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01-21-09, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by panchabhut

@ newproser
In some small pockets of the country it is the traditional practice, particularly in parts of North East and tribal areas. In a way they are more progresive than the rest of us.

Interesting , seriously i never knew it existed in India

amitkool21 · 01-21-09, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by panchabhut

@ newproser
In some small pockets of the country it is the traditional practice, particularly in parts of North East and tribal areas. In a way they are more progresive than the rest of us.

can u plz give some names of these places i just want to c that kind of villages........

Punch Farce · 01-21-09, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by powerdoc

Lol...considering live-in relationships to be an indicator of progress !

Why do you find that funny?

-F

powerdoc · 01-22-09, 02:30 PM

Because progress stands for growth & in no way does this issue involve any growth.
Probably just a different outlook
Live-in-relationships are a matter of personal choice & society should treat it as such.

aashaka_gandhi · 01-23-09, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by panchabhut

In some ways some period of live-in relationship before marriage would perhaps be beneficial for the couple.
Its one thing to meet someone in their best dress and best mood and be all lovey-dovey. Its a completely different proposition to meet that same person in the worst mood and worst physical appearance. Thats when the true test of "love" comes. The other factor is the willingness to adjust and compromise. And then there is the issue of adjusting with the in-laws. Many of the so called love marriages are nowadays ending up in divorce precisely for this.
In a way, it would be a welcome step to have a live-in relationship before marriage. Not just with the future partner but also with his/her family members.

yea specially the adjusting factor when it comes in.....its really required i feel....!!!! but to an extent wht if thy r not comfortable with each other n than dont want to live togather....thts when the problem starts.....!!!

Our society as if sumthing soo bad has happened will avoid the girl specially......guys too to an extent....cursing em...n sayign wht not to the girl guy n their family....i mean whts the matter... n the same ppl if it works out to be fine than will ve a diff outlook n say to it......

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Originally Posted by newprouser

I like your idea. As you say it will a go long way in helping avoid miserable relationships. But I really doubt if it will be actually practised in our country.

its a big question ???

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Originally Posted by panchabhut

@ newproser
In some small pockets of the country it is the traditional practice, particularly in parts of North East and tribal areas. In a way they are more progresive than the rest of us.

yea even i ve heard tht....

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Originally Posted by powerdoc

Because progress stands for growth & in no way does this issue involve any growth.
Probably just a different outlook
Live-in-relationships are a matter of personal choice & society should treat it as such.

but in India a ppl ve got all the free time to gossip n poke their nose in other ppls life....!

01-30-09, 07:18 PM

though it is still not accepted in our society i think live in relations are not bad at all ... infact u get to know the person whom u will be probably marrying better

puchu · 02-04-09, 04:44 PM

I can't believe it took me so long to find this thread before.Nice thread.

02-05-09, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by puchu

I can't believe it took me so long to find this thread before.Nice thread.

so, what are your opinions on this?

puchu · 02-05-09, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by saurav_kataruka

so, what are your opinions on this?

I feel that live-in relationships are ok till certain age, once you get old , I mean mid-aged then some where some how you feel like having a partner to talk to, share your feelings, share your happiness ,be in each other's arms and spend some time watching the sunset. I don't know about people, but I would say I am 28 and I am single. I am not into any live-in or married relationship. I am very comfortable living alone but I won't lie, when I am sick, definitely I feel like having a partner.

Live-in relationships are preferred by people for whom carrier is more important than a life partner ,next are the people who have some aim which can not be achieved if they have a partner because of responsibility, as they don't want to put their partner in trouble because of their own risky life style, and lastly, people who don't want have any responsibilities and would like to roam freely like a wild bull and have fun

without any boundaries.

In a live-in relationship you are free to leave whenever you want, but for a married relationship it’s not that simple, at least I can’t leave a my life partner just like that.

aashaka_gandhi · 02-05-09, 05:03 PM

well in a live in relationship there is a sense of commitment as well......

puchu · 02-05-09, 05:09 PM

Hmm , may be ..........................

smoothvibes · 02-06-09, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

well in a live in relationship there is a sense of commitment as well......

i am sorry aashaka but it is really not important, a live in relationship can go on without commitment too.

02-06-09, 03:33 AM

Yes commitment is not really necessary in this relationships and may be that the benefit of this relation that no official barriers and commitment only the negotiation between the each-other is needed.
Now our society is not ready to accept lot of things and live in relationship is one of them.Only we can hope that our society will develop soon.

aashaka_gandhi · 02-06-09, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by smoothvibes

i am sorry aashaka but it is really not important, a live in relationship can go on without commitment too.

smoothie.....i jus told it might b there.....its not compulsory....since u r leaving with the other person....sense of commitment n responsibility might come in long run......

it depends....ont the relationship both the guy n girl share....

puchu · 02-06-09, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by aashaka_gandhi

smoothie.....i jus told it might b there.....its not compulsory

that is why,I said,"may be".

amitkool21 · 02-07-09, 10:23 PM

i'm agree with aashaka......

02-08-09, 12:28 AM

sorry for posting such a long article between the discussion going on here, but found it quite relevant:

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HUMANS HAVE, by far, been the choicest victims of emotional somersaults, succumbing imminently to the gravitational pull of relationships. Nobody can lead a solitary life out of personal choice. No matter what kind of relationship, man seems to be bound by someone in his life to draw a meaning to it. And when we talk about relationships, romance can’t be far behind, can it?

India is widely known as a country with strong moral values and traditional integrity. Perhaps, that’s why bold exhibitions of romance go for a toss in such a typical society, least being something like live-in-relationships in India. The union of a man and a woman is considered as one of the most sacred acts in this country. No wonder, living together before marriage is a sour dampener for the staunch ethic upholders. However, the new millennium has ushered in great changes even within the country that has forever been enshrouded in a blanket of rich culture and heritage.

Incited by anything from movies to daily soaps, the younger generation, although in a population that is quite minor, has started leading a very liberal lifestyle. In a bid to know their partners better, they denounce the age-old ethics and get down to some serious living together agreements.

Since there is no living together law to intrude in their differences and even disputes, it gives them all the more reason to exercise their seemingly liberal and mature discretion for such rectification. With the amount of independence and privacy included in such a relationship, anyone would think it to be an ideal move. However, there is more to it than catches the eye. One needs to really dig into the pros and cons of living together to know what he or she is getting into. Agreed that the whole ball game of a live-in-relationship seems more tempting than a triple fudge sundae, but the smudge can be even more irritating than that harmless cup of frozen cream. A lack of commitment in the real sense and a dangerous level of liberty loom over the relationship to topple it over anytime. And for those who prefer it as a prelude to the real act of tying the knot, the pros and cons of living together before marriage shape up as an even greater challenge, more so because of the social issues involved in it.

All said and done, the bottom line is that India is not quite a fertile ground for the cultivation of live-in-relationships, at least not as long as the strong roots of the age-old ethics hold ground.

Live-in-relationships: Pros and Cons

02-04-09, 04:44 PM	#147
puchu Gold Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Block-112232, Tunnel 3, 5th Moon, Ghost Planet , Insane galaxy Age: 27 Posts: 653 Blog Entries: 1 Rep Power: 2	I can't believe it took me so long to find this thread before.Nice thread. Last edited by puchu; 02-04-09 at 04:48 PM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost

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