Thread: Dominant Husband

Again back to the topic, most husbands also think that what they say is right how they say something is right, but always seem to point out to their wife that shes wrong and giving the attitude.
In many cases even today (i seen it happen) the wife is insulted in front of people, but if the wife does something and doesn't mean it shes at fault and gets told to shut up.

Husband talks in a bad way its not attitude and wife talks its attitude.

Its funny how the wife has to leave her family and friends her parents home, has to adjust to here husbands living style, family and still shes the bad one.

Also one thing to notice is how difficult it is for the husband to say sorry and yet he expects the wife to say sorry sometimes without any reason

Originally Posted by ShAdOwCoN

Imagine my scenario ....

I read something like that in the Newspaper ... years later i remember it and post it ... and some guy thinks that i am fibbing ... and asks for reference ...And well

-->papers dont last for so many years .... def not newspapers

-->i could search the online versions u say? ..... dont remember the exact year .... And this is really too trivial for me to spend time on pinning down a reference (Partly lack of time)... i am not willing to re read a lot of old newspapers to find this one .

-->Google search is equally difficult ..... Keywords like "dominant Husbands " dont yield anything relevant .... And again no time to fine tune my search

So i find it difficult to prove myself

Anyways this is just a casual discussion ..... i have no idea what ur trying to prove here

I can def say that there was a research on this topic .... That much was said in that newspaper article years back .And i trust my newspaper wont try and run hoax articles .


Quote -You know what they say, most of the
'facts' on the internet are made up-Unquote

Thanks for the update
I work in the Information technology sector .I am not newbie

sorry if I came across as harrassing you. I am just a good natured
joker most of the time.

my point was not to take you to task but to express my incredulity
at the original assertion that you quoted and highlighted.

I am sure you read it somewhere and I am not doubting you,
I would probably doubt the accuracy of the source you read.

anyway, nothing serious, continue.....

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Again back to the topic, most husbands also think that what they say is right how they say something is right, but always seem to point out to their wife that shes wrong and giving the attitude.
In many cases even today (i seen it happen) the wife is insulted in front of people, but if the wife does something and doesn't mean it shes at fault and gets told to shut up.

Husband talks in a bad way its not attitude and wife talks its attitude.

Its funny how the wife has to leave her family and friends her parents home, has to adjust to here husbands living style, family and still shes the bad one.

I agree there are some husbands like that. but "most husbands"???
don't you think you are over-generalizing..

Originally Posted by smoothvibes

I think we already got some married men here like admin, just4kix, lovelyme and many more.. lets wait for there posts

What more do i say ??
Preeti has herself given the answer...
:38::helpsmilie:

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

In most cases it is the husband who is more dominant ................
In a very few and rare cases this is also applied to dominant wives.

But then Husbands dominate (or others feel that one is dominating) just because of the kind of brought up the wife has had at her parents house... (the same's also mentioned in Preeti's post..)

Hope nobody takes me wrong and i have nothing against men, but i just mention these kind of issues because i have seen it happen to many people and just want to get views from others.

I have also seen that the poor wife sometimes end up having no say, generally wives are restricted to do things, like go out with friends, go to the gym and so on, why is that that the wife has no life....the answers comes in as the husband being dominant and doing what he wants and not allowing his wife to do what she wants. Also its easy for the husband to pick on the wife, and abuse her parents and after this situation arises the wife just keeps shut to save her parents.

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Hope nobody takes me wrong, but i just mention this kind of topic because i have seen it happen to many people and just want to get views from others.

...arises the wife just keeps shut to save her parents.

That's right Preeti... but then dont you think that there's some role wife has to play... Dominating is a Character and not a habit... Wife (being dominated) has to stand up and be better...lead ahead..support husband, adapt new ways of life etc etc because such Husbands always expect More from their wives..i mean wife !!

Originally Posted by farce

sorry if I came across as harrassing you. I am just a 1.good natured
joker most of the time.

my point was not to take you to task but to express my 2.incredulity
at the original assertion that you quoted and highlighted.

I am sure you read it somewhere and I am not doubting you,
I would probably doubt the accuracy of the source you read.

anyway, nothing serious, continue.....

1.Good
2.Is it so difficult to believe ? i dunno .... but i def cant Authenticate that article ....

I agree there are some husbands like that. but "most husbands"???
don't you think you are over-generalizing..

Well yeah as i said before in one of my posts .... i have a lot of married friends a few of them would fall under this category i.e Dominant (most probably influenced by other people )

But most husbands are not Dominant ...(Talking specifically about the middle/middle upper class segment )

Agreed much of India is near or below the Poverty Line ...Which may be the reason why such issues are still widely prevalent in the country ..... But talking from our point of View .... i think there are not many people who belong to this category

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Hope nobody takes me wrong and i have nothing against men, but i just mention these kind of issues because i have seen it happen to many people and just want to get views from others.

I have also seen that the poor wife sometimes end up having no say, generally wives are restricted to do things, like go out with friends, go to the gym and so on, why is that that the wife has no life....the answers comes in as the husband being dominant and doing what he wants and not allowing his wife to do what she wants. Also its easy for the husband to pick on the wife, and abuse her parents and after this situation arises the wife just keeps shut to save her parents.

Oh ! i have no answer for that ... i have seen/heard this kind of thinks only in the news/documentaries ....

Believe me I've seen it happen, thats why I'm mentioning it

I think sometimes its hard to believe things which you haven't seen yourself, but there are many cases where the husband is more dominant and its not about education or society, its how the person is himself, what his thinking is like and what his upbringing has been like.

I agree with you Dia. It is not about appearances, educational ability etc, it is simply about the individual. I would like to think that most relationships are now of equal footing and respect, but I am sure there are still many couples who have a more domineering partner and are happy with things being that way also.

Yes they may be happy but its partially because of people having to adjust to that life and not doing anything about it and getting on with it, which is a big sacrifice in it self!

Sometimes it happens that the girl always gets the blame for things and when she has never done them or she has done something by mistake.
Men has a habit of ruling over the women, and it generally continues in the family, if the father treats his mum like that then the son will do the same with his wife.

Dominating factor is something different, but where abusive language is concerned, well again its ok for the husband to point his finder at his wife and swear at her and all the wife can do is look down and not say anything apart from apologize for something she has not even done. The husband can talk in a high tone with the wife whenever hes in a bad mood, but the wife cant she always has to be nice and in a good tone.

I hope i dont have a husband like that, nor should any other girl!

And till date I thought only wives dominated... :lol:

I feel most of the educated women now possess less tolerance for such things... And even if they get dominating husband(in initial phase)... Over years the situation becomes exactly opposite... Poor guys are made to live & adjust their life as per the demand of their spouse...

Its my request to all ladies here... Plz don't start dominating ur husband just for the sake of it...

Originally Posted by itsmemad

And till date I thought only wives dominated... :lol:

I feel most of the educated women now possess less tolerance for such things... And even if they get dominating husband(in initial phase)... Over years the situation becomes exactly opposite... Poor guys are made to live & adjust their life as per the demand of their spouse...

Its my request to all ladies here... Plz don't start dominating ur husband just for the sake of it...

I have seen that a lot in real life. But I have only seen dominant husbands in some TV serials.

Husbands cant really dominate... they are only assertive (akele mein dekho to pata lagega)!!

Wife or dominating character.... whatever u call is same...!!!

i m gonna b hit for this..

Sometimes i think the dominating thing in a man comes naturally to him as he thinks hes a man and hes all high and mighty, but there are some who really need to change this in their lives, otherwise their relationship will really suffer in the long run!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Sometimes i think the dominating thing in a man comes naturally to him as he thinks hes a man and hes all high and mighty, but there are some who really need to change this in their lives, otherwise their relationship will really suffer in the long run!

I contradict.

oh plz state the contradiction so the discussion can reach higher levels.

Originally Posted by Alexina

oh plz state the contradiction so the discussion can reach higher levels.

Don't argue with him... Hez married & he has more experience in these matters than any of us...

Originally Posted by Alexina

oh plz state the contradiction so the discussion can reach higher levels.

See if a man is a man he has to think he is a man !!! I cant think i am a woman, being a man....

Secondly, a man has a set mentality... there are certain things which a woman cannot do and vice a versa.... Identify Those things and respect them. THIS is understanding !!!

In some cases woman cannot identify qualities of her man and may be the other way round... this causes Friction.. and dominance takes birth.

After all everyone wants to move ahead !!! Beleive me.. what i do is really simple.. i very regularly do a short swot on me and my wife and distribute responsibilities accordingly... IT WORKS.

Originally Posted by itsmemad

Don't argue with him... Hez married & he has more experience in these matters than any of us...

Its free world i think he can be argued with! I'm sure hes not the only married man on this forum anyway!

No one was talking about LovelyMe i personally but talking in general of men, its not the the educated men but the uneducated and not well to do families, who do treat their wives in a dominant way. And i only say what ive seen and dont make things up!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Its free world i think he can be argued with! I'm sure hes not the only married man on this forum anyway!

No one was talking about LovelyMe i personally but talking in general of men, its not the the educated men but the uneducated and not well to do families, who do treat their wives in a dominant way. And i only say what ive seen and dont make things up!

I know... I was just kidding with Alexina...
Yeah, illiteracy is a major reason for such things... Thats wot I tried to say in my 1st post indirectly... cuz when I went through this thread... I found few people mentioning the fact that education has nothing to do with this menace... But I don't really agree with that... In general, eduacated women know about their rights... And educated men respect that... Exceptions are always there...

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

No one was talking about LovelyMe i personally but talking in general of men, its not the the educated men but the uneducated and not well to do families, who do treat their wives in a dominant way. And i only say what ive seen and dont make things up!

really... even i am not talking about myself... i know its really troublesum to happily settle down in life...

But then ... are un-educated men you are talking of.. married to educated women ??? if not then dominance is bound to erupt.. is'nt it ?

Originally Posted by itsmemad

I know... I was just kidding with Alexina...
Yeah, illiteracy is a major reason for such things... Thats wot I tried to say in my 1st post indirectly... cuz when I went through this thread... I found few people mentioning the fact that education has nothing to do with this menace... But I don't really agree with that... In general, eduacated women know about their rights... And educated men respect that... Exceptions are always there...

Education has got to a lot with this, but this is a common thing in within couples who are educated!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Education has got to a lot with this, but this is a common thing in within couples who are educated!

Thats cuz no woman like to live with a docile dog like I've 1 in my house...
Its in the nature of two species... Women like their husband to be little authoritative... They expect from husband to provide security & safety to them & their children from outside world... They like to cook good food for their husband & children... It gives them ultimate pleasure... They like to take care of most of household chores... It comes naturally to them... They work too, if they want...

Whereas men like to do other important things for their family... They tend to protect their wife & children from outside world... They like to do the marketing n all for their home needs... They do an uninteresting job until they retire...even if they don't want(no option)... And they don't force their wife into a job if she doesn't want to do... Its natural that a man's emotions get suppressed cuz of the limited options he has in life... and when a wife doesn't try to understand his mental state... he gets irritated... which people call male dominance...

Yes true but what if the husband is happy with his job life and so one, why is the husband still dominant.

Sometimes when the wifes works too she has to do the house work and all but there is never a helping hand from the husband!

I knew a couple and when the husband wasn't working the wife was she used to come home, and not even get asked for some water! But if that wife raised this issue with her husband he would turn it back on her saying lots of things!

Originally Posted by Preeti_20

Yes true but what if the husband is happy with his job life and so one, why is the husband still dominant.

Sometimes when the wifes works too she has to do the house work and all but there is never a helping hand from the husband!

I knew a couple and when the husband wasn't working the wife was she used to come home, and not even get asked for some water! But if that wife raised this issue with her husband he would turn it back on her saying lots of things!

I don't think if a man is happy in his job life... And has a caring wife... he'll ever unnecessarily try to dominate things...

Try to understand that husband's position... Every1 in society must be talking about his failure in life... That he was sitting at home & his wife was working... He must be in depression... No 1 ever raise an issue when a woman sits at home... but there r thousand big mouths which can't be shut when a man sits at home... this hurts.. and the man was pissed-off... so he never asked for water...