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rupu1983

Apparently we always feel that that one person have two life one personal life anther professional life and both are totally different.Yes that's probably true that human life can be divided into many category according to their activity. But really life can be separate ?
Although I don't think both are so much different or if it has difference then also they are related each other in one point.Actually if we think little deep then we will find that one life as whole a personal life and where professionalism is one of the part.Just like one person lead several life,life with his/her friends, life with his/her family,life with his/her wife/husband etc and finally life in his/her working area.Normally we play different role in each life and each time.But still this two part(personal & professional) of life has some major difference and I think we all want both part should stay independent.

Now my main question to all of you what's your opinion
Is both life is related each-other ? if yes
then really how much both part of the life can affect each other ?
and if your reply no then why ?
and final question that is the exact motivation of the thread also
how can we reduce the affect of each others life ?
I have asked this question because I feel lots of unprofessional people present in India in lots of sector and both life is completely related for them.

meetdilip

A man is best known at his home. That is the place where people behave what they truly are.

panchabhut

Never discuss office with your family. Never discuss family in office.
As a rule do not allow office people to call after office unless it is an absolute emergency. better still, ask them to sms and u decide whether to call or not. Same applies for family members when u are in office.
Try not to attend office on sundays and other holidays
Make sure to spend time with your family on a daily basis.

Punch Farce

As usual PB comes up with some good advice, I agree with the
general concept but I personally have mixed work and home
these days. I work from home a lot which gives me the
opportunity to spend time with my family and also get the work done.
I am usualy working from home from 10pm to 1-2am. then from
6am to 10am. then I go to office between 10am and 7 pm.
Since I have been working in this place for a long time my
coworkers are also my friends and this further narrows down
the demarcation between social and work life.

-F

18lama

PB that is very good tip...but I have seen lots of people being forced to work late on weekends and sometimes even on Sundays. Sometimes they are forced to work on weekends and get threatened with sacking if they don't.

This is true for most MNCs, banks etc.

Pri_dm

well there are moments when there are things about work you wanto share with your spouse as he/she is the only person you can rely on. on weekends over a cup of tea sometimes me and soumyo discuss all these try to put our opinion try to guide each other but at the same time try not losing the essence of personal affairs. i personally believe if 2 people are working they do understand how things are for each other and adjustment aint that tough. i mean thats how it is with me and soumyo. i cant talk for everyone. still from our part we need to show every possible way that we care for each other. spending weekends listening to favourite music being how we were before marriage going out for dates long drives talking anything maybe any nonsense giving each other token of loves i guess that way a husband or a wife wont ever complain.

i never mind soumyo working late as i understand how hard it is for him and likewise if i have to work late even soumyo never minds we try to make up for the whole week in our sweeet weekends. :-)

rupu1983

Yes I saw all the reply, very well replied dilip,panchabhut,Farce,Amal,Pri_dm
but I have one little observation I saw few other side of various person from my personal experience where few person those who don't have good personal life that mean not many person present in personal life or we can say they have lots problem even family member never understand that problem of him/her in such case I saw few of them just try to find any person even in professional area who can understand his/her personal problem that mean this search also present in working place also.Because without happy mind human can't do anything either in professional field or personal life.

krumster

i feel like a lot of the skills and training you get from your professional life apply to your personal life, and vice versa. like teamwork and communication skills - those are both necessary in your family and romantic relationships, crucial to making a marriage work. yet a lot of the fundamental elements of your personal relationships, such as empathy, patience, and self and mutual respect, also apply to making your professional relationships with your colleagues successful.

i also feel like many of the ****-ups and basket cases inevitably show some of those symptoms in their professional career, whether in the way they get along or don't get along with their colleagues, or the way they work in groups, etc. it's very difficult to have a professional persona that's strictly different from your "true" "personal" self. it's probably not healthy to compartmentalize to such an extent either. we are all multi-faceted creatures, and the development of one aspect always transfers and affects other areas of our being.

anyone here ever date the boss? or a co-worker?

heehee

i've never done so, but i hear that when it ends badly, it's BAD.

nakchura

That's right. That's how things should actually be you know.

savvyeyty

You know I really find it irritating when couples tend to share they're feelings that are unrelated to both of them. Result most of the times is that it excalates in to a full fight that usually torn up the relationship.

bubble

You should try and keep the two apart. My husband and I work together in one business but we also have other work interests too.

Your partner is the onw with who you are supposed to communicate with the most, so I don't see how you cannot talk to them about your good or bad day at the office.