Thread: Honesty

They say honesty is the best policy, but why is that at times when you are honest with someone they don't believe you, and think your acting fake and pretending.
How far would you go being honest, is it best to open your heart out and be straight up with a person, is this only applies to some relations, which relations do you think this would apply to and why?


Parents: Yes you should be honest, but sometimes depending on the situation you have to take little white lies, but its always good to have such a relationship with them that you don't need to lie

Siblings:It depends on your relation, but generally siblings you can be really honest with whether its giving opinions or no matter what

Friends:friends well you can easily be honest with them, and they know you well, and they know your not fake as you can choose your friends and you like them generally for what you are

Partner:well again this depends on the relation, sometimes its easy to be honest in cases as telling what you feel, sometimes in telling what you feel can have a bad affect and can be taken wrongly. But in general you should be honest. The worse thing would be to pretend with your partner and if you give a false opinion or agree to something you don't then that's being fake and not being honest

Try to be honest as much as possible, but with whom is what you should take care of.

It all depend on how other person will take your view, Some people (Your closed one) might not like the stuff you do, But you know that it's harmless then i don't think that there is no problem in telling LIE...

But a million dollar question is "Do you know that whatever you're doing is right or wrong", If yes, then you can go ahead be manipulative about your views

what do you think about "white lies" ?

U can not Honest with everyOne

Honest plays a key factor in every kind of relationship. You should try to play honest, but sadly, certain days, situations in life comes when you are said to be dishonest or fake even if you are not and then comes the part2 when you have to lie for something good be it for yourself or others

I have a friend , who is honest to the core. God knows how many times I've tried to make tell atleast a small lie, i'm still unsuccesful as of now.

Don't know how he manages it.

Very rare..

I am honest most of the time. When it comes to major things I am
honest with my wife. If I cannot be honest I don't tell her anything at all.

But little things I confess I do tell things just to satisfy her.

for example she tries on a new dress and asks me how it is.
I usually say "looks good" whether it looks good or not.
(sometimes not even looking at the dress properly), but
if it is major like if it is too transparent or too low a neckline
I tell her that but other than that I tell the dress looks good
because she has already bought it because she liked it.
If I say something bad about it, then that dress is just
going to sit in the closet and being a waste

-F

Originally Posted by farce

If I say something bad about it, then that dress is just
going to sit in the closet and being a waste

-F

Oye, I never thought it in that angle dude... :lol:

Originally Posted by farce

then that dress is just
going to sit in the closet and being a waste

-F

and you would be sitting in the closet too

Originally Posted by panchabhut

and you would be sitting in the closet too

Nope in hospital maybe ....

Originally Posted by panchabhut

and you would be sitting in the closet too

true

Originally Posted by newprouser

Oye, I never thought it in that angle dude... :lol:

Mark this for future reference, when you get married my posts will
be very useful

-F

Originally Posted by newprouser

Nope in hospital maybe ....

I am on my way, not a regular hospital though, a mental one

honesty......i would say ....no matter wht u speak.....pls make sure of being honest to ur own self.

tht doesnt mean u can keep on lying ...no but a bit is okie....

thnkfully till now i vent had a chance to lie ever for anything n i prefer it so.....at times even my frens find me to b rude coz i give honest opinions....but thy too kno tht i m being honest....n not rude....a couple of times i was taken in a wrong manner n not understood but be patient n ppl around u would understnd.....

Honesty is the fruit of Good.

Originally Posted by farce

for example she tries on a new dress and asks me how it is.
I usually say "looks good" whether it looks good or not.
(sometimes not even looking at the dress properly), but
if it is major like if it is too transparent or too low a neckline
I tell her that but other than that I tell the dress looks good
because she has already bought it because she liked it.
If I say something bad about it, then that dress is just
going to sit in the closet and being a waste

-F

Originally Posted by newprouser

Oye, I never thought it in that angle dude... :lol:

Experience Buddy, experience

@Farce, I really understand the situation. It happens with me as well. My wife is too consious about her weight, so she keeps on asking me Am I going fat?? Need not to tell you my answer to her, if in case I genrally advice her to stay fit, she will skip her immediate meal, which I really don't like.

Originally Posted by farce

Mark this for future reference, when you get married my posts will be very useful

-F

I am on my way, not a regular hospital though, a mental one

:lol:

and more so those on the other forum

Originally Posted by Manish

@Farce, I really understand the situation. It happens with me as well. My wife is too consious about her weight, so she keeps on asking me Am I going fat?? Need not to tell you my answer to her, if in case I genrally advice her to stay fit, she will skip her immediate meal, which I really don't like.

I can understand preeti being paranoid about looking for Mr.perfect, but worrying after marriage, that I don't !!!

Originally Posted by newprouser

:.., but worrying after marriage, that I don't !!!

did you get married?????

-F

Originally Posted by farce

did you get married?????

-F

:no: u r quoting me out of context !

But i have always heard from those who did.....

"Gals worry a lot b4 marriage , happy after marriage and guys are vice-versa"

nothing of tht sort....

According to the situation and needs be honest
If you had to say a lie to save some one or something they say it.
Lie can be told to anyone if that lie does not hurt anyone's feelings

Little white lies are OK. just like a small amount of excess salt
in the sambar is ok, but if it is too salty it will ruin the sambar.

There are some situations where people have to lie but according to me if you cant say truth to your partner then definately something is missing in the relationship. It may hurt but at the end of the day you wont regret . My personal oppinion is life partner is that person who should know your deepest secrets even those which made you feel guilty . if he or she cant accept that then you are just passing time not living happily ever after.

but thats just my view & experince
chhers

Originally Posted by abhilash81

There are some situations where people have to lie but according to me if you cant say truth to your partner then definately something is missing in the relationship. It may hurt but at the end of the day you wont regret . My personal oppinion is life partner is that person who should know your deepest secrets even those which made you feel guilty . if he or she cant accept that then you are just passing time not living happily ever after.

but thats just my view & experince
chhers

Hi Abhilash, Welcome to IBB. Please stay and contirubute.

what you say is acceptable, but it is too idealistic,
In the real world most people won't have the maturity
to accept and handle the partners' deepest, darkets and
dirtiest secrets.

-F

honesty is the most important. whatever the situation no lies has to
be said. this is the rule followed by my ancestors who were the
jamindaars till some time back, so others will respect our judgements.