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M_J_82

I definitely want to see the Northeastern part

Yeah, next time I want to see some other parts of India. Like Kolkata, the Himalaya and maybe some parts of the South. The country is so huge. Had just been to Rajasthan, Delhi, Mumbai, Agra and Varanansi....

But before that I've to learn some Hindi I guess. Not everybody speaks English... Maybe I find a way to spend some time over there, like a couple of months or something

Yeah, why not

Luke Skywalker

Thread' is on Flirting the Indian way... not Indian Diversity or something else. DTIS

There are boys in every culture who don't care about girls.

M_J_82

Sorry, still waiting for an answer of neer001...

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Originally Posted by neer001 View Post
If you can specify your view about flirting then it will be easy for us.

neer001

Thanks for considering my points and also Sorry for waiting so long.

Flirting can be taken by many different ways. For Example some of them are (Following Definitions are taken from various sources with some alteration) :-

-talk or behave affectionately, without serious intentions
-(often with) to behave (towards someone) as though one were in love but without serious intentions
-To make teasingly romantic or sexual approach.
-It is a playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest
-It is a negotiation process that takes place after there has been some initial attraction.
-It is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction

While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand.
In general conversation in India it is taken as seducing with his/her sex appeal to use/exploit men/women, hence it is not commonly encouraged in India.

But the things are changing now. The new generation is rethinking about old traditions which are continued through ages and adopting and merging latest thoughts.

I can say flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct.

Now come to open relationship. It can be described in several ways:

An open relationship is a relationship where one person does not own the other. The couples are not exclusively seeing each other and although sex is usually kept between the two, they can date, flirt and hook up with other people should they wish to do so. In a true open relationship the couple will be fully honest with each other.

In a truly open relationship neither partner cheats on the other. Instead they have actively negotiated the boundaries of the relationship in terms of how they interface sexually and emotionally with others.

There is no right or wrong in terms of how a couple decide to structure these boundaries – what’s important is that both parties are agreeable to and comfortable with whatever is decided.

This is going off topic but I really wanted to get your points on above issues as you belong to a different culture and society. It is necessary for us so that we can help you in best ways and it may also help you to prepare yourself before involving on these.

M_J_82

I agree with your definition of flirting

So does that mean that just talking to the opposite sex is already considered seducing??? Isn't it possible just to have a normal conversation?

Over here (Europe), talking to the other sex isn't anything special as long as you don't try to flirt with the person.

What are the effects?

Honestly, the concept of what you call "open" relationship is kind of new for me. I know "normal" relationships over here, you are with your partner (either you live with him/her or you don't), have sex with him/her, but normally you also have the right to meet persons of the opposite sex, which usually does not include flirting (or more) with the other. The other form I know is "sex relationship", you have relations with a buddy or someone else, no emotions involved.

I didn't really get why you described the concept of open relationships? Do you think that this is common in India or over here?

Luke Skywalker

I don't agree with this.

Flirting & talking is different for me.

Admin

neer001 The last post you made here is a cocktail of wiki and urban dictionary ... the whole thing copied like for like...

If you don't have anything to add to the thread please refrain from copy pasting stuff from other websites that too without mentioning that its copied and the source either..

neer001

It's not like copy paste. I just never figure out definitions on such subjects, just discussed with friends about it's effects. Those friends were from different places of the country from almost very broad minded backgrounds.

So to make it clear to understand ( You know very well that this is taking negatively in general and I don't want to hurt someones feeling) I have searched for opinions from different places. I just wanted to figure out the specific definitions for different senses. That's all.

I really did not wanted to feel anyone Embarrassed. If the survey is not allowed here then I will follow the rule.

Thanks for informing me.

Definitely not. Talking in friendly way to opposite sex is not seducing. Friendship with opposite gender is very common and most people take it as a healthy relationship in urban areas, specially in metros.

Same is here but I wanted to know what is flirting you were talking and how it is being taken in European countries. I have given almost every definition I've found. Which one is your type?

za80

Hi M J


It depends up on the person what he/she is thinking in his/her mind. It could be time pass or flirting or a genuine effort to woo a date. Here in the specific case its a bit difficult to say without much information but i believe my last statement will give some idea about reliability.


One new reason others have not given could be: those guys might have been intimidated/overwhelmed by a foreign girl among them to talk on the first meeting itself. On the contrary it could also be like somebody said, they were respecting their friend's guest.

I think this is flirting as this guy is trying to impress you with this talk, and is trying to gather your attention by promising loads of things. Many times these are 'sweet nothings' which won't be followed up later. But i think one can find out how reliable is a person, by seeing whether they live up to their words or not..... be it in love or business or other transactions.

Punch Farce

thanks for mentioning. I was beginning to get impressed by neer01's writings ;-)

neer001

Come on Farce, I've already mentioned it that the definitions were taken from various places. Everyone uses his/her own resources, whether it is from books, visual or print media, friends, interaction with people, visiting places...etc.

"One is not born a genius, one becomes a genius" -anonymous

I'm not trying to impress anyone.

Just sharing things to improve my own knowledge and others as well. This is my first forum I've ever joined so I apologize for my mistakes.

Punch Farce

don't take it seriously, I am pulling your leg ;-)

-F

neer001

And you have broken my Heart....
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Just kidding.

creobiz

I think it is common not only in India but also in other oriental countries. But I agree that things are changing. We are not expected to be to strict and "pure" anymore, especially if we live in a big city.

infomadness

wow..!! lot of opinions here..