourself or others

newprouser

I have a friend , who is honest to the core. God knows how many times I've tried to make tell atleast a small lie, i'm still unsuccesful as of now.

Don't know how he manages it.

gothic_coder

Very rare..

Punch Farce

I am honest most of the time. When it comes to major things I am
honest with my wife. If I cannot be honest I don't tell her anything at all.

But little things I confess I do tell things just to satisfy her.

for example she tries on a new dress and asks me how it is.
I usually say "looks good" whether it looks good or not.
(sometimes not even looking at the dress properly), but
if it is major like if it is too transparent or too low a neckline
I tell her that but other than that I tell the dress looks good
because she has already bought it because she liked it.
If I say something bad about it, then that dress is just
going to sit in the closet and being a waste

-F

newprouser

Oye, I never thought it in that angle dude...

panchabhut

and you would be sitting in the closet too

newprouser

Nope in hospital maybe ....

Punch Farce

true

Mark this for future reference, when you get married my posts will
be very useful

-F

I am on my way, not a regular hospital though, a mental one

aashaka_gandhi

honesty......i would say ....no matter wht u speak.....pls make sure of being honest to ur own self.

tht doesnt mean u can keep on lying ...no but a bit is okie....

thnkfully till now i vent had a chance to lie ever for anything n i prefer it so.....at times even my frens find me to b rude coz i give honest opinions....but thy too kno tht i m being honest....n not rude....a couple of times i was taken in a wrong manner n not understood but be patient n ppl around u would understnd.....

mickey

Honesty is the fruit of Good.

Dragon

Experience Buddy, experience

@Farce, I really understand the situation. It happens with me as well. My wife is too consious about her weight, so she keeps on asking me Am I going fat?? Need not to tell you my answer to her, if in case I genrally advice her to stay fit, she will skip her immediate meal, which I really don't like.

newprouser

and more so those on the other forum

I can understand preeti being paranoid about looking for Mr.perfect, but worrying after marriage, that I don't !!!

Punch Farce

did you get married?????

-F

newprouser

u r quoting me out of context !

But i have always heard from those who did.....

"Gals worry a lot b4 marriage , happy after marriage and guys are vice-versa"

aashaka_gandhi

nothing of tht sort....