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    I am doing some research for my script
    I would like to know how dad bond with his teenage son.
    Any suggestion or opinion is welcome .
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    Teenage is the most confusing period for a male... Testosterone levels are rocketing... They want to know as much as possible about opposite sex and about their own body... During this time, some teenagers avoid sitting with family, especially their fathers...

    Its prerogative of a father to take the initiative... He should take the kid out to watch movies, theme parks to start with... They can go out to some restaurants on weekends... And he can sit at home with his son, to talk about his classes, his friends, his problems... Later when they establish some kind of bond... A father should give his son some sex education... That will be very helpful for the kid during that phase and later on in life!

    A teenager wants little space and privacy... He should be given that... Else he may turn out to be a rebellion... But he should be always encouraged to socialize with relatives, family-friends and his own friends!

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    Teenage is the most confusing period for a male... Testosterone levels are rocketing... They want to know as much as possible about opposite sex and about their own body... During this time, some teenagers avoid sitting with family, especially their fathers...

    Its prerogative of a father to take the initiative... He should take the kid out to watch movies, theme parks to start with... They can go out to some restaurants on weekends... And he can sit at home with his son, to talk about his classes, his friends, his problems... Later when they establish some kind of bond... A father should give his son some sex education... That will be very helpful for the kid during that phase and later on in life!

    A teenager wants little space and privacy... He should be given that... Else he may turn out to be a rebellion... But he should be always encouraged to socialize with relatives, family-friends and his own friends!
    Thanks a lot for the info
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    Yep what maddy said is very true.
    it is the thing which is lacking in current generation and teenagers are going in to wrong direction. If father takes time and gives such advices then i am sure many of the problems for the boy's life wull be solved before starting itself

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    kind of bond... A father should give his son some sex education... That will be very helpful for the kid during that phase and later on in life!
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    the teenager probably knows more about sex than his dad.

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    at least more than what his Dad knew at his age.

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    According to my belief fathers must be more involved with sons on these issues. In christian countries(except some)they are more than wanted,open to their wards. They will talk like teens themselves with their sons. Watch and party together. Drinking together with family is a custom there. But in India a guy in this sophisticated age needs to be handled with care. Cause as i cited above. An Indian guy will feel more confused and he is typically told about the taboos of this age from the beginning. So that the guy doesnt get spoiled. I think guys were meant for gals and the vice versa. Father too got up from this teenage so he must understand his fruit and his needs. But not spoil him. Theres a limit. I myself am dictatorial. I feel like i will beat my son
    job takes the child away.

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    was your father dictatorial or liberal?
    i'd guess he was too lenient with you
    thats why Maa ka Ladla bigad gaya

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    ^^my Father is liberal, but disciplined person. My Mother is open minded but disciplined too..
    both were strict but Mother is good friend, while Papa is friend only about talks of cric, world affairs, religious talks, etc...Mother asks me about my gf, but tells me even the preferences..so we are a strict people with open mindedness...

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    Papa never beated me, but Maa beaten me till 5 years back,...
    i did horrible mischievs....
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    job takes the child away.

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    beating kids and that too teenagers is not a good idea


    The teenager is going to turn around and beat the hell out of you

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    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    the teenager probably knows more about sex than his dad.

    -F
    By sex education... I meant he should be educated on how and why to control his emotions, sexual urge or carnal desires... Not about how and in which positions it can be done!

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    By sex education... I meant he should be educated on how and why to control his emotions, sexual urge or carnal desires... Not about how and in which positions it can be done!
    If I have a teenage son my entire sex education to him would be
    "Son, if you are going to have sex, use a condom"


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    :lol: :lol:

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    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    beating kids and that too teenagers is not a good idea


    The teenager is going to turn around and beat the hell out of you

    -F
    i am a judoka. Black belt.
    job takes the child away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mail2sc View Post
    i am a judoka. Black belt.
    I know (from the picture thread)
    Your son could be a degree above you in black belt

    -F

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    and may also learn Kungfu

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    and also Sambo and
    Systema , from his mother's side.

    -F

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    Teenage is the most confusing period for a male... Testosterone levels are rocketing... They want to know as much as possible about opposite sex and about their own body... During this time, some teenagers avoid sitting with family, especially their fathers...

    Its prerogative of a father to take the initiative... He should take the kid out to watch movies, theme parks to start with... They can go out to some restaurants on weekends... And he can sit at home with his son, to talk about his classes, his friends, his problems... Later when they establish some kind of bond... A father should give his son some sex education... That will be very helpful for the kid during that phase and later on in life!

    A teenager wants little space and privacy... He should be given that... Else he may turn out to be a rebellion... But he should be always encouraged to socialize with relatives, family-friends and his own friends!
    i totally agree ....since guys due to peers get influenced much faster than females....also the maturity level of boys n girls is soo much faster than earlier...... i m sure a lot of fathers would agree to tht....

    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    the teenager probably knows more about sex than his dad.

    -F
    Quote Originally Posted by panchabhut View Post
    at least more than what his Dad knew at his age.
    still its always better to talk n discuss ......that ways the bond btwn em would grow.....healthier too......

    Quote Originally Posted by panchabhut View Post
    was your father dictatorial or liberal?
    i'd guess he was too lenient with you
    thats why Maa ka Ladla bigad gaya
    LOL.....

    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    beating kids and that too teenagers is not a good idea


    The teenager is going to turn around and beat the hell out of you

    -F
    they should be explained first but yes if there is a need than a slap should b more appropriate than beating up....

    Quote Originally Posted by itsmemad View Post
    By sex education... I meant he should be educated on how and why to control his emotions, sexual urge or carnal desires... Not about how and in which positions it can be done!
    yea yeah.... prolly he should gift a book to the boy.....
    Dont count wat u lost, cherish wat u ve & plan wat to gain...coz past neva returns but future may return the lost! Think-Decide-Act!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi View Post
    yea yeah.... prolly he should gift a book to the boy.....
    Kamasutra...

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    yea ....obviously....should make him understnd the theory first ......

    i wonder the comin genrations.....How Fast thy would be?
    Dont count wat u lost, cherish wat u ve & plan wat to gain...coz past neva returns but future may return the lost! Think-Decide-Act!!!!

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    About Taboo issues

    I think Parents should discuss this issue with their children .... For sons this would be best done by their father as he is likely to be the one his son can best associate with .
    If fathers dont do this the son is likely to find it out himself . This will be dangerous as the most common source are their friends and they are likely to receive wrong information .

    Better that father take up his responsibility and tell him whats correct .This will also build up trust and the son may become more frank with his parents and more likely to respect and heed their words

    About Corporal punishment

    Like farce said sons fighting back fathers is common abroad , but not in india ... But IMO this is a very wrong way to bring up your children .... It will only serve to teach the children that you can achieve whatever you want through violence .... and this will also lead to the consequence that your son is likely to stop trusting you and he may start distancing himself from u ....

    Achieving your goals without corporal punishment is very very difficult , but is the only lasting solution

    I think she must have finished her article .... fathers day is long over

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN View Post
    About Corporal punishment

    Like farce said sons fighting back fathers is common abroad , but not in india ...
    Actually I meant more in India. I don't think it is that common abroad.

    of course my opinion comes from all the Tamil movies and
    Sun TV mega-serials.

    Just last week Adhitya hit his father and pushed him down the stairs
    and sent him to the hospital in Kolangal serial. (the dad's paralysis
    got cured because of the fall! but that's another story) and this week
    Karthik slaps his uncle and sends him out of the house in the same serial.


    There is no serial without one of these happening
    Husband slaps wife
    son slaps father/mother
    daughter slaps some young guy that she later falls in love with.
    parents slap grown children when they insist on marrying someone they like.


    Like I say to my wife, SUN TV definitely elevates my blood pressure.

    -F

    Quote Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN View Post
    I think she must have finished her article .... fathers day is long over
    That's padnar's standard modus operandi.
    start:
    She comes with a post
    asking for input, disappears, comes back in two weeks with an
    unrelated question. Then starts another thread asking for input.
    goto start;



    -F
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    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    Actually I meant more in India. I don't think it is that common abroad.

    of course my opinion comes from all the Tamil movies and
    Sun TV mega-serials.

    Just last week Adhitya hit his father and pushed him down the stairs
    and sent him to the hospital in Kolangal serial. (the dad's paralysis
    got cured because of the fall! but that's another story) and this week
    Karthik slaps his uncle and sends him out of the house in the same serial.


    There is no serial without one of these happening
    Husband slaps wife
    son slaps father/mother
    daughter slaps some young guy that she later falls in love with.
    parents slap grown children when they insist on marrying someone they like.
    You too watch those soaps

    Like I say to my wife, SUN TV definitely elevates my blood pressure.
    I'd love to say that to my parents, if only they are willing to act upon it .

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    To participate here i need to spend some more time with my dad
    I think in my whole life the time spent with dad can be counted in hours :sad:

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    That really is sad smoothy !

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    Quote Originally Posted by newprouser View Post
    You too watch those soaps



    I'd love to say that to my parents, if only they are willing to act upon it .
    I have no choice, my wife/parents controls the remote from 6 - 8 pm ;-)

    -F

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    oh, same prob

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    Quote Originally Posted by smoothvibes View Post
    To participate here i need to spend some more time with my dad
    I think in my whole life the time spent with dad can be counted in hours :sad:
    oh...how come?

    spending time with ur father is jus soo much fun.....

    be it a daughter or a son....
    Dont count wat u lost, cherish wat u ve & plan wat to gain...coz past neva returns but future may return the lost! Think-Decide-Act!!!!

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    That would be true for all Daughters

    But for sons its their mum (atleast in my case)

    Quote Originally Posted by farce View Post
    Actually I meant more in India. I don't think it is that common abroad.

    of course my opinion comes from all the Tamil movies and
    Sun TV mega-serials.

    Just last week Adhitya hit his father and pushed him down the stairs
    and sent him to the hospital in Kolangal serial. (the dad's paralysis
    got cured because of the fall! but that's another story) and this week
    Karthik slaps his uncle and sends him out of the house in the same serial.


    There is no serial without one of these happening
    Husband slaps wife
    son slaps father/mother
    daughter slaps some young guy that she later falls in love with.
    parents slap grown children when they insist on marrying someone they like.


    Like I say to my wife, SUN TV definitely elevates my blood pressure.

    -F
    No offensive .... but i think those are pure Horse Sh!t ... Most of them are barely believable ...... Does not in the least reflect real life scenarios IMHO
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    Quote Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN View Post
    That would be true for all Daughters

    But for sons its their mum
    True

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    yea i would say tht......

    typically its always soo.....dads favour their daughters n mom's their sons.......
    Dont count wat u lost, cherish wat u ve & plan wat to gain...coz past neva returns but future may return the lost! Think-Decide-Act!!!!

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