Thread: Flirting the Indian way...

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

I was waiting for your post preeti

This is correct that guys stare white girls like anything but why you are not talking about the other set of guys who just pass by without giving any damm to white/black/brown any race (here i am talking about some decent guys)

I think if we put up the bad side of our society then showing the other better part also is our duty.

oh come off it smoothy, no matter where you go a guy in India will always look at a girl in the wrong way, I eat the fact that any man would not look at a girl in a rude way and just look as in general!

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

I was waiting for your post preeti

This is correct that guys stare white girls like anything but why you are not talking about the other set of guys who just pass by without giving any damm to white/black/brown any race (here i am talking about some decent guys)

I think if we put up the bad side of our society then showing the other better part also is our duty.

other set of guys as in "gay"

just kidding mate...

Yeh more posh the place less the stares.. it really depends what kind of crowd you are sorrounded by..

Originally Posted by M_J_82

On my last day in Mumbai I went to a disco, a friend of mine (not Indian, but a guy), an Indian friend and other friends of the latter... I felt a bit strange as they rarely talked to me, although they knew that my friend and I weren't a couple.

Couple of otherwise ... most guys would tend to kind of stay away from a female accompnaid with a friend of their as a majority would take offence if one of their friends would eye up their female companion... its that "thing" it doesnt matter if you were a couple of not its considerd to be polite to behave like that... but it really depends what sort of crowd it is you cannot generalise as India is such a diverse country..

Here in North Indian (talking about middle class families) say for instance a family visits your place ... you would have men sitting in the living room having a drink or just a cup of tea and females in one of the bedroom talking about whats going on in the neighborhood.. (not litrally)
All in all you cant really get an exact idea by just exchanging views here on this forum or any other for that matter... You would have to mingle with the local and see it for yourself to get a good idea of the local customs and ways..

Some one please correct me if I am wrong.

All in all you cant really get an exact idea by just exchanging views here on this forum or any other for that matter... You would have to mingle with the local and see it for yourself to get a good idea of the local customs and ways..

Definitely true, it was just to get a veeery rough idea of the whole story Having lived in several countries for a couple of months/ years, I know that living in a country and traveling through a country is not at all the same...

you could actually pass of as Indian. Lots of Indian women look like you.

-F

Originally Posted by Punch Farce

you could actually pass of as Indian. Lots of Indian women look like you.

-F

and how do you know that :confused1:

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

and how do you know that :confused1:

I am psychic ;-) Let's see if she confirms my guess.

-F
what do you think? doesn't she look a bit Indian?

Originally Posted by Punch Farce

I am psychic ;-) Let's see if she confirms my guess.

-F
what do you think? doesn't she look a bit Indian?

:lol: Farce has visited her blog..You should join our IBF detective Gothic_Coder

Hehehehe, nobody ever told me I look Indian

Originally Posted by M_J_82

Hehehehe, nobody ever told me I look Indian

No, Farce was trying to say that there are many girls in India who looks like you, if you are in the picture above.

You can visit some states like assam, Mizoram, Arunachal pradesh, where you can find girls having similar looks as yours..

If lots of Indian woman look like me or if I look like lots of Indian woman is the same thing... unless I got something wrong But maybe I should just go there hehehe

Originally Posted by M_J_82

If lots of Indian woman look like me or if I look like lots of Indian woman is the same thing... unless I got something wrong But maybe I should just go there hehehe

True up to some extent. You can say water is fluid, but all fluids are not water. Actually some Indians have got the looks of foreigners, and can be easily differentiated among other Indians, but they are too Indians. So if you will have Indian attitude, you can be treated like them.

I think this is your first visit to India. India is full of different cultures, societies, religions, languages etc. having different moral and social values. Flirting has been taken on different senses as well.

If you can specify your view about flirting then it will be easy for us. Mostly major Indian societies do not encourage flirting, they have negative opinion on flirting. But there are also many people who are comfortable with it.

It seems like you are French or spent a lot of of time in France. I can guess you are talking about open relationship. Am I right?

Actually it was my first visit to India and I liked the trip pretty much. It's an amazing country. Really.

And no, I'm (fortunately hehehe) not French, but I've been living here for a couple of years now. I'm half German, half Chinese (Malaysia).

Originally Posted by neer001

If you can specify your view about flirting then it will be easy for us.

Ermmm, what do you mean?

I cant remember having mentioned something having to do with "open relationships"... What are you talking about exactly?

M_J_82 here are some of the topics which you may find interesting or the topics which can help you to get something new/more about Indian society

http://www.indiabroadband.net/relati...ety-ready.html
http://www.indiabroadband.net/relati...-marriage.html

Thanks, one of them I already read. Interesting.

The kundli stuff seems to be very similar (if not the same) to the horoscope system over here.

Originally Posted by M_J_82

Hehehehe, nobody ever told me I look Indian

Originally Posted by neer001

No, Farce was trying to say that there are many girls in India who looks like you, if you are in the picture above.

You can visit some states like assam, Mizoram, Arunachal pradesh, where you can find girls having similar looks as yours..

Originally Posted by M_J_82

Actually it was my first visit to India and I liked the trip pretty much. It's an amazing country. Really.

And no, I'm (fortunately hehehe) not French, but I've been living here for a couple of years now. I'm half German, half Chinese (Malaysia).

People from the North Eastern part of India have strong influence of Tibetan//Chinese/Thai culture due to geological effects. And your picture have a strong resemblance to many of them, possibly because you are also part-Chinese.

You need to spend some more time in this country. May be you would not like to go out of it.

Originally Posted by panchabhut

People from the North Eastern part of India have strong influence of Tibetan//Chinese/Thai culture due to geological effects. And your picture have a strong resemblance to many of them, possibly because you are also part-Chinese.

I definitely want to see the Northeastern part

Originally Posted by panchabhut

You need to spend some more time in this country. May be you would not like to go out of it.

Yeah, next time I want to see some other parts of India. Like Kolkata, the Himalaya and maybe some parts of the South. The country is so huge. Had just been to Rajasthan, Delhi, Mumbai, Agra and Varanansi....

But before that I've to learn some Hindi I guess. Not everybody speaks English... Maybe I find a way to spend some time over there, like a couple of months or something

Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

Am I allow to express my view ? I want to comment on something.

Yeah, why not

Thread' is on Flirting the Indian way... not Indian Diversity or something else. DTIS

Originally Posted by M_J_82

Yeah, why not

There are boys in every culture who don't care about girls.

Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

Thread' is on Flirting the Indian way... not Indian Diversity or something else.

Sorry, still waiting for an answer of neer001...

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Originally Posted by neer001 View Post
If you can specify your view about flirting then it will be easy for us.

Originally Posted by M_J_82

Sorry, still waiting for an answer of neer001...

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Originally Posted by neer001 View Post
If you can specify your view about flirting then it will be easy for us.

Thanks for considering my points and also Sorry for waiting so long.

Flirting can be taken by many different ways. For Example some of them are (Following Definitions are taken from various sources with some alteration) :-

-talk or behave affectionately, without serious intentions
-(often with) to behave (towards someone) as though one were in love but without serious intentions
-To make teasingly romantic or sexual approach.
-It is a playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest
-It is a negotiation process that takes place after there has been some initial attraction.
-It is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction

While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand.
In general conversation in India it is taken as seducing with his/her sex appeal to use/exploit men/women, hence it is not commonly encouraged in India.

But the things are changing now. The new generation is rethinking about old traditions which are continued through ages and adopting and merging latest thoughts.

I can say flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct.

Now come to open relationship. It can be described in several ways:

An open relationship is a relationship where one person does not own the other. The couples are not exclusively seeing each other and although sex is usually kept between the two, they can date, flirt and hook up with other people should they wish to do so. In a true open relationship the couple will be fully honest with each other.

In a truly open relationship neither partner cheats on the other. Instead they have actively negotiated the boundaries of the relationship in terms of how they interface sexually and emotionally with others.

There is no right or wrong in terms of how a couple decide to structure these boundaries – what’s important is that both parties are agreeable to and comfortable with whatever is decided.

This is going off topic but I really wanted to get your points on above issues as you belong to a different culture and society. It is necessary for us so that we can help you in best ways and it may also help you to prepare yourself before involving on these.

I agree with your definition of flirting

Originally Posted by neer001

There are differences in how closely people should stand.
In general conversation in India it is taken as seducing with his/her sex appeal to use/exploit men/women, hence it is not commonly encouraged in India.

So does that mean that just talking to the opposite sex is already considered seducing??? Isn't it possible just to have a normal conversation?

Over here (Europe), talking to the other sex isn't anything special as long as you don't try to flirt with the person.

Originally Posted by neer001

But the things are changing now. The new generation is rethinking about old traditions which are continued through ages and adopting and merging latest thoughts.

What are the effects?

Originally Posted by neer001

Now come to open relationship. It can be described in several ways:

An open relationship is a relationship where one person does not own the other. The couples are not exclusively seeing each other and although sex is usually kept between the two, they can date, flirt and hook up with other people should they wish to do so. In a true open relationship the couple will be fully honest with each other.

In a truly open relationship neither partner cheats on the other. Instead they have actively negotiated the boundaries of the relationship in terms of how they interface sexually and emotionally with others.

There is no right or wrong in terms of how a couple decide to structure these boundaries – what’s important is that both parties are agreeable to and comfortable with whatever is decided.

Honestly, the concept of what you call "open" relationship is kind of new for me. I know "normal" relationships over here, you are with your partner (either you live with him/her or you don't), have sex with him/her, but normally you also have the right to meet persons of the opposite sex, which usually does not include flirting (or more) with the other. The other form I know is "sex relationship", you have relations with a buddy or someone else, no emotions involved.

I didn't really get why you described the concept of open relationships? Do you think that this is common in India or over here?

Originally Posted by M_J_82

So does that mean that just talking to the opposite sex is already considered seducing??? Isn't it possible just to have a normal conversation?

I don't agree with this.

Flirting & talking is different for me.

neer001 The last post you made here is a cocktail of wiki and urban dictionary ... the whole thing copied like for like...

If you don't have anything to add to the thread please refrain from copy pasting stuff from other websites that too without mentioning that its copied and the source either..

Originally Posted by Admin

neer001 The last post you made here is a cocktail of wiki and urban dictionary ... the whole thing copied like for like...

If you don't have anything to add to the thread please refrain from copy pasting stuff from other websites that too without mentioning that its copied and the source either..

It's not like copy paste. I just never figure out definitions on such subjects, just discussed with friends about it's effects. Those friends were from different places of the country from almost very broad minded backgrounds.

So to make it clear to understand ( You know very well that this is taking negatively in general and I don't want to hurt someones feeling) I have searched for opinions from different places. I just wanted to figure out the specific definitions for different senses. That's all.

I really did not wanted to feel anyone Embarrassed. If the survey is not allowed here then I will follow the rule.

Thanks for informing me.

Originally Posted by M_J_82

I agree with your definition of flirting



So does that mean that just talking to the opposite sex is already considered seducing??? Isn't it possible just to have a normal conversation?

Over here (Europe), talking to the other sex isn't anything special as long as you don't try to flirt with the person.

Definitely not. Talking in friendly way to opposite sex is not seducing. Friendship with opposite gender is very common and most people take it as a healthy relationship in urban areas, specially in metros.

Same is here but I wanted to know what is flirting you were talking and how it is being taken in European countries. I have given almost every definition I've found. Which one is your type?

Hi M J

Anyone could help enlightening me on the question how serious you have to take it, when an Indian guy is flirting with you? How do these things work in India?

It depends up on the person what he/she is thinking in his/her mind. It could be time pass or flirting or a genuine effort to woo a date. Here in the specific case its a bit difficult to say without much information but i believe my last statement will give some idea about reliability.

On my last day in Mumbai I went to a disco, a friend of mine (not Indian, but a guy), an Indian friend and other friends of the latter... I felt a bit strange as they rarely talked to me, although they knew that my friend and I weren't a couple.

One new reason others have not given could be: those guys might have been intimidated/overwhelmed by a foreign girl among them to talk on the first meeting itself. On the contrary it could also be like somebody said, they were respecting their friend's guest.

more like being in contact with that person, he talks to you very nicely promising you loads of things... and then doesn't fulfill them... Normal?

I think this is flirting as this guy is trying to impress you with this talk, and is trying to gather your attention by promising loads of things. Many times these are 'sweet nothings' which won't be followed up later. But i think one can find out how reliable is a person, by seeing whether they live up to their words or not..... be it in love or business or other transactions.

Originally Posted by Admin

neer001 The last post you made here is a cocktail of wiki and urban dictionary ... the whole thing copied like for like...

If you don't have anything to add to the thread please refrain from copy pasting stuff from other websites that too without mentioning that its copied and the source either..

thanks for mentioning. I was beginning to get impressed by neer01's writings ;-)