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Preeti_20

In most cases it is the husband who is more dominant over the woman, and this just makes the woman feel low and pressurized.

In most cases it is seen that whatever a husband says his wife has to do, but when the wife asks the husband well its up to the husband to decide whether he wants to do it or not. For example the husband asks for tea, the wife makes it, but if in once in a blue moon the wife asks for tea the man refuses or comes with a fowl excuse.
A husband can go out whenever he wants and sometimes doesn't even ask his wife, but if the wife asks to do something or go somewhere, the husband refuses makes an issue out of the situation and makes a stupid face.
A man can talk and say whatever he wants to his wife, but if the wife does the same back, shes the bad one and shes the one who has attitude.

Sometimes i think a women's life is so useless when shes married, and what respect does she have and what rights does she have. In some cases a women is like that from her parents house and then the same happens when she gets married.

Why is it that women can not speak up or be equal to men?

In a very few and rare cases this is also applied to dominant wives.

Archer

Are you talking about the past or the present.

smoothvibes

No its not like that anymorem, there was a time when it was real and true but now men and women got same status in society this situation and statement is valid for some lower profiles only.
I think we already got some married men here like admin, just4kix, lovelyme and many more.. lets wait for there posts

ShAdOwCoN

This is getting boring ... something other than marriage ?

smoothvibes

ok then you start up a post now

ShAdOwCoN

What shall i start ? ...How about " should nt queers be banned in India"

Preeti_20

Past and present as it still exists.

Its the past now as well, sometimes what you don't see seems as if it doesn't exist, but there are things like this which still exist. You may not have come across people who are like this which is why you think this.
Although India has come far and society is changing people have a mind set and it is why these things happen, sometimes what people have grown up to see think its right, so you cant say that this does not exist anymore.
Why do you think there is still domestic violence, and its not just in the lower profiles but also in educated people as well, it maybe you haven't seen the world yet and just referring to people who live around you and not people in general in and around India or the rest of the world.

If you find it boring post something else in another thread or create your own.

ShAdOwCoN

Srry ....Outta here

Archer

Wait for me. Don't leave me alone.

smoothvibes

I have seen this world and there is nothing like i never saw any fights in family or something i know this happens everywhere but still i think that we are talking about dominant nature not about other things know

Preeti_20

no i dont think its the nature, its the fact some males think because they men they are different from women, im not just saying this because im a female, but its a fact.

smoothvibes

I know this is fact but there are few males on this planet who prefer to treat females with same respect and status, I think i am one of them

Preeti_20

That good smoothvibes, only if every man was like that.

smoothvibes

If i am not wrong most of educated people are like that only know.

Preeti_20

sometimes it can also be the educated people who behave like that, as i mentioned it depends on what they think, what atmosphere they have been bought up in and many other things.

smoothvibes

yes i need to agree with you here, exceptions are always there na

just4kix

Education has nothing to do with this problem.

I have generally observed that those who are unable to dominate in the outside world take their frustration out by being dominating over their wives. Of course, the reverse is not necessarily true.

I also lay the fault on the upbringing and particularly the mothers. In a bid to re-establish the loosing (so-called) no 1 position in the female hierarchy, they cajole their sons to keep their wives under the thumb. A guy I know said in our group "Paaon ki jooti paaon mein hi rahni chahiye." (the proper place for the sandals is at the feet). And he said it with utmost emphasis and seriousness.

In the animal kingdom consisting of social aniamals, the social structure is always dominated by a matriarch - ants, termites, bees, wild dogs, hyenas, lions, elephants, ... What does that tell you?

While my advocacy is not reverse the structure but equal participation and responsibility will bring the best out of you and it will be good for the children and next generation.

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sb21pro

i agree, its not fully dependent on education

its the wat a person thinks

don't worry, things have gone a lot better as compared to past
and it will continue to get better

smoothvibes

The Guy who said this is the biggest looser you will ever come across in your whole life just4kix, honestly one should not talk like this, in fact one should not even think like think

It is really sad

Do you have any idea what makes them think that other human is not good to take same status or what makes them feel that females are sandals or shoes which we are supposed to keep under feet only.

ShAdOwCoN

I know i am not suppossed to be interested in this thread ....But could nt resist butting in ... only one post ...ok

Yes the above highlighted text has been proven by research .... I have also seen it with my own eyes ... Men who are intimidated by the outside world tend to be ultra strict with their children and wife .... Which is merely a form of Domination .....
incompetent fools they r