Thread: Live In Relationships Is Indian Society is Ready For This

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I'm not in "live in" right now... but I have had my share of "live ins" in past...

what you mean by live-in's hmy:

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

what you mean by live-in's hmy:

WYSIWYG!!

if u don't have a clue about wot I just said, google to understand its full-form...

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Originally Posted by itsmemad

WYSIWYG!!

if u don't have a clue about wot I just said, google to understand its full-form...

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as far as i can understand this term live ins it got 2 meanings

1. Residing in the place where one is employed
2. Residing together with another, especially in a sexual relationship.

Please shout if i am worng and please tell which one you are talking about

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

as far as i can understand this term live ins it got 2 meanings

1. Residing in the place where one is employed
2. Residing together with another, especially in a sexual relationship.

Please shout if i am worng and please tell which one you are talking about

Well.. u r certainly not wrong in ur understandings... can I use my "phone a friend" life line?

Originally Posted by lovelyMe

See guys....
Everyone at the bottom of Heart WUD NOT (like to) ALLOW THEIR KIDS TO BE LIVE IN.

I challenge that !!
Whether World is changing or india is.... its only good to talk as far as parents are concerned. Beleive me.

Additionally... Fathers may to a certain extent allow but mothers ??? No Way !!

That totally depends on your mentality !.....

There are many things that you find impossible to digest that other people are ok with .....

So those kinds of people r ok with it ......As i said before i too know a few friends 'livin in' and i see no reason y they will disallow their children !

"Additionally... Fathers may to a certain extent allow but mothers ??? No Way "

On what logic do you base that argument ? i dont understand at all

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

I never said that preeti, you are not getting that correctly. I said that by this you can understand the person and the needs all the good things and bad but i never asked anyone to move on to next person.
I think preeti you need to read it again and understand.

Im not getting it wrong, when you say something like that it means what i said, i mean eventually you will find someone after you left the person you live in with, so ideally you are moving onto the next person, the whole thing would be like a trial of living together. Like it said would you borrow someones kid to take a trial for taking care of kids. There are many things in married life which come with time and you can only see them once your married. I mean you may be happy living with a person once you have lived in with them, but married life is totally different so you cant compare the two in order to see what its like to live with that person. Another thing no ones perfect and when you live in you will be together to see what its like and it will be negative points which will be highlighted.
Alot of my friends have had love married and also some of them have had arranged marriages, but majority of them did not live in with their partners, and are happy.

If you have to live in with the one you love in order to know what their like then maybe you don't love them enough to know what they are like!

Originally Posted by bubble

I think in generations to come it could be adopted in Indian society. Looking into the future, would you be happy if your son/duaghter told you they were going to live with their partner, rather than marry them?

When you actually say just marry them, you are assuming that the kids are forced. This is the case in villages and it is accepted there and many couples compromise, but in the modern cities and societies, no one is forced a girl and girl do see each before marriage and decide rather then JUST GET MARRIED. You are referring to a time when this was done and it was done many many years ago.

I understand what you said preeti but sorry i never tried to say that you need to move on, may be i am not so good with words. My apology for that.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

If you have to live in with the one you love in order to know what their like then maybe you don't love them enough to know what they are like!

Its not just about knowing in terms of talks and stuff, knowing means the real experience and understanding the needs and surrounding, which means everything like how you sleep, what you like to do at home, what you need when you are down and most important thing a warm touch which is not possible at any public place (To be very specific: I am not talking about sex or anything like that)

I can only say that if break-ups, divorces, separations can happen in between married and unmarried couples... It can happen in between a couple who is in a "live in" relationship too... Ofcourse evry break-up is painful if u were serious bout the person with whom u shared so much time...
It applies in every relation... married, unmarried or live in!!

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I'm not in "live in" right now... but I have had my share of "live ins" in past...It depends.. a couple in "live in" is having an affair... so they start living together...eventually get married...
Some "live in" purely for financial reasons... to share the rent...
trust an unknown person of same sex...

U got it right. "eventually marry..." "Share Room" "Financially.."
What i am trying to argue is "Live In as alternative to marriage.." which , in today's scenario is far away from possible, at least when you belong to a Society.

LIR for Financial reason has a different motive so does LIR for Sharing room... and Legal Reason but when its comes to motive of Marriage it stands alone.
People may have their own mind set.... I'll quote an example of a friend of mine who had to Break his LIR, with such a nice lady for meagre reasons.. The Female applied for a loan in a "nationalised bank"... cud'nt provide documents of her Husband (LIR with my Friend for 5 years).. did'nt get loan... Her father's house was usurped by uncle, had massive heart attack. One more set back.. The lady finally had to leave India and settle in UK.... But in Harrow... She's still not married !!! Not getting a suit. My friend thinks he himself sabotaged his life by not marrying !!!!

And its so simple !!! What caused them to experiment ?? I still 've no clue about it....Similarly i too have many examples but cannot differentiate their Happiness Parameters from those friends of mine who're happily married....

You get examples of lot many guys coming out of NIDs and Archi schools out here in Ahmedabad..

Originally Posted by lovelyMe

U got it right. "eventually marry..." "Share Room" "Financially.."
What i am trying to argue is "Live In as alternative to marriage.." which , in today's scenario is far away from possible, at least when you belong to a Society.

LIR for Financial reason has a different motive so does LIR for Sharing room... and Legal Reason but when its comes to motive of Marriage it stands alone.
People may have their own mind set.... I'll quote an example of a friend of mine who had to Break his LIR, with such a nice lady for meagre reasons.. The Female applied for a loan in a "nationalised bank"... cud'nt provide documents of her Husband (LIR with my Friend for 5 years).. did'nt get loan... Her father's house was usurped by uncle, had massive heart attack. One more set back.. The lady finally had to leave India and settle in UK.... But in Harrow... She's still not married !!! Not getting a suit. My friend thinks he himself sabotaged his life by not marrying !!!!

And its so simple !!! What caused them to experiment ?? I still 've no clue about it....Similarly i too have many examples but cannot differentiate their Happiness Parameters from those friends of mine who're happily married....

You get examples of lot many guys coming out of NIDs and Archi schools out here in Ahmedabad..

I never said that I'm against marriage... if u go through my posts... U'll find that I mentioned that I'll marry someone too... if I was against marriage... I wud never opt for marriage in any case...

My whole point is I'm not against livin relation... and few in Indian society too r not against it... but the no. is slowly increasing... noone can deny that...

Wot example u mentioned can happen in married life too... breakups happen in every relation.... as well as heart attacks can occur to any1 cuz of family problems...

I agree with u that in current scenario our law has many loop-holes... which doesn't really give a single woman too much protection... But laws r evolving with the society... Supreme-court has already stated that "long term live in relations r of equal status as of marriage"... Perhaps this article will enlighten u on that matter... This judgement clearly proves that like Indian society, Indian law is accepting this concept of "live-in" relationship slowly but steadily....

Supreme Court validates long live-in relationships

We might as well hear that someone "happily lived-in" in our life-time itself...

Amen.

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I never said that I'm against marriage..........Wot example u mentioned can happen in married life too... breakups happen in every relation.... as well as heart attacks can occur to any1 cuz of family problems...

This judgement clearly proves that like Indian society, Indian law is accepting this concept of "live-in" relationship slowly but steadily....
Supreme Court validates long live-in relationships
We might as well hear that someone "happily lived-in" in our life-time itself...

Amen.

Even i am not against LIR... But my only point is that its struggling to find its position in accordance with marriage...
In my example.... anything can happen with happen anyone.. but the fact is that If my friends married.... They cud live happy !!!

Well i am only so sensitive as he was a very dear friend of mine and we had LONG sessions (happy as well as sad once Over Drinks) and finally drew outcome that Motives and purpose, behind LIR and Marriages, are different !!

Cheers !! Have a gud drink tonight from my side !!:54:

Originally Posted by lovelyMe

Cheers !! Have a gud drink tonight from my side !!:54:

Well thanks.. I can't have a drink for another month or so... but I won't mind a rep...

The only thing i have to say is

"Old Habits Die Hard " ....

Marriage is a very very old habit ....

Its never going to be substituted ,but alternatives will take a long time to become accepted ....

i am in support of this Supreme Court validates long live-in relationships

now we need to change and this change is for good

Originally Posted by itsmemad

First time I guess we r on same side of river...

There's always a first time
Nah i'm not flirting..
just bored..
think i should call it a day now.

This is my 666 th post .... The DEVIL's NUMBER .... A milestone

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66th post in this thread
and
666th post of your

great haan


For me
Completed 1700 posts

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

66th post in this thread
and
666th post of your

great haan


For me
Completed 1700 posts

Oh ! did nt notice 66 th !


Cheers mate keep going strong ... i ll try and catch up...

PS: great tittle that .... keep it .... smoothvibes banned he he he he ......Can you do it in bold ?...

No can not make it in bold :sad:
agar admin nae ban kiya to ho jaayega

why are you people fighting :angry:
stop behaving like armature kids :cursing:

i am 24

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

i am 24

I was nt asking you

can i speak in hindi here... please.....


Bhai log Please Don't Fight

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