Thread: Arranged versus love marriage

well i guess any marraige is better than none...
but off course i know many would disagree.

Arranged marriage:-

A few days ago you were strangers and now she is your wife

Tats a bit freaky to me

Love marriage:-

I guess its ok .....Admin ?

Yeh love marriage is alright.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

You said in places to eat thread that blah blah chicken dish is so nice..........how do u know it is if ur a veg?

i said that i am veg but never said that my dad and my friends are veg.
I hope i answered your question preeti

Any marriage is good if you get a good girl,may it be arranged or love....I love my parents and also would love, to love her....All i expect after marriage is PEACEFUL life..

Whatever i am going to get married i would take some time to make us both understand each other..which happens by default in love marriage..

Shaadi ka Ladoo...:52:

Jo khaye pachhtaye:thumbdown:

Jo na khaye pachhtaye

Originally Posted by manish_lalit

Shaadi ka Ladoo...:52:

Jo khaye pachhtaye:thumbdown:

Jo na khaye pachhtaye

bahot dino k baad suna... hehehe..:14:

If you are to get an arranged marriage it is good to spend some time with the girl just to get comfortable with each other and know each other, as sometimes things can turn out nasty after marriage if things aren't clear.

ya its good to know each other before marriage, i know lot many people who just marry without knowing anything about each other and after that they cry for such decision, on other hand sometimes (very rare) it happens that arrange marriage also works good forever

but then again many say its all about adjustin...
immaterial of love marraige or arranged marraige..

but i dont understand how u can totally adjust to someone who seems from a different planet.

Originally Posted by Alexina

but then again many say its all about adjustin...
immaterial of love marraige or arranged marraige..

adjusting means compromise and this is something which can not work forever. Its better to understand your life partner before getting married and going for any commitment coz after this it can be a pain for lifetime

very true..
i dont think i could totally change to adjust for a week forget a whole lifetime.

but then i say my parents generation did a lot of adjustin for marraiges sake..hats off to them.

the current generation is too screwd up, so its impossible for us to exhibit such patience.

same here arranged marriage and this compromise is really very sick idea for the whole life. One can compromise for a week or so but for the whole life hmy:
a Big
NO :ninja:

Originally Posted by Alexina

my god..some people in here have researched this topic for long and have their own thesis to submit. good:14:

as for me i ll prefer a love marraige..that way if things get screwed up i can i say it was my own choice and blame some else for it..(oh yes wen things get messes we all need som1 to blame)

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Wow this is one of my favourite topics and I am not disappointed . As a writer I posed this question in another forum . Yu will be surprised to know that there also they say marriage work only with compromise . When I said In India only girls compromise and the men do nothing one lady assured me her husband only watches TV and drink beer .
padma

But all men r not same also... I've a friend who takes care of his spouse more than nething... yes, he goes out to party n stuffs... his wife also accompanies him most of times... n when she doesn't... he makes it a point to return home asap.... shez very cute too... she loves being with him newhr... its been 4 yrs they married... but their marriage nvr looks like a compromise... very good understanding... n yes, its a love-cum-arranged marriage...

I am not Indian so I will not give my views on the subject but it is a subject that I have always been facinated with!

Marriage is nothing but a faith.Both marriage can be successful it depends upon a person, how they treat each other, their understanding, commitment, trust,respect for each other, trying to know each other well makes it even better.:14:

but the truth is today a lot of people fear commitment and decide to stay single till they reach an age where they regret the decision.

Originally Posted by sfabobby03

I am not Indian so I will not give my views on the subject but it is a subject that I have always been facinated with!

Go ahead and post , the more the merrier . In fact i welcome foreigner's suggestions . By the way this is also my favourite topic . I am a midle aged Indian lady and a writer and I am really enjoying it.
padma

I personally think like many others that love's absolutely necessary, so that there's no problems afterwards living together n all...
or many a times in an arranged marriage the girl just thinks she's stuck forever with a bloke she doesn't like, or vice versa, which will give rise to unnecessary tension for both.

Only when u have found urself compatible with each other shud u become engaged. And this does not happen in short notice.

Originally Posted by Admin

I know love marriages are ok coz Ive had one myself... alas I cant find out what is it like to get an arranged marriage done

This is true admin ...
All those who mentioned "both are okey" seem to be married twice and preferable the first one being arranged and then love.
To me ... still got to try Love marriage.
Btw ne one has seen that Tea company ad where a question is put to a grandma whether her's was a arranged marriage or love and she answers love... ??

Originally Posted by sfabobby03

I am not Indian so I will not give my views on the subject but it is a subject that I have always been facinated with!

Being a foreigner doesn't mean that u can't express your views on this forum... Go on buddy... We Indians would love to hear ur perspective on this subject... And it would be nice if u mention about your nationality too...

Originally Posted by padnar

Go ahead and post , the more the merrier . In fact i welcome foreigner's suggestions . By the way this is also my favourite topic . I am a midle aged Indian lady and a writer and I am really enjoying it.
padma

Hey this is great !! Writer ?? What do you really write ? I mean what subject ?
Seems your next write up WILL include "Kind of Marriages" !!

Dear Admin/Friends.. This is news !!

Originally Posted by lovelyMe

Hey this is great !! Writer ?? What do you really write ? I mean what subject ?
Seems your next write up WILL include "Kind of Marriages" !!

Dear Admin/Friends.. This is news !!

I think she has already posted a post somewhere about the subject she writes on ...will tell u when i remember where

Originally Posted by Eddy

I think she has already posted a post somewhere about the subject she writes on ...will tell u when i remember where

Thx Eddy.