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itsmemad

Yes, It might take just 1 more generation to become a common thing...

Future is very unpredictable... but yes, if we prepare ourselves b4... nobody will b hurt... just incase... u never know...

Preeti_20

well it depends on how society is then, what the situation in India is like then, it may be worse or better no one knows. Or another question no one knows where we may be settled, we may still be in India or be living abroad.

But i think personally i wouldn't let my kids my live in with their partners, its not good, you can't live in with someone to see what their like how your relationship will be, because at the end of the day if they turn around and say no they don't get along, how many more times will they do this and try living in with someone else to see if things work out or not. This situation of saying no to their partners will be more open when a living in situation arises, if it doesn't it will be mutual to understand your husband or wife, other wise it will be taken for granted.

One thing has to be taken into consideration a married life is totally different from a life of a boyfriend and girlfriend or even engaged couples.

ShAdOwCoN

Hmmm ... interesting topic
Well ... Indian Society def is not yet ready for the Live In concept ... Like Admin said most parent would have a fit if their children were into a 'live in' ...that being said , so what makes a 'live in' different from a marriage ? ...In India , that would mean a lot of gossip about you behind your back ... And people branding u as an immoral .... Well i have observed that south India is far more traditional/orthodox than the North .. so there are very few places where you can 'live in' without being heckled .....

Some of my Indian friends abroad are into 'live ins' and have not yet revealed this to their parents ! ..... Well they do face a lot of problems ...... Like a friend of mine who is a student in the US is Living in with her American Boyfriend .... Things got complicated after they both visited India for the holidays ... Her parents were not at all happy .....I am not going to tell u any details, but you can guess what happened..... Now her relationship with her parents is permanently strained ....I have known her and her family for a long time ... and she was the apple of her parents eye being their only daughter and being very successful in every way... Now their relationship is really in a sorry state ..

So i guess the choice is yours about whether you r cool with it or not ,but u should def be open about it ...

So whats my decision ? Is India ready ... well its a big NO like jay said ... and when will it be ready ?...Not until we have had white hairs .....

[Look at my Avatar pic , I already have white hairs ]

itsmemad

Cheers mate! where were u whole day? I was kinda "live in" alone here...

smoothvibes

there is only one answer from my end to both questions,

Yes
Tommorow if i will find my kid in such relation then i will not give a strange look as if i really don't know anything about this and as just4kix said about sex education so that is something which we need to take care, its already high time, in other countries like UK and US they get to know all these things in schools only thats the reason they are so open to talk about all this.

The things which we can just think in india are actually available there and doing good, there are different ways we look in this live in relation but according to me its ok and not really a bad thing, as it provides you a good time to understand your partner before marriage and can give you an idea of his/ her personal life that how good he/she is with home work and surroundings.

Now may be few people will not agree with me but thats true

At the end even i agree that Indian Society is not ready for that but we can make a difference

itsmemad

U r sounding like a dude man.. yes, we can make a difference...

thats the spirit!! sud we carry out a rally in support of this?? lolzz...

ShAdOwCoN

Lot of Projects have come up .. bringing home my work nowadays .. will be busy for a while .... Dont have much login time .... Month before christmas/New Year always tight work

smoothvibes

ya we can plan a rally for same.. which city are right these days.. come to delhi i will give you one of my bike to ride
will get some more friends for MURO
MURO = Meet Up Ride Out

itsmemad

National capital will get us a lot of recognition for sure...

smoothvibes

and we can get a good support from lot many collages, BPO's, KPO's, IT and MNC's who are really living this life

apart from this i know few target places in delhi where most of the occupants are in live in relation only

ShAdOwCoN

People Are you planning to overthrow the govt ....

smoothvibes

no no nothing like that mate... why are you getting emotional

itsmemad

I guess smoothy must b knowing bout the 'live in' relations of guys who r in govt. May b we can overthrow govt... atleast they sudn't ban the after midnight channels...

Admin

Hummm this topic is getting some attention

itsmemad

hehehe... it was hot whole day... along with music in pub thread... now since evrybody gone to sleep... we can "live in" here...

Preeti_20

So what you saying smoothvibes that you would live with someone see how they are, and if you don't like it then move onto the next person.

One thing i have to say i have seen it happen, is that if you think this is a good idea to get to know your future husband or wife then its a bad idea, and the reasons for this is that you will only notice the bad things and not the good things. And being a human it's natural to point of bad things in someone, and that will be something which you do with everyone, but what you got to remember is that no one is perfect and there is going to be no one just like you, so everyone will have their own bad habits.
And for you to overlook their bad habits will be the real test and thats what life is really about, because there is no such relation which is perfect without fights, differences.

I'm not saying that you can over look things like affairs, bringing friends home every day, but the small things which at that time will look big but in fact will be very minor.

ShAdOwCoN

@preeti
That was complicated logic

@Vibes
If you r talkin about experimenting with relationships.... If you have a break up it ll really be taxing on ur emotions .... Hard to come out of a break up ,man ... Not such a good idea at all if u ask me ...

smoothvibes

I never said that preeti, you are not getting that correctly. I said that by this you can understand the person and the needs all the good things and bad but i never asked anyone to move on to next person.
I think preeti you need to read it again and understand.

Eddy same for you too mate just read it again and let me know where am i talking about experiment and when did i ask to keep on changing partners of something like that, i never used this statement that first go for live in and if you don't like your partner then move on for another one. I just said that it can give you some time and space to understand your partner and surroundings thats it.

DZire

See guys....
Everyone at the bottom of Heart WUD NOT (like to) ALLOW THEIR KIDS TO BE LIVE IN.

I challenge that !!
Whether World is changing or india is.... its only good to talk as far as parents are concerned. Beleive me.

Additionally... Fathers may to a certain extent allow but mothers ??? No Way !!

Rameshjeee

Well said.......I support that.....