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I think in generations to come it could be adopted in Indian society. Looking into the future, would you be happy if your son/duaghter told you they were going to live with their partner, rather than marry them?

DZire

Welcome to the thread Bubble !!!
That's exactly the point on which everyone 's expressing thoughts !!!

strider

I don't think, there is anything bad in this!! More over, I feel this kind of thing suits People who aren't of the same caste.

Alexina

personally i think India isnt ready for it...
but then again no one waits for anyone to get ready ..
they just shove it in ur face.
lil the bomb blasts.

So i guess live in relationships are somethin we need to wake up to too...

smoothvibes

Here i agree with ALexina
No one waits for anyone to get ready
they just shove it in ur face.

DZire

Can anyone quote an Example wherein a person KNOWN to them has opted out for LIVE IN Relationship ???

Or can anyone ask their parents for permission ?? Or Can anyone tell their kids that they need not worry if they want to opt for it..

Pls let me know..

itsmemad

I know many... Perhaps this post will answer it more elaborately...

http://www.indiabroadband.net/relati...html#post47171 (Live In Relationships Is Indian Society is Ready For This)


First time I guess we r on same side of river...

smoothvibes

I know lot many people who are in live in relation and i got lot many friends (boys n girls both) who are in such relation and trust me they enjoy life like anything.

To Be Honest: I don't have a girlfriend otherwise even i don't have any issues to be in live in relation.

DZire

Okey so now we come back a full circle !!

Live-in Relationship - What does that mean ?

Staying together or substituting / altering a social phenomena or ritual ??

Dont take it other wise guys but I have had it a lot... Convincingly !!

itsmemad

I'm not in "live in" right now... but I have had my share of "live ins" in past...

It depends... most of the time... a couple in "live in" is having an affair... so they start living together... this way they can give each other more time...
If everything goes right...they might eventually get married...

Some "live in" purely for financial reasons... to share the rent...

There r many who "live in" cuz they know the partner from a long time... and they feel its better to live with that particular person than trust an unknown person of same sex...

smoothvibes

what you mean by live-in's

itsmemad

WYSIWYG!!

if u don't have a clue about wot I just said, google to understand its full-form...

smoothvibes

as far as i can understand this term live ins it got 2 meanings

1. Residing in the place where one is employed
2. Residing together with another, especially in a sexual relationship.

Please shout if i am worng and please tell which one you are talking about

itsmemad

Well.. u r certainly not wrong in ur understandings... can I use my "phone a friend" life line?

ShAdOwCoN

That totally depends on your mentality !.....

There are many things that you find impossible to digest that other people are ok with .....

So those kinds of people r ok with it ......As i said before i too know a few friends 'livin in' and i see no reason y they will disallow their children !

"Additionally... Fathers may to a certain extent allow but mothers ??? No Way "

On what logic do you base that argument ? i dont understand at all

Preeti_20

Im not getting it wrong, when you say something like that it means what i said, i mean eventually you will find someone after you left the person you live in with, so ideally you are moving onto the next person, the whole thing would be like a trial of living together. Like it said would you borrow someones kid to take a trial for taking care of kids. There are many things in married life which come with time and you can only see them once your married. I mean you may be happy living with a person once you have lived in with them, but married life is totally different so you cant compare the two in order to see what its like to live with that person. Another thing no ones perfect and when you live in you will be together to see what its like and it will be negative points which will be highlighted.
Alot of my friends have had love married and also some of them have had arranged marriages, but majority of them did not live in with their partners, and are happy.

If you have to live in with the one you love in order to know what their like then maybe you don't love them enough to know what they are like!

When you actually say just marry them, you are assuming that the kids are forced. This is the case in villages and it is accepted there and many couples compromise, but in the modern cities and societies, no one is forced a girl and girl do see each before marriage and decide rather then JUST GET MARRIED. You are referring to a time when this was done and it was done many many years ago.

smoothvibes

I understand what you said preeti but sorry i never tried to say that you need to move on, may be i am not so good with words. My apology for that.

Its not just about knowing in terms of talks and stuff, knowing means the real experience and understanding the needs and surrounding, which means everything like how you sleep, what you like to do at home, what you need when you are down and most important thing a warm touch which is not possible at any public place (To be very specific: I am not talking about sex or anything like that)

itsmemad

I can only say that if break-ups, divorces, separations can happen in between married and unmarried couples... It can happen in between a couple who is in a "live in" relationship too... Ofcourse evry break-up is painful if u were serious bout the person with whom u shared so much time...
It applies in every relation... married, unmarried or live in!!

DZire

U got it right. "eventually marry..." "Share Room" "Financially.."
What i am trying to argue is "Live In as alternative to marriage.." which , in today's scenario is far away from possible, at least when you belong to a Society.

LIR for Financial reason has a different motive so does LIR for Sharing room... and Legal Reason but when its comes to motive of Marriage it stands alone.
People may have their own mind set.... I'll quote an example of a friend of mine who had to Break his LIR, with such a nice lady for meagre reasons.. The Female applied for a loan in a "nationalised bank"... cud'nt provide documents of her Husband (LIR with my Friend for 5 years).. did'nt get loan... Her father's house was usurped by uncle, had massive heart attack. One more set back.. The lady finally had to leave India and settle in UK.... But in Harrow... She's still not married !!! Not getting a suit. My friend thinks he himself sabotaged his life by not marrying !!!!

And its so simple !!! What caused them to experiment ?? I still 've no clue about it....Similarly i too have many examples but cannot differentiate their Happiness Parameters from those friends of mine who're happily married....

You get examples of lot many guys coming out of NIDs and Archi schools out here in Ahmedabad..

itsmemad

I never said that I'm against marriage... if u go through my posts... U'll find that I mentioned that I'll marry someone too... if I was against marriage... I wud never opt for marriage in any case...

My whole point is I'm not against livin relation... and few in Indian society too r not against it... but the no. is slowly increasing... noone can deny that...

Wot example u mentioned can happen in married life too... breakups happen in every relation.... as well as heart attacks can occur to any1 cuz of family problems...

I agree with u that in current scenario our law has many loop-holes... which doesn't really give a single woman too much protection... But laws r evolving with the society... Supreme-court has already stated that "long term live in relations r of equal status as of marriage"... Perhaps this article will enlighten u on that matter... This judgement clearly proves that like Indian society, Indian law is accepting this concept of "live-in" relationship slowly but steadily....

Supreme Court validates long live-in relationships

We might as well hear that someone "happily lived-in" in our life-time itself...

Amen.