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Old 09-19-08, 11:40 PM   #41
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I am not Indian so I will not give my views on the subject but it is a subject that I have always been facinated with!
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Marriage is nothing but a faith.Both marriage can be successful it depends upon a person, how they treat each other, their understanding, commitment, trust,respect for each other, trying to know each other well makes it even better.
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but the truth is today a lot of people fear commitment and decide to stay single till they reach an age where they regret the decision.
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I am not Indian so I will not give my views on the subject but it is a subject that I have always been facinated with!
Go ahead and post , the more the merrier . In fact i welcome foreigner's suggestions . By the way this is also my favourite topic . I am a midle aged Indian lady and a writer and I am really enjoying it.
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I personally think like many others that love's absolutely necessary, so that there's no problems afterwards living together n all...
or many a times in an arranged marriage the girl just thinks she's stuck forever with a bloke she doesn't like, or vice versa, which will give rise to unnecessary tension for both.

Only when u have found urself compatible with each other shud u become engaged. And this does not happen in short notice.
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I know love marriages are ok coz Ive had one myself... alas I cant find out what is it like to get an arranged marriage done
This is true admin ...
All those who mentioned "both are okey" seem to be married twice and preferable the first one being arranged and then love.
To me ... still got to try Love marriage.
Btw ne one has seen that Tea company ad where a question is put to a grandma whether her's was a arranged marriage or love and she answers love... ??
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I am not Indian so I will not give my views on the subject but it is a subject that I have always been facinated with!
Being a foreigner doesn't mean that u can't express your views on this forum... Go on buddy... We Indians would love to hear ur perspective on this subject... And it would be nice if u mention about your nationality too...
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Go ahead and post , the more the merrier . In fact i welcome foreigner's suggestions . By the way this is also my favourite topic . I am a midle aged Indian lady and a writer and I am really enjoying it.
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Hey this is great !! Writer ?? What do you really write ? I mean what subject ?
Seems your next write up WILL include "Kind of Marriages" !!

Dear Admin/Friends.. This is news !!
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Old 09-20-08, 04:12 PM   #49
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Hey this is great !! Writer ?? What do you really write ? I mean what subject ?
Seems your next write up WILL include "Kind of Marriages" !!

Dear Admin/Friends.. This is news !!
I think she has already posted a post somewhere about the subject she writes on ...will tell u when i remember where
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I think she has already posted a post somewhere about the subject she writes on ...will tell u when i remember where
Thx Eddy.
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This is true admin ...
All those who mentioned "both are okey" seem to be married twice and preferable the first one being arranged and then love.
To me ... still got to try Love marriage.
Btw ne one has seen that Tea company ad where a question is put to a grandma whether her's was a arranged marriage or love and she answers love... ??
Yeh i seen the ad its good!

Well to be honest this love marriage and arranged marriage sometimes i think is just a name, life is what you make it!
There are equal amounts of love and arranged marriages which are successful.
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Btw ne one has seen that Tea company ad where a question is put to a grandma whether her's was a arranged marriage or love and she answers love... ??
U r probably quite good at citing or recalling related examples... keep it up!!
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yeh i seen the ad its good!

Well to be honest this love marriage and arranged marriage sometimes i think is just a name, life is what you make it!
There are equal amounts of love and arranged marriages which are successful.
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u r probably quite good at citing or recalling related examples... Keep it up!!
ekjactly !!
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Ms Padma y dont you open up a new topic just like this one?


This one's getting saturated ......
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no this is a good topic and still far to go!

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very true..
i dont think i could totally change to adjust for a week forget a whole lifetime.

but then i say my parents generation did a lot of adjustin for marraiges sake..hats off to them.

the current generation is too screwd up, so its impossible for us to exhibit such patience.
One thing we have to take into mind is that at those times that women were brought up and told to adapt, where as girls these days are not really grown up to this and more over women are more independent, before they were only dependent on the husband and his family and there was no such thing as divorce really.

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This is true admin ...
All those who mentioned "both are okey" seem to be married twice and preferable the first one being arranged and then love.
To me ... still got to try Love marriage.
Btw ne one has seen that Tea company ad where a question is put to a grandma whether her's was a arranged marriage or love and she answers love... ??
Im not married but i still think both marriages, sometimes the views that we say are reflected from the way we have grown up, what we have seen in families, how they are, the upbringing, and the society that we live in.........which all adds up to our thinking and behavior.
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same here arranged marriage and this compromise is really very sick idea for the whole life. One can compromise for a week or so but for the whole life
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What makes you think that arranged marriage is a compromise for life and love marriage is not.

Remember, love happens at a young age (mostly), love is blind, passion overpowers reason, etc.

So there are never guarantees. Anyway, I digress.
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You also have to take into consideration that on according to research its been said that arranged marriages last longer and are successful, i have nothing against love marriages but its something which has been said.

And the people who generally say that they cant do arranged marriages are the ones who don't know how to compromise even a little bit and don't really know how to care or understand others..........i fully believe that arranged marriages and love marriages are both successful and can lead to happy families.
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Old 09-22-08, 02:37 AM   #58
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You also have to take into consideration that on according to research its been said that arranged marriages last longer and are successful, i have nothing against love marriages but its something which has been said.

And the people who generally say that they cant do arranged marriages are the ones who don't know how to compromise even a little bit and don't really know how to care or understand others..........i fully believe that arranged marriages and love marriages are both successful and can lead to happy families.
preeti why you always speak against me

j4x here i said this coz i have seen some arranged marriages where people find really hard to digest the fact that they got married to a strange person.

Most recent thing which i remember is... my friend's girlfriend got married to someone in chandigarh and came back to her parents home just after one month of marriage as she was not happy there and now planing to marry this guy... so whats the harm in getting married on first place.
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You also have to take into consideration that on according to research its been said that arranged marriages last longer and are successful, i have nothing against love marriages but its something which has been said.

And the people who generally say that they cant do arranged marriages are the ones who don't know how to compromise even a little bit and don't really know how to care or understand others..........i fully believe that arranged marriages and love marriages are both successful and can lead to happy families.
i beg to differ ....A research also says that Domestic violence against women happen inside arranged marriages more than Love marriage ....source -THE HINDU newspaper...

I think it got a lot of attention in Britain ...Even the govt intervened ! !

Arranged marriage dont break cause women go thru hell to make it last...

And also cause the marriage is overwhelmingly supported by parents and society ..they do everything they possibly could to keep it together....

The notion that most Love marriage break is something intro ed by hollywood

And you also have to take into account the fact that nowadays our generation is much more smarter ....if we can make big career decisions , whats the problem in choosing a life partner? ..... Both r equally difficult and important ?

Well this is my take on this issue....
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Eddy you are my true friend...
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